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fatima22
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Posted on Thu, Nov 12, 2009 06:04

A male colleague with whom the lady gets along very well suddenly confessed his feelings for her and though she likes him too, there is the age factor problem. Although many have commented that the lady looks very much younger than her age, the fact is that the lady is more than 10 years older than the guy..... So the lady is wondering... Can it really work? ... A much older women with a younger guy? And it is not about being just a few years apart ... What if the difference is more than 10 years?? Would the guy be able to take the constant pressure from society? Imagine when the guy is 40+, the lady would be 50+ ... and further down, when the guy is 50+, the lady would be 60+ ! Can the guy's family accept the lady? Worse still, the lady is as old as the guy's eldest sister ! Curious to hear from the males' perspectives ...or from any live experiences .....


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Posted on Sat, Apr 13, 2013 03:21

We do underestimate much the creation! Considering that a true man, his piety and life experience does not come from life worthy living of this material world, life expenses, whether he is old or young, intelligent or bigger! In terms of age nowadays is a common thing to see a big man acting like a little kid, and a little kid acting like a big man and vice verse; praising and relaying on creation!" Many times we claim to believe in the truth(unseen) but honestly most of the times we only believe in falsehood(creation), that is disillusion. May God forbid relying in other than Him, ameen. In reality a true man, his piety and life experience comes from God, the foremost His Will, and what an individual in a positive manner accepts from God weather in hardships or at easy, trusting in God and relaying in God Alone. God is The Greatest! There is no power except by God.

Let's increase our emaan! Just asking, how old will we be in the hereafter??? Verily this life is a test.

Indeed all praise is for Allah, we praise Him, we seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. We seek Allah’s refuge from the evils of ourselves and from our evil actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can misguide him and whomsoever Allah misguides, none can guide him. I bear witness that none has the right to be worshipped except Allah, Alone, having no partner, and I bear witness that Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is His slave and His Messenger.



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Posted on Thu, Mar 21, 2013 12:46

I can accept with older woman in 1 case, if there is a strong love



Mostly i am asking, can i find my love from dating sites? can it works?. it is a hard question to answer. I am man suffer from loneliness and i hope to find my soul mate. So i search from net but didn't here it succeed before. i hope to success and find her

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Posted on Mon, Jun 06, 2011 23:58

what about Mohammed and Khadijah?



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Posted on Sat, Apr 16, 2011 09:33

My last boyfriend was 25 years old and I was 46. He thought I was also 25 when we first met. Well, he actually wanted to marry me! Perhaps I should have said yes but eventually I think he would show interest in younger women of his age, which he has shown. So I left. It did seem to hurt him but he was able to recover from the trauma quicker than me. :-)


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Posted on Thu, Mar 03, 2011 21:59

yo what ever is clever didnt aliah tell you age aint nothing but a number


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Posted on Sat, Dec 04, 2010 18:42

I have no issue with the older woman/younger guy relationship. In fact, that is what I prefer. Most think I am 29 even though I am 39. Many guys I talk to don't have a problem. I usually do not date older than myself.

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Posted on Fri, Dec 03, 2010 13:22

mmmm its a bit confusing matter i guess but i think it depends on two of the people if they really want to commit themselves to each other and talk though everything id say why not, we can only guess but peoples personality is a big factor and i would say things are very different in marriage life ... i donno if they do get married best of luck from me :)


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Posted on Mon, Nov 29, 2010 20:26

Salaams I have lived that life, it is good for a while then at some point they begin to act their age. I'm sure some women do the same. But if it feels right maybe it works when you find the right person.There is someone for everyone.


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Posted on Fri, May 28, 2010 08:53

I see no problem in this age difference men age 30 +older marry 18 year old girls so why can t a older woman marry younger man? also most seem to forget it seems that our prophet's first wife was so much older . I am 35 I do not mind younger man than me as long as he is in same mind frame as me and I think to many stress age ,now i would not go marry a 18 year old mind you bit ten years no bad in differences


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Posted on Wed, Apr 21, 2010 00:49

im in a same situation,many friends ask me 2 reconsidr it also, i think there is a lot of truth in tis ,,by the tym im 50 she will be 60 and guess wat we havent started a family yet coz we just meet recently ,,,,


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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 18:02

oh my, lets not forget that


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Posted on Thu, Feb 04, 2010 18:01

Don't be so Dim


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Posted on Wed, Dec 30, 2009 12:53

i am 35 years old single and ready here i am watin yuo it okay ,,where are yuo?i like yuor photo


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Posted on Wed, Dec 30, 2009 12:50

i give yuo face pic..i am 35 year old single and loocking


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Posted on Thu, Dec 03, 2009 03:33

Salaams Thanks all, for your responses. I say the same thing - that our prophet's first wife was so much older - - but then again -- he was Our Prophet (pbuh) and he possessed such an ideal character which alas! if most men were like him, the ladies today would be dispensed with much heartaches ! I also agree that age is not a testimony of maturity as some much older persons can be ridiculously childish. However the lady cannot help but fear that over time, the younger guy may be pressured by society and the reality of having a wife who is physically much older than himself. There's also the common situation that the sparks and excitement that most guys feel at the on start of a relationship, often loses their potency after the 'chase' is over ...


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Posted on Tue, Nov 24, 2009 10:49

helloo i am muhammad from belgium would like to talk to u and know more about if u dont mind please contect me i am single and seeking some one in my life goving u my no i think is not i good idea need to talk first to know each other ok then i will wait u r answer thanks


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Posted on Sat, Nov 21, 2009 08:29

Salaams, (i'm new..)I found the topic interesting. Ive also been told i look young for my age, and worse, i also get suggestions and proposals from much younger men. I think it is a very personal decision and not 'one size fits all'. I think that when it comes to marriage, it is okay to allow for personal prejudices (ageist, even racist?) as it is more important to be honest to ourself than it is to be politically correct. I AM an ageist, and dont think i will ever be able to face the pressures of being 'the older woman'. Most men lack maturity as it is......


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Posted on Thu, Nov 19, 2009 06:24

Salaams, I am nearly 40 and I often get told I look younger..All the proposals I have had have been from much younger guys. The age difference is a factor but then aren't you being ageist? Maturity is about life experience and I personally know much younger people who are often more mature than the older ones.It is about compatability rather than age.And dont forget please that our prophet's (pbuh) first wife was 15 years older than him..


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