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Posted on Tue, Mar 04, 2008 11:58

If someone who was suffering from a terminally ill disease, such as cancer, were to propose to you, would you still marry him/her even though you know your time together may last for just a short time? The mother of a friend of mine is trying to arrange her to be married to her best friend's son who is suffering from cancer and who doctors say may just have a couple of months to live. The parents are trying to fulfill a dying wish of the guy to be married before his time is up. My girlfriend likes the guy as a friend but she is uncertain if she wants to go through the stage of falling in love with him as a husband and then knowing that she will be suffering the loss of him very soon. Should she plunge into the pool or just stay ashore on safe land?


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Posted on Wed, Mar 26, 2008 08:50

LOL!...Good One! I should ask her to convey this to the guy and his match maker!


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Posted on Sun, Mar 16, 2008 12:05

salams Thanks for sharing the story. I have not heard of it before but it is a pity that the family members of the Prophet (pbuh) were killed. Goes to show that if Allah has decreed something, noone or nothing can change or prevent it. There is no power or might except by Allah's Will. Well my friend has rejected the marriage. Initially she was almost prepared to go through with it until she found out that the guy had offered a large sum of money to the matchmaker and he had many conditions of the physical conditions of the woman he wants to marry. Some of the conditons included that the female had to be fair skinned, have long flowing hair, slim built, etc, etc. (Seems quite demanding for a person in his situation!!) Anyway, my friend discovered this by accident because she recently had her hair cut very short and when the matchmaker saw this, she became furious, and that was when the truth came out. My friend felt that the guy was looking at women more like an object rather than a person. Among the conditions, nothing was mentioned about the iman of the female other than that she must look after his mother after his death and she will not be entitled to any of his monies/possessions if she remarries within 5 years after his death!!


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Posted on Wed, Mar 12, 2008 11:59

salams good reply, especially the view that she may want to help him complete his iman. This is something personal and i think only she can decide herself because the aftermath of such a marriage will be borne by her. Being young, she is a bit afraid that she may remain single all her life, as in general, most men prefer unmarried women. On top of that, she still has to look after her in-laws even after the demise of her husband as she will be considered as being part of his family.


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