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Posted on Mon, Apr 16, 2007 03:21

Assalamu alaikum. I am a revert who accepted al-Islam, the true Deen, almost one year ago, Alhamdulillah. I am currently working in South Korea as a soldier. Lately, I feel this overwhelming loneliness and despair. I work on a military base, and there are no other American Muslim women. I have practically no friends, as virtually everyone here is Christian. (We don't share the same values, i.e., I can't go out drinking or listen to the same haram music as before.) The few Muslimah friends that I have connected with was on a purely superficial level. As a result, I feel very lonely. The only people who have seemed to show unconditional love are the few Turkish expats, sympathetic to my plight as a foreigner in a foreign land. Korean revert women, familiar with being outcasts, show kindness as best as they can, but I still feel slightly left out, as they share their own bond as Koreans. I've always been a person who's wanted to surround herself with different people, different cultures and experiences, and I thought that being Muslim would only help me in that quest. However, my hopes have been dashed as I've been blown off and overlooked when it comes to invites to gatherings of sisters. Being the only American Muslim woman, it can be overwhelmingly lonely. My husband tells me to forget my pain, as I have him and that's good enough, but it's not quite the same. I've found that many immigrant Muslims in America tend to be very ethnocentric and don't want to bother with people who aren't the same race and/or culture as them. I've often met sisters, mostly South Asian, some Arab, but others also, who won't even return salaam to me. I've met some African sisters who looked at me and welcomed me with open arms, until they realized that I am American, not African. I never hear from them again. With the African-American Muslim community, it is the same. No one wants to try new things or talk to people outside of their neighborhood or culture. I'm also treated like a pariah by many Black Muslims because my husband is not Black African/African-American, and because I have interests other than just African-American culture. Even the mosques I've gone to are segregated! Where is the equality that Islam is supposed to embody? I've become disillusioned with Muslims in general. I also miss female companionship and I feel so alone. I often cry about it. I've prayed to Allah about this and I hope that He can give me guidance, but it hurts me so much when people treat me as if I'm not Muslim, not a human being with feelings and a heart, because I'm different from them. Why are so many Muslims so racist, hostile, and close-minded? Why am I not worthy to return salaam; can anyone from a Muslim background answer that? Why do other Muslims look at me as if I'm less of a person because I married someone whose skin color is different? Can anyone explain to me why people are this way when we are all supposed to be brothers and sisters?


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Posted on Sat, May 26, 2007 14:47

'The ppl you are describing are usually not worth spending too much time with' sorry i should explain that, it sounds terrible lol, sorry. Offcourse each person deserves to be loved and is worth something, we are all created by ALlah Almighy, what i meant was if you spend too much time with negative ppl then it can have adverse effects. Have patience and you'll meet positive, caring ppl. One day the positives will outnumber the negatives, and same ppl who were hostile to you before will join you. : )


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Posted on Sat, May 26, 2007 14:30

salaam sister, im in australia, a truly multi-cultural environment and we have same problem here too. The ppl you are describing are usually not worth spending too much time with. Let them be. There is a saying that goes 'you can't choose your family but you can choose your friends.' All muslims are brothers and sisters in faith, whether they like it or not. That does not mean that we all have same interests,education,family customs etc. So all you can do is be respectful to all brothers/sisters, pray for them that Allah opens their hearts/minds. You can't change a whole community all at once. However someone has to start the prcoess of communication so that can be you. If you have a skill and some time, start a program in your local area; english lessons for new migrants, club for bored housewives-sewing,make food for local homeless ppl, quran/hadeeth readings and discussion. Also, there must be some local community services looking for volunteers. Certainly by being involved in this way you can make friends who are non-muslim and also muslim. When others see you donating time/energy they will join in and hopefully and those barriers will be knocked down. Remember Allah Almighty is the One Who will reward you for your good actions, more ppl you help happier you'll be InshALlah. If you have good intention Allah Almighty will help you. Salaam : )


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Posted on Sat, May 26, 2007 09:50

