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Posted on Sat, Jul 08, 2006 02:07

Assalamu 'Alaikum. Dear brothers and sisters,what can i do to boost my morale?i'm feeling empty,sometimes thinkin' to myself why am i always feeling down.everyday is like the same to me.somehow or rather i feel as though that i am not myself these days.seems to me like there's no meaning in life,nothing to look forward to,etc....u know that kind of thing(s)?.God knows truly how i feel.what can i do to have more confidence in myself?what can i do to have more self-belief or increase my mood and morale?is there any dua' i can read or refer to in times like this?

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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2006 22:18

bismillah [13.28] Those who believe and whose hearts are set at rest by the remembrance of Allah; now surely by Allah's remembrance are the hearts set at rest.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 16:28

Assalamu alaikum warahmatulla wabarakatu Because there are duas people recommending you recite I just thought I copy this article below I saw in a website - as this strange site doesn`t allow to name websites I won`t bother but God bless the many muslims who create all the splendid websites with tremendous amount Islamic information. This article below is COPIED from a website. "La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah" There is no power of transformation and might except through the Divine - Sayings of Prophet Muhammad, blessed be his soul. This phrase is used as chanting after prayer by muslims to bring the consciousness of the Divine and to re-align our mind with the grand mindfulness. The chanting of this phrase is said to have many cures and the least of such cure is worry and distress The magnificent phrase la hawla wa la quwwata illa bi Allah is mentioned numerous times in the hadith (sayings of Muhammad) as being highly regarded and highly recommended by the Prophet Muhammad. The phrase is a part of daily prayers for many Muslims, and is a common phrase in ceremony and dhikr. It is not uncommon to find the phrase la hawla wa la quwwata illa bi Allah translated simply as there is no power or strength except through Allah. However that translation fails to capture the grandeur and deeper significance of this magnificent phrase. Translating the word hawla simply as power is an over-simplification. The Arabic root h-w-l depicts all manner of change and transformation. The root h-w-l has led to a wide variety of words, but they all share this common thread of change and transformation. Certainly it is true that transformation and change require power, but power alone is not an adequate translation.... change and transformation are the keys to this magnificent phrase. Progress is only achieved through change and transformation... and spiritual progress requires the highest degree of change and transformation. We may wish to change, but we alone do not have the power to make such changes. Such change and transformation can only occur through the tahw`l (transformation) of Allah. That is to say, true change and transformation can arise only through the awesome and glorious powers of Allah. Here are some literal translations of the phrase la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah that incorporate the idea of change and transformation: ~There is neither change nor power except by means of All?h. ~There is no transformation or strength except through All?h. ~There is neither progress nor might except through All?h.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 25, 2006 00:09

Assalamu 'Alaikum. Dear brothers and sisters, Thank you for your good advices and comments.there's always ups and downs in life.maybe this time round God decided to test me for certain things.hopefully with the dua'(s) you taught will help me reduce my burden. God is great.He is the King of Kings in these worlds and hereafter.Insyallah i will be better.thanks again. Assalamu 'Alaikum.


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Posted on Sat, Jul 15, 2006 08:04

Wa alaykum Salam Brother; Let me write down a nice Ghazel for you by Mevlana Rumi Ad-Din. " Didn't I say, "Don't go there; I am your Friend. In this mirage of existence, I am the Fountain of Life. Even if anger takes you, a hundred thousand years away, in the end you will return, for I am your goal. Didn't I say, " Don't be content with earthly forms; I am the designer of intimate chamber of your contentment." Didn't I say, " I am the sea, and you are a single fish; don't strand yourself on dry land; I am your clear sea." Didn't I say, "Don't get caught in the trap like a helpless bird; I am the power of flight-your feet and your wings." Didn't I say, "They will waylay you and make you cold; I am the fire and your warm desire." Didn't I say, "They will implant their qualities in you until you forget that the best qualities are here." Didn't I say, "You do not know from what direction your affairs are put in order." I am the Creator beyond directions. If light is in your heart, find your way home. If you are of God, know your Benefactor." ~Mevlana Jalalludin Rumi~ In order words dear brother, in times of emptiness and despair, seek solace in Allah. Draw closer to Him in performing your ibadaah and dhikrullah. The brothers and sisters here have given you very good pointers on the du'as to read. Give it a try and insya'allah may Allah fills the emptiness of your heart with His Light. Barakallahu Feeki, Nour


