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Posted on Mon, Mar 19, 2007 11:41

Assalamualaikum Was praying in the mosque a couple of days back and i was attracted by the recitation of the brother who led the congregational maghrib prayer. It was so beautiful that i found myself crying while praying, even tho i did not know the meaning of the surahs he recited because i do not know arabic well. I only know those surahs which i have memorised. The same thing happened the next day. I do not know whose voice it was because we could not see the males praying, but the more i heard his recitations of the quran, the more interested i became in the person. I found myself going back to the mosque and hoping he would lead the prayers each time. I asked the ladies in the prayer room about him but noone knew much, only that he is new in the neighbourhood. My friends say i am weird to be attracted to a guy just for his recitations. I had intended to ask the imam of the mosque about him but my friends said it is not becoming of a muslimah to go asking about a male. It is always the male who should seek the lady, not the other way round..... So, ethically and islamically, we females should resign to just be the hunted, not the hunter???


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Posted on Tue, May 15, 2007 18:22

I see no reason why a woman could not be the hunter and the object of her desire the prey. A good hunter follows its prey, knows its habits, then places themselves in the place where their paths cross. Then they decide whether they want to claim the prey. If not the prey goes on its way, maybe not even aware they were on the dinner list or menu.


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Posted on Sun, Apr 08, 2007 10:41

Nothing wrong with getting in touch with the Quran reciter or the Prayer leader. You may gain a great brother in Islam who could help you in your quest for Islamic knowledge. Or he could be your great future husband (lol). Women at the time of our Prophet Mohamed (pbuh) used to ask men for marriage when they like them. I think it is the traditions and the men dominant societies in all cultures ( not just Muslims) that make it hard and embarrassing for women to initiate relationships. So, go for it, and you have nothing to loose and all that you may gain.


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 07:46

Asalamu Alaikum Sister Fatima Our Mother Khadijah (RA) hired our Nabi (SAWS) and was so impressed by his character that she proposed marriage to him, so I do not think it is wrong to inquire about a brother, Allah forgive me if I am wrong. I think what is of utmost importance is the adab which is used when showing interest, and I think that most people can understand that flirting, etc. is not proper, but inquiring about someone, well a sister could wait a long time waiting for someone else to take the initiative :) Another thought I had was that I am attracted to the same thing, the outward appearance deen and taqwa, that a brother has, but you have to be careful that it is not just for show, i.e. Shaytan is the 3rd best knower of Qur'an. This works for us sisters as well, some of us have the greatest show of haya in public, but behind closed doors it may be another story :) just my 2cents.


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Posted on Mon, Mar 26, 2007 03:18

If you were the hunter, I'd love to be your prey..........


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 12:12

Salamualaikum Well, i would not go that far as to give myself away in marriage.......but just curious as to why there is a consensus that it is even wrong for a female to want to hunt for more INFORMATION about a guy? Just questioning about the guy is like taboo, and even more incredulous to them is that my interest in the person was sparked from hearing his beautiful quranic recitation!! In any case i just enjoy hearing the beautiful recitations, like the ones i hear from Mekka too, but it doesn't mean asking about the imam means i am interested in marrying him!


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 10:40

As salaamu alaikum sis, Sometimes it is better to ask people for proofs when their speaking about the deen. Someone's opinion is not deen, period. There was a sahaabiyat who offered herself to an nabi SAWS. There is also a narration from 'aaisha that states that it isn't befitting a sister to give herself away in marriage, nor can another sister give a sister away in marriage, only the prostitutes do this. The two narrations do not conflict because they are two different things. One is an offer, the other is the actual marriage.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 25, 2007 10:38

As salaamu alaikum sis, Sometimes it is better to ask people for proofs when their speaking about the deen. Someone's opinion is not deen, period. There was a sahaabiyat who offered herself to an nabi SAWS. There is also a narration from 'aaisha that states that it isn't befitting a sister to give herself away in marriage, nor can another sister give a sister away in marriage, only the prostitutes do this. The two narrations do not conflict because they are two different things. One is an offer, the other is the actual marriage.


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