Alhamdulillah, it's really great to hear so many points of view on this subject, all refreshing and quite valid. I must say, I have a renewed sense of purpose when it comes to strengthening my deen and reuniting the ummah, inshaAllah. You'll all be happy to know that I have gone out of my way to befriend some of those seemingly 'crabby' people at the local mosque here. I've found that for many women, they were shy and introverted in general, but warm and friendly once they opened up. For a significant number of people, language barriers made them reluctant to approach others. Nur, a wonderful Turkish woman I met here, never talks much or approaches many people because she doesn't know English very well. I did find out that she is fluent in Korean, as am I, and we got along famously once we started chatting. She is a hafiz, Mashallah! She even promised to help me learn how to read and recite the Qur'an, inshaAllah. Alhamdulillah! I also met a college student from Egypt, Hayam. Her English is also quite broken, but once I started talking to her, she was really eager to try and communicate and make friends with me. I told her that my husband is Egyptian and she was delighted and offered to show me how to make Egyptian food. I've helped her improve her English. So you see, reaching out to people has really been an eye opening experience. It has made me less quick to judge and dismiss them. Just as many of you mentioned, taking that first small step in breaking the ice is well worth it, Allah is truly Great and Wise!


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Posted on Sat, May 19, 2007 07:28

assalamualaikum I find that when i make no expectations i get no regrets... I love visiting mosques... i love the serenity in it, i love the sound of the echo of the Quranic verses when the prayer is done in congregation. And having visited several mosques whenever i travel, the first reaction is always the same.... People look at you from the corners of their eyes, they size you up, they are skeptical. they segregate ... But what i always do is i SMILE....and even if i don't get a smile back...I still SMILE...... Then i give the salam to them...and if i don't get a response, i repeat my salam... If no response .... I repeat louder, and louder till i get a response. If there are stubborn ones who still refuse, i have even voiced out and asked "...Are we not supposed to return a salam when we hear one given to us?'....and at this point, i would normally get my salam returned! :D When it is time for prayers, i would edge myself near to them, even in between their friends, if some were slow to get in line, and i can sense their surprised reaction.... but i go on as per normal... After prayers i would turn to the one on my left and right and offer my hand for salam (a practice the ladies do locally when they meet each other) and sometimes to MY surprise they even respond with a hug instead! Then i move aside to do my optional prayer and usually after i have finished, i turn to find some ladies, eagerly waiting to speak to me.... out of surprise of my boldness, out of curiousity of my whereabouts, out of reaction for the ice i have broken......... and from there comes a start of an acquanitance, or in some cases... a wonderful friendship! My point in relating this is that sometimes we have to be the ones to make the first move and be a bit bold. Like what one of the brothers have said, some of the people feel insecure and apprehensive....so someone has to make the first move....so why not us? And importantly, we should prepare ourselves not to expect any warm reaction or pleasures from them, so if they do not respond positively, we are still not disappointed. We know we did no wrong...so just be happy with pleasures from Allah swt. And whenever our conscience are clear, we should not be disturbed or troubled. And i also find that if we are not dependant on humans for our pleasures, and having a book as a companion, it will never disappoint us. I may be alone and noone may want to talk to me, dine with me or be friends with me....... but as long as i have a book with me, my meal is splendid, my time well spent, i had increased my knowledge, i enjoyed expanding my imagination..... from the contents of the book... Sometimes the book i am reading even helps start new friendships because curious people have just come up to me to ask what it is that i am reading that makes me laugh to myself, or cry, or wrinkle my eyebrows in such concentration ! :) Allah, the Exalted, has always worked in wondrous ways for me in my encounters!