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Posted on Thu, Jul 13, 2006 10:52

Asalamu alaikam Masha'Allah good advice from the above posts also look for good company people who are active in deen and sit with ulema and pious people Insha'Allah that will boost your morale and read Quran and also read this ayat if you fell down HA'S BA'N ALLAH WA NAI'MA WAKEEL.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 13, 2006 08:06

Assalamu Alaimkum, If you read "HamduRabi" blog on "Zikr - Rembering Allah (SWT) The Proper Way" (started on 1 July 2006) and his other blogs he gives advice on duas -you can search on the internet on "duas" -there are many sites. 1.DU'A AT THE TIME OF DISTRESS - "Has -Bi -Yal-Laa-Hu Wa Ni'- Mal Wa-Keel". (Allah (SWT) is sufficient for me and He is the Best Helper). 2.FOR REMOVING WORRIES According to Imam Moosa Kazim (a.s.) for disappearance of worries and poverty one should recite ten times after subah morning prayer, this Dua:- - Sobhaanal-Lahil Azime Wa Be-Hamdehi Astaghfirool-Laha Wa As'alohoo Min Fazlehi (The Almighty God is pure and I begin with His praise. I Pray salvation from Him and Supplicate His Blessings). 3.FOR WARDING OFF CALAMITIES If any one recites the following Dua a 100 times daily, Allah will ward off 70,000 calamities including worries and grief`s from him/her. According to another narration, he/she will never be distressed. - Bismilla Hir Rahma Nir Rahim - Wa La Havla Wa La Qoovata Illa Billahe (In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful. There is no might and no power except with Allah). 4.FOR REMOVAL OF POVERTY AND WORRIES A reliable Tradition from the Holy Prophet (s.a.w.a.) states that a person who is severely afflicted with poverty should recite. - La Hovla Wa La Qoovata Illa Billahil Aliyil-Azim (There is no power and strength except with Allah, The Grand, The Great).

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Posted on Thu, Jul 13, 2006 07:06

Assalamu Alaimkum, Try to find joy and meaning in every action you do and enjoy the moment. I suppose we don`t have to look for meaning too much - we can decide what`s meaningful in our life. I see that Singapore has many parks!- probably nap or walk in there can help you recharge your energies! Every one has only 24 hours a day so make some time even if your busy to have a meal with your family, meet up with friends and meet new people. Prioritizing what`s important in our lives helps us to focus better as well as giving us comfort. I see that you are in a relationship -everyday is a new day so maybe do new things together like sports eg. Rollerblading, picnic or traveling. If it`s certain things like job, people that are making you feel like this write down the problems and then solutions and make the changes necessary litlle by little. If it`s people, however crazy they treat you if you calm down and treat them kind in return at least you will have a peace of mind. More quotations on life`s meaning, if it helps. - Everyone can be great, because everyone can serve. Martin Luther King - The purpose of life is to live a life of purpose. Richard Lieder - The question is not whether we will die, but how we will live. Joan Borysenko - Our deeds determine us, as much as we determine our deeds. George Elliot. - How far that little candle throws his beams! So shines a good deed in a weary world. William Shakespeare - Seeing yourself as you want to be is the key to personal growth. I have copied the article below (similar to the "truthseeker2000" comment on food). Buy a fruit smoothie maker and have your favorite smoothie, should definitely help the mood, I think! [Food Swings - By David Templeton At least 40 different neurotransmitters have been identified, regulating nerve functions including mood. Though many of these are manufactured naturally within our bodies, there are four neurotransmitters that are made directly from food components. These are serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine, and acetylcholine. The amino acids in different foods cause different neurotransmitters to be released, causing subtle--and sometimes not-so-subtle--shifts in our mood, performance, behavior, and energy level. "A person who is feeling blue or feeling sad and doesn't know why can certainly be helped by appropriate changes in their diet," affirms Petaluma nutritionist Najine Shariat. "But if someone is eating in order to feel good, there is a danger of slipping into disordered eating, snacking on things like high-fat carbohydrate foods, that could make the mood even worse. It takes a bit of education, but diet is an excellent way to improve one's mood." Whole grain breads, containing tryptophan, help boost levels of serotonin, the soothing, mood-elevating brain chemical that just happens to be the one that Prozac stimulates. Turkey, tuna, and chicken are rich in tyrosine, a booster of the chemicals dopamine and norepinephrine, promoting improved levels of attention, motivation, and reaction time. The vitamin C in oranges and grapefruit helps raise your brain's levels of norepinephrine as well, reducing irritability while increasing your energy. When capsaicin, that hot stuff in chili peppers, burns nerve endings in the mouth, the brain receives pain signals; so it secretes through the body those wonderful natural painkillers called endorphins, giving us a gratifying, morphine like rush. And everyone knows that chocolate affects the same part of our brain that is tickled when we experience feelings of love; this is due to chocolate causing the release of the comforting chemical phenylethylamine, along with the serenity-causing neurotransmitter serotonin.]


