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Posted on Sat, Aug 12, 2006 19:17

How can i convince him??? i have loved him almost a year, and he know it, but he is in love with someone else, a married woman, who ran away and married another one... but he can not get over her, i have said to him that forgive her and get over, but he does noet, he has no feelings for me, even though he had feelings for me once... but he somehow can not get away from memories of her X, i want him so much and marry him, what can i do? please give me advise...


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Posted on Wed, Jan 10, 2007 15:04

asallamoalikum,i feel your pain,u know what,take a baseball bat & smash his car,no don't just joking.put your trust & pain in Allah swt,i know its easy to say CZ we r not in your shoe but follow the advise from Aries76,do istikarah & leave it on Allah,u will b surprise how Allah made impossible things possible,turn your energy & sadness towards Allah,Allah will turn him back or he will turn u back insh'allah,may Allah solve all our problems & give us hidaya ameen


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Posted on Tue, Jan 09, 2007 20:29

Assalamualaikum sister, Sister if you really want him back in yo life then here's what you need to do... U need to ignore him when he comes to you... since you fell in love with him and he got u easily...he has no value fo u right now...as there is always more value for those that come with a lot of difficulty... so ignore him...do not talk to him...even when he wants you there as a friend...then he will realize how special you are for him...especially when he's turned down by his X. This may take some time but... soon he will start calling you more than usual...and soon he will ask you fo a special relationship...make sure that u dont ask him fo special relationship...let him come to u...I am sure he will...Its just a matter of time... Take Care sister


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Posted on Fri, Aug 18, 2006 19:29

Please do not lose your dignity. Men always go for such women. It is also human nature, when you cant get something you long for it. Get over it my dear and love someone who is worthy of your love.


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Posted on Mon, Aug 14, 2006 07:55

Assalamu Alaikum I have COPIED this from a web Salat-l-Istikhara This "prayer for guidance" is often used to help in important decision-making Anytime a Muslim is making a decision, he or she should seek Allah's guidance and wisdom. Allah alone knows what is best for us, and there may be good in what we perceive as bad, and bad in what we perceive as good. If you are ambivalent or unsure about a decision you have to make, there is a specific prayer for guidance (Salat-l-Istikhara) that you can do to ask for Allah's help in making your decision. Should you marry this certain person? Should you attend this graduate school? Should you take this job offer or that one? Allah knows what is best for you, and if you are not sure about a choice that you have, seek His guidance. The Prophet Muhammad said, "If one of you is concerned about some practical undertaking, or about making plans for a journey, he should perform two cycles (rak'atain) of voluntary prayer." Then he/she should say the following du'a: Translation: Oh Allah! I seek Your guidance by virtue of Your knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have power; I have none. And You know; I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things. Oh Allah! If in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this matter*) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs, immediate and in the future, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And ordain for me the good wherever it may be, and make me content with it. Transliteration: Allahumma inni astakheeroka bi ilmik. Wa'astaq-diroka biqodratik. Wa'as'aloka min fadlikal-azeem. Fa'innaka taqdiru wala aqdir. Wata lamo wala-a lam. Wa'anta-allamul ghuyoob. Allahumma in kunta ta lamu anna (hathal-amra*) khayul-lee fi deenee wama ashi wa ajila amri wa'ajilah, faqdorho lee, wayassirho lee, thomma-barik lee fih. Wa'in konta ta lamo anna (hathal-amra*) sharrul-lee fi deenee. Wama ashi. Wa ajila amri. Wa'ajilaho. Fasrifho annee. Wasrifnee anh. Waqdur leyal-khayr haytho kan. Thomma ardini bih. * When making the du'a, the actual matter or decision should be mentioned instead of the words "hathal-amra" ("this matter").


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Posted on Mon, Aug 14, 2006 07:44

Assalamu alaikum bash5061 By the way you got some good advice from the comments below. Unless this relationship is all in your mind, I think he is not firm with you i.e. he hasn`t told you consistently and explicitly that he doesn`t want a relationship with you, that`s why you are still hanging in there. This is not honesty though you might be deceiving yourselves that both of you are honest with each other. Honesty comes with true and right intent. This particular relationship is clearly holding you back - he is holding you back though you may not realise it.. right now both of you are fooling around with each other. I don`t know if he is still seeing you but if he is not then you are refusing to respect his feelings that he does not want to be with you. What you should be certain of is that he has told you he has no feeling for you and doesn`t want to be with you and you have accepted this relationship on his terms - it`s not really a very good future for you there when he probably knew all along that he didn`t want a future with you in the first place but you are still hanging on to a future with him. You have to get a hold of yourself and make a decision to end this, this is not defeat, it`s a victory for yourself. "Our decisions determine us." If your strong and truthful here this will help you to develop your character and better, honest relationship (s) in the future, Insha Alla. What is there to regret when you have done the right thing? Alternatively you can ask for a future with him and a commitment (with all the baggae that goes with it and a possible future breakup) and if he still says no, and you still want it, then you should see a shrink to help you sort out your feelings. Pray to God with sincerily to help with your feeling too. God is the best of helpers.


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Posted on Sun, Aug 13, 2006 16:21

salaam no, i will regret it all my life, if i give up now, there has to be something... have you not hear about someone in my situi will regret it all my life, if i give up now, there ation??? Bash


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Posted on Sun, Aug 13, 2006 11:51

Dont waste your time, you deserve better......


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Posted on Sun, Aug 13, 2006 07:53

your following a desire impossible to fullfil.you must believe that Allah will provide someone else for you and dont run after ghosts.live is not like in the movies.There is always someone out there you have to be open for it.


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Posted on Sun, Aug 13, 2006 00:48

oh! i think you should forget him! you sure he not love you! i hope you can understand you cant enforce him to love you! you should be strong now!


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