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Posted on Sat, May 19, 2007 03:08

First off I really would like to say that I am appalled at this inhumane treatment that we Muslims are projecting towards each other but at the same time I really admire and have a great amount of respect for you. I am not saying this just as a Muslim but as a human because I maybe atleast partially understand the time you are going through. I know this is a little long for a blog probably everyone but I want everyone to read it if they have a chance. It not only gives us some insight but it gives us something to think about. As far as your concern goes I am a Muslim and I was raised that way too so probably that answers something and I also agree with you that to a certain extent we are a very segregated and divided community although I think it will take time for Muslims to get in sync with each other. But let me say this too that don?t let the treatment that you get from any misguided Muslims that are inconsiderate make you think anywhere that Islam by itself is projecting this. I think that a lot of us that grow up with Islam take it for granted. In reality Islam teaches simplicity and a standard way of living life. I am sure you know that than a lot of us that grew up with Islam itself because a lot of us don?t even bother reading up on Islam and even simply performing prayers. I am not saying I am a good Muslim either ? its just that each time I think of doing something wrong somehow I look back and try to fix my thinking. ?I think? that being a true Muslim lies in your heart and you can probably see that almost all the religions of the world preach the same ? and for that I think that, the thing that distinguishes Islam from the other religions is ?how to live this simple way of life.? I am not a person that is knowledgeable either and have read only a few books on Islam. I read from the Quran and try to make sense of what I can but if there is something complicated I leave it and keep it in my mind. Personally I want to first read up on Medieval Islamic history before I start reading more on other things related to Islam so that I can understand it more for my own personal knowledge and as an interest. There are so many people writing books on Islam without a trace of backup and knowledge relating to the real things that underlie in Islam such as even the 5 pillars themselves. How many people actually even follow that? That is the reason I leave some hard things for later since I am not that knowledgeable to figure it out and might mis-interpret. Now I know some of you guys reading out there are going to say then why did I bother then saying that ?Islam teaches simplicity? earlier. The reasoning behind it was that a lot of people interpret those things in different ways and they might not have a large amount of knowledge on the fact to be explored. However, getting back to your questions I am not surprised with the situation you are facing although I feel horrible that you are in such a bad position :( Since I am Indian I will maybe give you some insight relating through what I have seen in some of our community. As far segregation goes I realized that a lot of us are sort of insecure and unsure of what to do. I think this is the stem in reality for a lot of segregating acts that follow and since with time it becomes second nature for this person to rather distance themselves from the other person since they are so disconnected with the others except for the few people they associate with. I have seen a lot of times how a lot of people in our community don?t fancy going to the mall to buy stuff since they know they don?t fit or are shy or probably due to their style or something other than that. I think this is something more that is based on the subconscious level too. However I will tell you one thing for sure if you approach these very people and talk to them, soon enough they will be the friendliest people ever. Maybe that goes to show why I based my thinking like this. I think it?s just a matter of communicating with them on their level ? and I am SURE soon enough you will learn that you just have to try to figure out some simple things on their psychological level. So don?t feel you are alone with being segregated. This is not only my opinion but an opinion of a professor in one of my ethics and collaborative leadership classes in university. Personally I think a lot of us are very uncommunicative and are shy due to various reasons such as language, color, accent, different styles and a large amount of other different reasons. Once you begin understanding that barrier you will realize what I mean, and I think that goes for other societies too, to a large extent. Maybe thats why you are also facing this elsewhere than the US because if you were in the US you would know how to communicate with others there. I think as Muslims a lot of us are very segregated in our thinking a lot also due to the fact of being misunderstood in the world. You will probably realize that in a few decades us Muslims will become more acceptable in lets say western societies since we will understand each other and communicate on the same level. I think its all about breaking the ice with the other person and rather letting them know later of how they were which can make them more truly genuine to you. These are some facts that I can think off the top of my head. I think what we fail to realize as a Muslim society that the more misunderstood we will think we are the more we will end up giving an idea of as well, because we are not communicative at the same level as the other person might be. As for simple segregation and prejudice I think that it also is a large part of the Muslim society as a whole too. It?s a reality and I see it with my own eyes. Considering the fact that I live in Canada should probably give you an idea of where I base my ideas since Canada is one of the most culturally diverse countries. I know Muslim friends here that simply are either Shia or Sunni and I know of guys and girls that would not associate with a person in the other sect I guess since they are not ?interested? in them. For anyone who is reading this blog I would like to say that if you do think that we have differences and disagree with me ? Personally I think it does not matter because we are still ?Muslims? ? and as far as racial profiling and any sort of prejudice or segregation go I hope we as a society don?t continue doing this horrible acts whoever it may be. I hope some of us put a thought into the actions we do too because a lot of the things that Allah has told us to do are ?common sense.? Over all I think you just need to give it a little time ? I think you are a strong person and I am sure that if you have done so much you will last till you succeed in your objectives :) I believe that self-criticism is a good thing too and if anyone disagrees with me I would not mind hearing from them and I would not mind correcting myself. Please feel free.