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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2006 13:08

Assalamualaykum Brother Brother ,today in this world everyone lives in worries.If you ask a small school going kid he will say 'iam tensed reg my homework',if you ask an old me he has someother story,if you ask a rich man he lives with health or family crisis,if you ask poor man is alwayz tensed abt his survival.Every mankind on this world is tensed and worried abt their own lives. Allah says to momin tht if ur a momin its not compulsory tht i wont be testing you,offcourse you will be tested and have to bear troubles in life,even tough how better ur taqwa is.My above words r not exactly translated. So brother recite atleast 10ayaths of quran daily ,do isteqhfar daily as Allah stresses on isteqhfar to us,recite this as many times as u think better for u ,iwill prefer atleast 200times "Astaghfriullah ha robbi min kulli zambin waqatyatin wa a tubu ilaik" and make durood , as much as you like. After tht brother inshallah ucan find big difference in your daily life. "offcourse peace to the hearts will only be gained thr Allah's zikr". Forgive me if ihave told anything wrong. Jazakallah


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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2006 08:12

Assalamu Alaikum "boyrocker" Here's more from the other blog that I have copied. SEPTEMBER 26, 2005 REFLECTIONS ON LIFE Here are two questions for you. 1. What is the meaning of life? 2. What is the best thing one can get in life? At 4:28 PM, Shaik Abdul Khafid said... Thanks for visiting my blog Sadiq. 1. What is the meaning of life? God said through his beloved Prophet Muhammad: "I was a hidden treasure and I desired to be known. So I created the creation in order to be known." Therefore, in my humble opinion, I think the meaning of life is to attain experiential knowledge of God. How do we attain this? God says in the Qur'an: "I have only created Jinns and men, that they may serve Me" [51:56] And God said through His Prophet: "My slave does not draw near to Me with anything I love more than what I made obligatory for him. Then My slave continues to draw near to Me with superogatory actions until I love him. When I love him, I become his hearing with which he hears, his sight by which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. If he asks of Me, I give to him. If he seeks refuge with Me, I give him refuge." 2. What is the best thing one can get in life? Experiential knowledge of God the Beloved. At 4:41 PM, Sadiq M. Alam said... Thats absolutely very beautiful khafid. Thanks and saalam. At 12:07 AM, Stacey said... These are questions that I definitely do not know the answers to, but I have thoughts on. What is the meaning of life? This I certainly do not know. But I believe the meaning of life is to find out the meaning of life. It is almost a paradox. What is the best thing one can get in life? Happiness. Love. Both of those things united into one. At 7:33 PM, Sadiq M. Alam said... Dear Sir, 'Who am I and why I am here?' is such a profound and mind boggling question ! Perhaps it was the first question for all the truly enlightened personalities of all ages. From Abraham to Muhammad, from Buddha to Krisha. Seeking the same answer, Abraham became the father of Monotheistic ideas; Jesus and Muhammad, Buddha all went to meditation in desert, cave and forest respectively. At 5:03 AM, Tiel Aisha Ansari said... I've never felt that life needed to have "meaning". I try to make every action meaningful: Why am I doing this? Will it help someone? Make the world better? Bring me closer to God? As for the best thing one can get in life: First, basic material needs: food, shelter, clothing. Without those, it's hard to get very far. After that? Guidance. At 2:32 PM, Rezwan said... I will try to give my 2 cents: 1. What is the meaning of life? From the solar systems to our internal organisms all have been created (by God) in order to serve different purposes. It is for us to harmonize with this order. So why do we need a meaning? "Everywhere one seeks to produce meaning, to make the world signify, to render it visible. We are not, however, in danger of lacking meaning; quite the contrary, we are gorged with meaning and it is killing us." - Jean Baudrillard French Postmodern Philosopher, Writer. How could drops of water know themselves to be a river? Yet the river flows on. 2. What is the best thing one can get in life? Being humble. When you respect & love others (even your enemy) you are bound to get respect in return and your life will be surrounded with love and happiness. And Sadiq I must say that you are a very humble person.


