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Posted on Wed, Aug 23, 2006 15:23

The only times i regret i am a muslimah.... are the times when i am unable to perform the salahs (prayers) because of the monthly cycles that females have. I miss the the cherished moments of feeling the closeness of Allah especially when my forehead touches the ground and i am speaking to Him. I miss conversing with Him at least 5 times a day, like i usually do on normal days. I miss not being able to do my Tahajjud prayers when i happen to wake up in the middle of the night, because praying during this time is so peaceful and undisturbed that it enables me to engage in maximum concentration. I noticed that spiritually, i feel"starved", and things do not seem to go as well, in comparison to those days when i am able to perform the salahs. That is why at times like these, i envy the muslim guys, as they have no "missed periods" with their Creator. Like the saying: "If you want to talk to Allah, perform Salahs (or spelling "salats"?). If you want Allah to talk to you, read Quran"


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Posted on Sun, Mar 04, 2007 16:55

As salaamu alaikum sister Mayakhan. It is quicker(easier) for a sister to have a khula than a brother pronouncing talaq. Why? Because the brother has to wait for her to be clean and pronounce talaq. Then wait for her to have her menses and become clean again. And then pronounce talaq. And one more time to go on and come off her menses and then pronounce talaq. The sister on the otherhand has to be given a khula. She can't just tell her husband I divorce you. So if that happens, the sister waits for her menses and comes off...done. If the husband won't permit the khula, she can go to a judge. If in a kufr country, she can go to the imam and he can permit the khula. It isn't just the wife that is asked to change their ways...whoever isn't acting according to this deen is asked to change. Sister you and all sisters and brothers must remember that an nabi SAWS said, "be careful who you marry your daughters to. Marriage is like slavery." the wife has to obey her husband not the otherway around. And yes we all have to obey Allah wa Rasul Allah SAWS.


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Posted on Sun, Mar 04, 2007 16:05

As salaamu alaikum Suardin and other believers. Where'd you get that a sister can't read aloud the qur'an while on her menses? I know she is not allowed to touch the kitaab, but not recite is a new one on me. I ask because that is news to my eyes in this case, and the wife and I looked into this matter pretty deeply after we married. What we've found is that if it is a translation then a woman my touch during this time. Also books of tafsir can be touched. If the pages aren't purely qur'an, then the page can be touched...according to the highest authority body in the kingdom.


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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 18:21

Jazakallahu khairun sister Sabrii Nice to know there are some who feels the same. For a moment i thought i was abnormal! Salams /fatima


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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 16:15

Assalamualeykum I think some of the people misunderstood what she was saying. She is grateful of what Allah bestowed upon her and she does appreciate it. In my situation I feel the same way. I feel empty and lack of spirituality. So please understand her and don't take words out of context. No hard feelings please.


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Posted on Tue, Sep 12, 2006 05:56

Assalamualakum sister alfiafad You have misunderstood me. I am not ungrateful for the fact that women have periods...On the contrary i feel honoured that Allah has given us the abilty to bear children. It is a wonderous ability. I love children and when i see pregnant mothers i always feel so happy for them and amazed that a child is growing inside them. I love interacting with kids, especially at the very young age. They are innocent, curious, genuinely surprised by new things and honest in their feelings. And i do not doubt that our Creator knows best what is good for us when He created certain abilities and disabilities for each one of us. What i meant was, during the times i am unable to perform the salahs, i really miss the undescribable sensastion of feeling such closeness to Allah (swt) especially when i place my forehead on the ground in prayer and cry my heart out to HIM. It is like missing your loved ones when the spouse/children are away and you cannot wait till the time you can be with them again. No doubt, i can still feel close to Allah (swt) through dzikir and reading but it is not as equal as to the times like especially in Tahajjud prayers. During this time, the surrounding is almost silent. All is asleep. Nothing disturbs your concentration and when you perform the salah you can almost feel His presence. My regrets will be felt even more during Ramadhan when there would be a period when i cannot join in the fast and Tarawih prayers......


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Posted on Fri, Sep 08, 2006 12:41

Dear sisiter, No drought you are good practicing Muslim and I have full of respect on you. Remember one thing we know nothing but Allah knows everything. Surrendering to Allah means to accept all his commands and forbidden by heart. If we do not accept even a single order of Allah (sbw) it reflect the fact that we have not achieve the complete Iman yet. And stan was given power to influence us even in a good faith. But we must be aware about it. May Allah (sbw) help us being protect from stan. Wassalam Wa rahamatulla. your Muslim Brother


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 23:14

AWhen ye rise up for prayer, wash your face, and your hands up to the elbows, and lightly rub your heads and your feet up to the ankles. And if ye are unclean, purify yourselves. And if ye are sick or on a journey, or one of you cometh from the closet, or ye have had contact with women, and ye find not water, then go to clean, high ground and rub your faces and your hands with some of it. Allah would not place a burden on you, but He would purify you and would perfect His grace upon you, that ye may give thanks. 7. Remember Allah's grace upon you and His covenant by which He bound you when ye said: We hear and we obey; and keep your duty to Allah. Allah knoweth what is in the breasts . Dear sis a proof 4u Allah would never put a barrier in between, most will disagree but most are in trouble 2,


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 20:27

Bismillahirohmanirohim Assalamualikum whwt Dear Fatima, How are you today ? Hopefully in care of ALLAH AM and redha. ALLAH AM knows most ... it seem god have gave a lot of previllages and opportunity to muslimah camparing to muslim brothers ... since muslimah have a very great responsibility ... towards producing outspring ... the ummah. Sunnahtullah ( Allah AM will )the world goes as to god rules that is :- 1)Muslimah bared so great difficulties during pregnancy and giving birth for sake life and death. 2)Taking care of `Amanah' (trust) for her husband - pride & wealth 3)Bring up her children to be a truthfull muslim For this few reasons, ALLAH AM gave some sort of relaxation or recess ... short brake ... for muslimah to calmdown to whats ever pressure infacing daily duties around her ... the recess is a preasent or given from ALLAH AM the merciful and gracious ... ALLAH AM care to his pupils ... ISLAM is not that rigid ... infact is very flexible ... that's one of the reason ISLAM is in division such Maliki, Hanafi, Shafie (Sunni), Hambali and Syiah ... even though in division .. still we MUSLIM worship to ONESS GOD ... thai IS ALLAH AM ... with ONE reference CODE of AL-QURAN & HADITHS Even though in `Period' ... there's still many ibdah can be done such as :- 1)Dzikurallah 2)Salawat 3)Read Hadith 4)Remenber by hearth the short ayat in the Quran - not to speak out but read by hearth only Another reason why ALLAH AM give such previlage is that normally a women will get dispress and sadness ... at this moment is calmness needed of all ... most husbands should uderstand their spouse frail condition ... to suport her and loving care. Allah AM give such beuty, tenderness and delicateness to the female ... but female will turn away the other around astray if without according to syariat - Al-Quran & Hadith Wallahualam Wassallamualikum whwt Thank you Your's Suardin Hj. Ali


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