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Posted on Sat, May 19, 2007 03:06

First off I really would like to say that I am appalled at this inhumane treatment that we Muslims are projecting towards each other but at the same time I really admire and have a great amount of respect for you. I am not saying this just as a Muslim but as a human because I maybe atleast partially understand the time you are going through. I know this is a little long for a blog probably everyone but I want everyone to read it if they have a chance. It not only gives us some insight but it gives us something to think about. As far as your concern goes I am a Muslim and I was raised that way too so probably that answers something and I also agree with you that to a certain extent we are a very segregated and divided community although I think it will take time for Muslims to get in sync with each other. But let me say this too that don?t let the treatment that you get from any misguided Muslims that are inconsiderate make you think anywhere that Islam by itself is projecting this. I think that a lot of us that grow up with Islam take it for granted. In reality Islam teaches simplicity and a standard way of living life. I am sure you know that than a lot of us that grew up with Islam itself because a lot of us don?t even bother reading up on Islam and even simply performing prayers. I am not saying I am a good Muslim either ? its just that each time I think of doing something wrong somehow I look back and try to fix my thinking. ?I think? that being a true Muslim lies in your heart and you can probably see that almost all the religions of the world preach the same ? and for that I think that, the thing that distinguishes Islam from the other religions is ?how to live this simple way of life.? I am not a person that is knowledgeable either and have read only a few books on Islam. I read from the Quran and try to make sense of what I can but if there is something complicated I leave it and keep it in my mind. Personally I want to first read up on Medieval Islamic history before I start reading more on other things related to Islam so that I can understand it more for my own personal knowledge and as an interest. There are so many people writing books on Islam without a trace of backup and knowledge relating to the real things that underlie in Islam such as even the 5 pillars themselves. How many people actually even follow that? That is the reason I leave some hard things for later since I am not that knowledgeable to figure it out and might mis-interpret. Now I know some of you guys reading out there are going to say then why did I bother then saying that ?Islam teaches simplicity? earlier. The reasoning behind it was that a lot of people interpret those things in different ways and they might not have a large amount of knowledge on the fact to be explored. However, getting back to your questions I am not surprised with the situation you are facing although I feel horrible that you are in such a bad position :( Since I am Indian I will maybe give you some insight relating through what I have seen in some of our community. As far segregation goes I realized that a lot of us are sort of insecure and unsure of what to do. I think this is the stem in reality for a lot of segregating acts that follow and since with time it becomes second nature for this person to rather distance themselves from the other person since they are so disconnected with the others except for the few people they associate with. I have seen a lot of times how a lot of people in our community don?t fancy going to the mall to buy stuff since they know they don?t fit or are shy or probably due to their style or something other than that. I think this is something more that is based on the subconscious level too. However I will tell you one thing for sure if you approach these very people and talk to them, soon enough they will be the friendliest people ever. Maybe that goes to show why I based my thinking like this. I think it?s just a matter of communicating with them on their level ? and I am SURE soon enough you will learn that you just have to try to figure out some simple things on their psychological level. So don?t feel you are alone with being segregated. This is not only my opinion but an opinion of a professor in one of my ethics and collaborative leadership classes in university. Personally I think a lot of us are very uncommunicative and are shy due to various reasons such as language, color, accent, different styles and a large amount of other different reasons. Once you begin understanding that barrier you will realize what I mean, and I think that goes for other societies too, to a large extent. Maybe thats why you are also facing this elsewhere than the US because if you were in the US you would know how to communicate with others there. I think as Muslims a lot of us are very segregated in our thinking a lot also due to the fact of being misunderstood in the world. You will probably realize that in a few decades us Muslims will become more acceptable in lets say western societies since we will understand each other and communicate on the same level. I think its all about breaking the ice with the other person and rather letting them know later of how they were which can make them more truly genuine to you. These are some facts that I can think off the top of my head. I think what we fail to realize as a Muslim society that the more misunderstood we will think we are the more we will end up giving an idea of as well, because we are not communicative at the same level as the other person might be. As for simple segregation and prejudice I think that it also is a large part of the Muslim society as a whole too. It?s a reality and I see it with my own eyes. Considering the fact that I live in Canada should probably give you an idea of where I base my ideas since Canada is one of the most culturally diverse countries. I know Muslim friends here that simply are either Shia or Sunni and I know of guys and girls that would not associate with a person in the other sect I guess since they are not ?interested? in them. For anyone who is reading this blog I would like to say that if you do think that we have differences and disagree with me ? Personally I think it does not matter because we are still ?Muslims? ? and as far as racial profiling and any sort of prejudice or segregation go I hope we as a society don?t continue doing this horrible acts whoever it may be. I hope some of us put a thought into the actions we do too because a lot of the things that Allah has told us to do are ?common sense.? Over all I think you just need to give it a little time ? I think you are a strong person and I am sure that if you have done so much you will last till you succeed in your objectives :) I believe that self-criticism is a good thing too and if anyone disagrees with me I would not mind hearing from them and I would not mind correcting myself. Please feel free.