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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2006 07:38

Asalamu Alaikum "boyrocker" All this is from another blog which I have copied here as it might interest you. TUESDAY, APRIL 25, 2006 FIRST BE EMPTY ... A person came to the Prophet Mohammed and said,"I don`t want this religion. By God, take it back. Ever since I entered your religion I`ve had no peace for a single day. My wealth is gone, my spouse has left, my child cannot be found, my respect is destroyed, my strength is sapped, even my lust has disappeared." Mohammed answered, "What did you expect? Wherever our religion goes it does not return without uprooting that person and sweeping clean their house". "None but the purified shall touch God." So long as there remains in you a single trace of self-love, God will not show His face to you. You will not be worthy of His presence. You must become wholly indifferent to yourself and the world, so that Friend can show His face. So, whenever our religion lodges in a heart, it will not withdraw its hand until it brings that heart to God and severs from it all that is untrue. The Prophet went on to say to that person,"You have no peace because sorrow`s purpose is to empty you of previous joys. So long as food fills your stomach, you are not given new food to eat. During fasting, we eat nothing. When we are empty and hungry, then we are given food. Be patient and grieve, for grieving is the emptying of yourself. After you are empty, then joy can enter a joy with no sorrow, a rose without a thorn, a wine without crop - sickness. :From Fihi Ma Fihi (Discourses) of Rumi. posted by Sadiq M. Alam SEEK ONLY HIS FACE What is it that truly make sense to you? Everyday doesn't your preferences change? Thus one by one they all changes. Until one day you realize that all is vanity, truly they are all vainity of vanities. "For the life of this world is nothing but a fleeting vanity" And its only the Reality of the Real is the 'only substance' what will remain. Isn't it said already my friend that, "Everything will perish save His Face." "Only the Face of your Lord of Might and Glory will remain"? So what you seek my friend in vain? Seek only His Face. MysticSaint. Singapore


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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2006 03:32

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters, Dear brother (Author), I try to understand your feelings and emotions. We as humans and servants of Allah, we have the purpose to live in this world and we also have the purpose to leave this temporary world. The world after our death is waiting for us also. That why Allah sent to us His Holy Books and His beloved Prophets and Messengers to guide His servants. Dear brother, coincidence that we live in the same tiny island Singapore. By looking at your photo, I'm not sure if you are a Malay Muslim Singaporean. Anyway, I would like to give some guides. If you are interested in some Islamic books, dua books and etc, in Malay Language, you could go to the Geylang Serai area or Joo Chiat Complex to get some Islamic books. In Joo Chiat Complex alone, ground floor and 2nd storey you could see a few shops selling religious items and Islamic books and books of Dua. Some of the shops examples, Haji Hashim, Toko Warisan you could search for them. Try to choose some good and reliable Islamic books TO FEED YOUR SOUL AND TO INCREASE YOUR IMAN AND TO NEAR TO ALLAH, Insyah Allah. But if you are interested in English Islamic books, you could try to go to The Muslim Converts Association of Singapore (Darul Arqam) located in Geylang (opposite of Malay Village). This place you could search a lot of Islamic books and duas in English. There are few good duas, if you could search specially if you are feeling downs and moody. Another advice I could give try to attend religious classes in mosques and Islamic Associations. By this way it could fill up your pass times and gain knowledge and put yourself near Allah. If possible try to involve activities in the mosques and Islamic Associations. By doing so, Insyah Allah will benefits yourself and other people especially the Muslim society. Every mosques and Islamic Associations in Singapore are quite active in their religious activities. Its up to you to involves in them. Your self motivation is more important than the external motivation by others, so the choice is yours. Hope one day, you are identified not as 'boyrocker' but a pious and religious gentleman, Insyah Allah. Nothing is impossible if you have the will power. May Allah bless you and guide you to the right path, Amiin. Yours sincerely, Servant of Allah, (Singapore)


