Thought i'd use this platform to get some views on a predicament that borders on shariah, family duty, muslim duty, and personal choice.
A proposal comes to a girl. Family is in admiration of this male suitor. And why not, he is staunch in his Islamic beliefs, has a good job, intelligent, friendly and respectful personality, and good character. He has all the important traits the Prophet SAW advised on the situation.
But problem comes in because the girl refuses the proposal, though she herself may be considered a practicing muslimah. But the foundations of her disapproval are that they cannot communicate with each other ? for some odd reason he just does not understand anything she says? yet it can be clear, concise, and non-ambiguous.
Girl is also an intellectual and therefore sees that as a serious problem, especially as she has been independent for some time and has some open minded views as well. So she wonders, if he doesn?t get her on the simple day to day matters, what chance is there on the deeper shariah rules and interpretations, or philosophical levels. Family say she is too western inclined, and has no faith and trust in Allah. And by refusing the proposal, se has earned the displeasure of her family. A double-edged sword.
Are there any Islamic grounds to her view? Does she have a foot to stand on?