(excerpt from) Some Advice To The Muslim Women by Shaykh Khalid Yasin from The Purpose of Life Collection DVD Video
"The muslim should not marry a non-muslim woman. That's #1. That's #1. Let's make this issue clear. Where Allah (swt) gave muslims the permission to marry women of the ahlul kitab and to eat their food; there are conditions of that - that that non-muslim woman should be a woman who herself was never penetrated, and she never engaged in any paramours ever, and she can not be a mushrikat. Three things: She was not penetrated before (so that means that she's virgin), that's #1. Secondly, she never engaged in any paramours with any man. (So that means what?) She's completely innocent, pure. And thirdly, she's not mushrikat (Mushrikat means what? - She's not associating any partners with Allah (swt)). So how many non-muslim woman will you find that fit that category? So, the muslim men should know first that if they marry a non-muslim woman - she has to fit some conditions. The other thing is (brothers be careful) if you marry a non-muslim woman in the non-muslim countries, she has priority over your children and if something happens to that marriage - 90% the chances (What, what do you think?) the children will go with her. So, if she's, if she's a Christian and she's a non-muslim and you're a muslim. So, on Sunday she wants to go to church. So, she will take the children to church. On Friday, you want to take them to Jumu'ah. She say, "No, I don't think you should take them to Jumu'ah, 'cause I'm taking them to the church. So, what will happen now? See, now you're in a trap. You should've thought about that before you dived into that situation. You was looking at her - you was thinking about her, but you wasn't thinking about the children, and you wasn't thinking about the complications. So, don't put yourself in that situation. 7 out of 10 of the marriages where the man marrys a non-muslim, he will lose the children. The children will wind up becoming kafirs. This is the record. So we don't recommend for the man to marry non-muslim women. That's #1, but if they do - this is their right - to dive into that trap (but I'm telling you brothers, if you jump into it - it's a trap). Now, I'm telling you brothers, if you marry a non-muslim women, but she's not going to church, she doesn't associate any partners with Allah, she's a clean woman, she is listening to you, and you believe there is a good chance for her to become a muslim - then it's hilal for you to do it. But my advice - if you think maybe she should become a muslimah; you should wait a little while and see if maybe she will. Because if she becomes a muslimah, most of your problems have been solved. But if she's not, she's a kafir, and has the support of her kafir family. Brother, you're in for some problems. Tie your seat belt on. That's all I can tell you."
"Insha Allah, I ask Allah (swt) to forgive me for anything I might have said excessive, anything I might have said that was my own opinion, or anything I might have said that was wrong, and if I said something and I had daleel for it - you take it. If I said something which I had no proof for it and you have evidence of it - throw it away. Don't worry about it, and don't be angry with your brother Khalid if he said something to the best of his intention. I didn't mean to say anything wrong to anybody. Insha Allah."
Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol. 4, 56 - THE BOOK OF JIHAD (Fighting for Allah's Cause); (4) CHAPTER. The grades of the Mujahidun (Muslim fighters) in Allah's Cause.
2790. Narrated Abu Hurairah (raa): The Prophet (saaws) said, "Whoever believes in Allah and His Messenger (saaws), performs Iqamat-as-Salat and observes Saum (fasts) of the month of Ramadan, then it will be a promise binding upon Allah to admit him to Paradise, no matter whether he fights in Allah's Cause or remains in the land where he is born." The people said, "O Allah's Messenger! Shall we acquaint the people with this good news?" He said, "Paradise has one hundred grades which Allah has reserved for the Mujahidun who fight in His Cause, and the distance between each of two grades is like the distance between the heaven and the earth. So, when you ask Allah (for something), ask for Al-Firdaus which is the middle (best) and the highest part of Paradise." [The subnarrator added, "I think the Prophet (saaws) also said, 'Above it (i.e., Al-Firdaus) is the Throne of the Most Gracious (i.e., Allah), and from it gush forth the rivers of Paradise.' "].
Subhaan Allaahi (Allah is Glorified), Wal-hamdu lillaahi (and the praise is for Allah), Wa laa ilaaha illallaahu (and there is none worthy of worship but Allah), Wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa billaah (and there is no might nor any power except with Allah).