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 16:38

Assalamu Alaikum warahmatula wabarakatu "boyrocker" If you search on the web for inspirational quotations you will find plenty - just to give you positive thoughts. -When you are feeling depreciated, angry and drained, it is a sign that other people are not open to your energy. Roman, Sanaya - To keep the body in good health is a duty. . . otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear. Buddha - Give light, and the darkness will disappear of itself. Erasmus - There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so. Shakespeare, William - Fall seven times, stand up eight. - Japanese proverb -When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard," I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?" - Sydney J. - The true way to soften one's troubles is to solace those of others. - Madame De Maintenon -The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from the old ones. - John Maynard Kynes - No one can give you better advice than yourself. Cicero __ - It's not the load that breaks you down, it's the way you carry it.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 16:16

We have been provided with many foods that have many medicinal benefits. Take the banana for instance. Not only does it contain natural sugars (glucose, fructose, and sucrose) which will give you a boost. It also contains a type of protein that converts into serotonin which causes you to relax and improves your mood. And as most know it also contains potassium, which normalizes the heartbeat, sends oxygen to the brain and regulates your body's water balance. When we are stressed our metabolic rate increases, which reduces potassium levels. I try to eat one in the morning, and one in the afternoon or miday. Also eat fish, which contains Omega3 fatty acids. This helps to regulate moods. They enhance the ability of the brain's cell receptors to comprehend mood related signals from other neurons in the brain. Also eat iron rich foods just in case of anemia. Drink as much water as you can, fast, and if possible take a vegatable-based cleanser. I hope I have been helpful. Remember, you are never alone.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 15:58

Assalamu Aliamku Warahmatulla Wabarakatu - Insha Alla, someone will respond to you with some good advice and duas (as I don`t know too much). - Dua One whose affairs have become difficult: Allahumma La Sahla Illa Ma Jaaaaltahu Sahla, Wa-Anta Tajaaalul- Hazana In Shi/Ta Sahla. (O Allah, there is no ease except in that which You have made easy, and You make the difficulty, if You wish, easy). Prayer when in Distress: Ya Haiyyu Ya Qaiyoomu Birah Matika Astagheesu. (O Thou living, ethernal one! Unto thy mercy do I appeal) - Our prophet tells us that if you walk towards God He will come running towards us. - And when My servants ask thee concerning Me, I am indeed close (to them): I respond to the dua (prayer) of every suppliant when they calleth on Me. [ Quran 2:186 ]


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 05:48

Assalamo Alaykom brother, Reading what you wrote made me sad for you, I can sympathise with your feelings. I am sure we all feel down sometimes, it is part of living. The thing is though, is not to submit to these negative feelings and use duaa and quran to find comfort and purpose. Brother, I wish I could help you with a specific duaa from the sunnah, unfortunately I only know them in Arabic. However, any duaa you make from your heart with faith that Allah is listening to you, will be answered inshaallah. Read quran, pray and make duaa. Not just your 5 daily obligatory prayers but the sunnah prayers too, and if you can do more, then do more. There is a hadith that tells us (to the effect of), when we want to speak to Allah, we pray, and when we want Allah to speak to us, we read the quran. Increasing these acts will give you inner peace inshaallah. I want to tell you something very important. You seem lost wanting to find your way, and maybe wanting some purpose in your life. Brother remember one thing: There is no better source than Allah for the questions you asked here in your blog. Many people may be able to give you advise, but no one can make you feel better, or give you peace, or give you confidence as you have asked. Only Allah has the power to do that. Bottom line brother, get closer to Allah with prayer, quran, and duaa, and inshaallah with patience and sincerity, things will improve, step by step, day by day inshaallah. Never despare in Allah's capability to change your life. Just ask for it. May Allah guide you, and give you peace and tranquility in your heart. Wassalamo alaykom wa rahmat allah wa barakato.


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Posted on Sun, Jul 09, 2006 05:03

If there will be permission of sending Phone no than I will definitely write. I can just say to you believe in God and always ask Allah for help. After reading your problem I feel pain and I pray to God that God may solve your problem. ALLAH HAFIZ


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