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Posted on Fri, May 18, 2007 17:56

Assalamualeykum I'm really sorry about what you have to go through. I could relate to you in a way because I see so much Muslim segregation in the state I'm from. What's funny is the way the Mosque are not even in contact much and they're less than 3 miles away from each other. And by the way most of the mosque are filled only with one kind of ethnic group and speak that language there. I don't see much unity amomg them even though they're mostly from East African origin. I think it has to do with not appreciating diversity and different cultures in our religion. I hope it gets better for you and know that people like me are working to show the beauty of Islam by teaching the beauty of diversity.


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Posted on Mon, May 07, 2007 02:10

Assalamualaikum whwt Dear Sister, Alhamdulillah to be a muslimah ... geting `inayah' ( shown of truth path ) from Allah swt is most greatful .. since as a choosen one ... you are so special comparing to others born muslim like me .. you are free from sins ... just like a new born child. Islam is so great and bautiful ... only we that tarnishing islam due lack of islamic knowledges ... and to be truthful muslim is not that easy without sacrifying a lot of thing in our daily life. Sister, islam is for all humanbeing ... not for the arabs ... is for you and many other peoples who received tauhidiah from Allah swt. So, you don't be afraid to be alone or left behind ... insyallah ... time goes by and you will meet some muslimah to get along ... a truthful muslim will always caring each other ... as to the companion / sahabath. Fill your time ... learn islam most ... get to know islam ... learn and read Al-Quran ... The final revealation ... read with `Tajwid' ( rules of reading Quran ) you can feel the sweetness and calmness granted for Quran reader ... this is the promise fron Allah. There's a lot of thing about islam ... the way of life ... if you get to know islam well .. you will see that you wont waste your time deliberately infact you used for useful thing ... for examples giving alms, night prayers, read Quran and hadith, helping others, respecting eldest / parent , respecting husbang or wife, live in loving manner with husband and children, phrase to Allah swt, remembering our beloved Prophet M uhammad saw and many others. Sister, thing to do as muslim is to be 1) Firstly, very carefull and particular about food ... avoid HARAM food ... unslaughter food without Bismillah or subahah food ( Uncleaned ) 2)Secondly, your wearing attire MUST be free from HARAM materials 3)Plenty of ibadah and doa ... seek guidance from Allah until your last breath. Sister, there's many thing to say ... but until we meet again ... My final saying is ....... alhamdulillah to be a muslim ... but are we really a truthfull muslim ... do we feel god loving inside us ... or do we love rasulullah ... are we near to god ... did we rely our faith to Allah ... who are we ... the answer is always to get to know Allah ... learn Islam and get to know islam ... Wassallamualikum whwt Your's Suardin Hj. Ali Malacca West Malaysia


