Was watching a movie about how a guy chose to follow his malicious wife against his own mother. My thoughts turned to us human nature. Why is it that for most cases, the most important person in our life will shift from our mother to our spouses after marriage?

At birth we are helpless and if not for our mothers, we would not be able to survive or grow to be the person our partners fall in love with.

Then after marriage, if faced with a situation to choose between our mother and our spouse  more...

Was watching a movie about how a guy chose to follow his malicious wife against his own mother. My thoughts turned to us human nature. Why is it that for most cases, the most important person in our life will shift from our mother to our spouses after marriage?

At birth we are helpless and if not for our mothers, we would not be able to survive or grow to be the person our partners fall in love with.

Then after marriage, if faced with a situation to choose between our mother and our spouse/partner, we have a tendency to choose the later.

We do not miss our mother as much as we miss our spouse or girl/boy friend.

We can go for days not calling or talking to our mother but the minutes seem like hours when we do not talk to our lover.

We can go for months, even years, not seeing/visiting our mother, but we must see our lover every day, sometimes even more than once.

For at least 15 to 20 years of our life, we leaned on our mother for love, care and support. She was there for us come rain or shine, in sickness or in health. Then when we are able to walk on our own, we throw away "our walking stick" and we take an oath to our spouse that "in good times or bad times, in sickness or in health, till death do us part"! less...

assalaamalicum ,
fatima how are u?
well a man should give the rights to his parents and everyone and treat them good.And it is husbands responsibility to spend time with wife too,our huzoor (pbuh) use to maintain his timings to spend time with respective wives.he(pbuh) dont use to meet any one after ISHA TILL DOWN PRAYER.in afternoon he use to spend some time with wives,if man dont spend time with his wife then this can raise problems.if a man maintain his
timings to spend time with his paren  more...

assalaamalicum ,
fatima how are u?
well a man should give the rights to his parents and everyone and treat them good.And it is husbands responsibility to spend time with wife too,our huzoor (pbuh) use to maintain his timings to spend time with respective wives.he(pbuh) dont use to meet any one after ISHA TILL DOWN PRAYER.in afternoon he use to spend some time with wives,if man dont spend time with his wife then this can raise problems.if a man maintain his
timings to spend time with his parents wife and other people then there will be no complains from anyone. less...

salaamaleikum sis,

good topic to make people realize their faults, i remember one saying of our holy prophet (pbuh), he mentioned seven types of people which are the most bad humans, one of them is a man who sees his wife (or girlfriend) as "qibla".

he does not give other people their rights, like parents, bros/sis e.g.

may allah protect us from becoming like those people, ameen