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Posted on Wed, Jan 17, 2007 08:22

Is it true that for a Muslimah, if she wants to get married, she needs to have her father's consent....or the marriage cannot take place? I know of a girl whose parents are very much against her intention to marry a guy from a different race. She has told them that she will go ahead with the marriage with or without their blessings, but her father had said that as long as he is alive, he would never give his consent to her marrying the foreign guy, and as such in Islam, the marriage can never materialise for her?? Out of curiousity...does this ruling applies also in the case of a muslimah who was previously divorced, and if she intends to remarry, she needs to get her father to bear witness of his consent for the 2nd marriage too?


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Posted on Fri, Aug 29, 2008 20:07

All human beings are part of ALLAH creation. I do not think anyone has the right to make differences among us. If a Muslim men or women speak of nationality as a concern that person is somewhat an ignorant, because all human beings were created by ALLAH. To feel differences against a human being is racism and if I am not mistaking a sin. People of this nature should supplicate to ALLAH for forgiveness and to help them find peace among others.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 25, 2007 09:10

As salaamu alaikum, From what I remember reading on this subject is that it is best to marry someone your parents approve of. Not that you have to, it is just best to. You can read the fatawas on this from the lajna in the kindom. There is a sahih narration where an nabi SAWS said do not prevent your daugthers from marrying if someone suitable ask to marry her. For that would cause great corruption in the land. I believe it was narrated something like that. Anyway the point us that if the brothe has good deen, good character then marry your daughters to them. If we look at the examples of the sahaaba and follow them, which we are commanded to do anyway, they married blacks who were former slaves...think about that. The best tribe of the Arabs marrying former slaves. Not only that, but the best of creation marrying his SAWS daughter to a former slave. So who are we? Nationality means nothing for those that follow these clear examples. I never met a person that choose where or to whom they were born, so why hold that against anyone. I've met people who wouldn't want their daughters or sons marrying Americans for whatever reason, but when you look at them you don't see signs of the required sunnah(sometimes). My advice us to consult with an imam that clearly follows the Qur'an and Sunnah, have him call the ulema in the kingdom or elsewhere on the sunnah and get a personal fatawa.


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Posted on Thu, Jan 25, 2007 01:10

Salam... I believe you don't need your father's consent, but it would be nice to have his blessing for the marriage. I don't think is good that the father refutes his potential son-in-law just because of his race. i hate to say it, but that's racist. I personally feel that if the guy is a good Muslim & a good person for the daughter, she should go for it, that is all that should matter.


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 20:01

asallamoalikum,in this type of strict culture situation,man needs to step up & don't put all the pressure on women to convince her parents after that if parents still against it then go ahead & have nikah & leave this moamila between her parents & Allah,parents need to realized that they r not playing Islamic role for her child or they would rather allow her to stay single in west like million other women & play a destructive role for her self,family & society instead of halal marriage?in some cases i have seen once u have kids,grandmother or maternal grandmother can't resist seeing her grandson even against her husband will & kids bring family to gather CZ every one loves kids


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Posted on Wed, Jan 24, 2007 10:31

Salams, Well in the case of my frined, she is of arab descent and she wants to marry an American and for this fact her father is against it... Her father is against the thought of having American in laws!! But the question is: Is is true that for a born muslim with living parents, the biological father is needed for his consent or the marriage is not considered legal in Islam? My friend is also concerned about the legitimacy of her children if she proceeds with the marriage against her father's wishes.


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Posted on Mon, Jan 22, 2007 08:07

asallamoalikum,as we all know our race our culture tops our faith which is completely against sunnah. if your parents wants u to marry some one they like they must have your consent.in case of reverts she don't need her nonmuslim parents consent to marry a Muslim guy but she do need some practicing,mature & reliable wali to watch her back or help her making that decision.your parents consent is important if its not in the way of u & your deen.if u study the early Islam & life of sahabah as we know in gazawah(battle where prophet was present)so many sahabah were in situation where father was standing against son & son was against father,but sahabah only say one thing to there father or son that if i would see u,i wouldn't b hesitant for second to take your headoff.that was a relation of sahabah to Allah swt compare to there families.sunnah allows u to have legal relation but your parents don't want u to have,now u wanna b close to Allah but your parents clearly standing in your way so ignoring them is not sin to me but if they advising u to look into guys financial situation,how he is going to support u?or u just in love but ignoring the real fact of life & your parents advise then u going to b a loser sooner or later lol. may Allah guide us CZ we can't get no where with our own nafs or as we call wisdom insh'allah


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