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Posted on Mon, Apr 30, 2007 08:51

Assalam Alaikum Wa RahmatuAllah , Dear sister American4Islam, I would be honoured to be your friend , I agree with sister Zoba40's explanation completely. I may suggest that : visit or invite your Muslim friends instead of waiting for being invited or visited by them and maybe you can frankly express to them how you feel. And keep on visiting and meeting your non-Muslim friends for other than Haram activities. Or you find yourself some interesting activities. Find out about korean cuisine for example :-) Salam Alaikom Wa RahmatuAllah


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Posted on Mon, Apr 30, 2007 08:50

Assalam Alaikum Wa RahmatuAllah , Dear sister American4Islam, I would be honoured to be your friend , I agree with sister Zoba40's explanation completely. I may suggest that : visit or invite your Muslim friends instead of waiting for being invited or visited by them and maybe you can frankly express to them how you feel. And keep on visiting and meeting your non-Muslim friends for other than Haram activities. Or you find yourself some interesting activities. Find out about korean cuisine for example :-) Salam Alaikom Wa RahmatuAllah


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Posted on Mon, Apr 30, 2007 06:22

Allah says in the Qur?an, (O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other (not that you may despise each other). Verily the most honored of you in the sight of God is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And God has full Knowledge and is well-acquainted (with all things).) (Al-Hujurat 49: 13) 2. Religion is not just some rituals but it is building good conduct and good morals. (It is not righteousness that ye turn your faces towards East or West; but it is righteousness to believe in Allah and the Last Day, and the Angels, and the Book, and the Messengers; to spend of your substance, out of love for Him, for your kin, for orphans, for the needy, for the wayfarer, for those who ask, and for the ransom of slaves; to be steadfast in prayer, and practise regular charity, to fulfil the contracts which ye have made; and to be firm and patient, in pain (or suffering) and adversity, and throughout all periods of panic. Such are the people of truth, the God-fearing.) (Al-Baqarah 2: 177)


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Posted on Fri, Apr 27, 2007 18:16

ya ayuhal muslimun! let us better ourselves to become true muslim as we claim to be. let us not ask why others are as they are but by becoming true muslims ourselves with ALLAH's will , people around is will change....


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Posted on Fri, Apr 27, 2007 08:56

I think it is the ignorance and the lack of understanding of us Muslims, about the essence and the true teachings of Islam that make us not accepting each other the way we should. Every Muslim knows that, he or she has to pay great attention to new Muslims. We should be extra kind to them, and make them feel welcomed in our hearts,communities and mosques. I think for us Muslims in western countries, we all tend to bond with people whom we were used to from back home. We, after all, in a strange land among strange people that are different from us. So, it is easier to interact with people that share the same language, accent, back ground and race, as us. We also come here with our own prejudices towards fellow Muslims from other part of the Muslims world. Muslims of every country think that, they are the best Muslims with the best race out there. Some others think that, they have the ownership of Islam. And no body else worships or have the knowledge about Islam as good as them. We all forgot that, our prophet Mohamed (pbuh) was sent as a Guidance and Mercy for all Humankind. Our prophet Mohamed (pbuh) commanded us to promote understanding between people of different races. In many of his addresses, even in his final sermon, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) stated that superiority lay not in race, but in godliness, as Allah states in the verse, [Mankind! We created you from a male and female, and made you into peoples and tribes so that you might come to know each other. The noblest among you in Allah?s sight is that one of you who best performs his duty. Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.] (Al-Hujurat 49:13) Two hadiths report that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, ?You are sons of Adam, and Adam came from dust. Let the people cease to boast about their ancestors.? (Abu Dawud) ?These genealogies of yours are not a reason to revile anyone. You are all children of Adam. No one has any superiority over another except in religion and taqwa (godliness).? (Ahmad) During his final sermon, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) called on Muslims in the following terms: ?There is no superiority for an Arab over a non-Arab and for a non-Arab over an Arab; or for white over the black or for the black over the white except in piety. Verily the noblest among you is he who is the most pious.?


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Posted on Fri, Apr 27, 2007 08:49

assalamu'alaikum my fellow muslim.im born muslim and unlike u less isolated in terms of religion but rejoice for Allah look upon u with his grace when u continue to hold on to islam when all around u is kuffar. think of Allah!zikir . Allah is Great and No other god only Allah. and Allah will lighten ur heart and loneliness, insyaAllah.


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Posted on Thu, Apr 26, 2007 00:52

Please don't come in here preaching Christianity to me. Christians are 100 times worse; part of the reason I left Christianity is that I couldn't deal with the hypocrisy, backbiting, self-righteousness, and ignorance of the origins and reasoning behind their own beliefs! Yet, they always try to preach to others. How many Catholics or Jehovah's Witnesses have you befriended as a fellow Christian, tell me that? As a Christian, I was always taught that Catholics aren't even Christian, and that Jehovah's Witnesses are misguided and that we should never talk to these groups because they don't know Jesus and would only lead us astray! Praise be to Allah (SWT), he sent us prophets like Jesus, peace be upon him, who taught us to seek refuge in our Lord, not him or any other man, because only Allah (SWT) is All-Powerful. In Islam, whether we be Shi'a or Sunni, Salafi or Shafi'i, we are all Muslims. Allah (SWT) made us perfect, but unfortunately we don't always follow Sirat al-Mustaqiim. Allahu Alim.


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Posted on Wed, Apr 25, 2007 15:59

As-Salaam AlaikumSister: Your blog made me feel very sad for you. I make dua to Allah for your happines and to remove your dissillusion of Islam. Ameen. I can only imagine what life if like for you, but Allah rewards us for our trial in this life with blessings of the hereafter. Cont. to reach out to other muslims. Maybe you can utilize a few of the internet sister goups and you will be suprised how many sisters can identify with you. You are not alone. I am a thousand miles away from you in Philadelphia and will allways send you salaam and words of good tidings. May Allah make this easy for you and bless you with the compainship that you need. Also, cont. to give the salaams to the muslims that you meet. The sin is on them when they don't greet you back. The Prophet( salalllahu alayhi wa salaam) said: You will not enter Paradise until you believe, and you have not believed until you love one another. Shall I tell you of something you can do to make you love one another? Spead the greetings of Salam amongst yourselves." You are my sister in Islam. Your are dearer to me than my own kafir sister. I love you for the sake of Allah and only want good for you.. Your sister in deen Salafisister


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Posted on Mon, Apr 23, 2007 09:41

Salams, I want to agree with this issue. I am white American and my husb is Pakistani, but even then I don't fit in, actually now it feels worse because I can't related to christian americans or muslim pakistanis! I'm in the middle! LOL I wish the Islamic community in the US were not so segregated, they all have their cliques and I often feel left out no matter what.


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Posted on Sun, Apr 22, 2007 10:33

Salam sister, It was very nice chatting with you that day. I really enjoyed it. Please keep in touch.


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Posted on Sun, Apr 22, 2007 10:18

Assalamualaikum, Words of Allah in Holy Quran, 21:92, Verily, this brotherhood of yours is a single brotherhood, and I am your Lord and Cherisher: therefore serve Me (and no other). FROM THE TRANSLATION OF THE QURAN: UMMAH: this is best translated by Brotherhood here. "Community", "race", and "nation", and "people" are words which import other ideas and DO NOT quite correspond to "Ummah". Our attention has been drawn to people of very different temperaments and virtues, widely different in time, race, language, surroundings, history, and work to be performed, but forming the closest brotherhood as being men and women united in the highest service of Allah. They prefigure the final and perfected Brotherhood of Islam. ALLAH KNOWS BEST. *** Please note the teachings of Prophet Muhammad(s.a.w), (Prophet Muhammad Last Sermon). Sister in Islam.


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