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Posted on Nov 07, 2009 at 02:05 PM

If both parties, who are rather elderly, and are quite certain that there is absolutely no hope of reviving the lost love and happiness in their marriage, and who have been constantly qarrelling, and putting up a "show of bliss" in front of their friends and relatives, would it be better for them to a) Proceed for a divorce, so perhaps each can find happiness elsewhere, and still enjoy their remaining years? OR b) Continue the drama (...because they are already elderly) and stay on for the sake of : convenience, habit, avoidance of shame, disruption in their social status, problems for their children and any other excuses they can find ....??

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Posted on Aug 13, 2012 at 05:16 AM

Cut ur losses and move on, but bear in mind that if u have kids, u must give them all the love that u can

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Posted on Aug 13, 2012 at 05:16 AM

Cut ur losses and move on, but bear in mind that if u have kids, u must give them all the love that u can

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Posted on Mar 03, 2011 at 09:56 PM

fa show continue their drama. when you get old your swag chnage and so they working it out only wiht a diffrent swang that you may not understand because of course your swang is totally diffrent which is why you dont understand them right dont get me wrong you understnad them but make sure you do dig deep turn into inspector gadget on em yo

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Posted on Feb 11, 2010 at 04:29 AM

This is a true story.. A 67 year old lady decided to divorce her 73 year old husband.. When I heard this story I immediatly thought that why on earth would she even contemplate on divorcing after this age, when she has nearly come to the end of the road (so to speak in my naive mind). Her response was quote : " even if I have a month to live or a year, cant I wake up to the remainder of my life with no more bickering, arguing and constant nagging. I have raised my children and they are all married and stable and i have served my husband for all this time. Dont i deserve a bit of peace in the remaining years of my life without the arguing and constant strain he gives me. even if i have a month to live. Am i not entitled to peace in my final years... What can anyone say?... I believe she is entitled to live in peace after all she has provided for eveyone else... There are no unhappy marriages in Islam..

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Posted on Jan 07, 2010 at 06:29 PM

Asalaamoalaikum, My dear sister Surayya, it's my turn to notice a word :-) .... The word 'soulutions' sticks out like a sore thumb.I'm not sure if you intentionally or unitentionally spelt it that way but SOULutions just sounds a perfect word in my humble opinion. Unfortunately there's many a troubled soul out there who could do with a SOULution.......

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Posted on Jan 02, 2010 at 05:43 PM

couldn't help notice the use of the word 'excuses' in ur text. It's an unfortunate but situation and i guess everyone is traveeling at their own emotional pace and making a break of any kind is a decision that either or both need to self conclude...sometimes familiarity is enough providing a venting ground is available! No soulutions, just suggestions : )

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Posted on Nov 17, 2009 at 06:43 PM

Asalaamoalaikum, I hope you and yours are in the best of health and life is treating you well,Insha'Allah. Although you gave two options to choose from I hope you'll forgive me for opting for neither.I would prefer an option in between.Would it not be better for the quarelling and unhappy couple to separate for a short while and live with their respective family members or their children.Maybe after a few days or possibly weeks apart they may come to the conclusion that as with life, relationships have their ups and downs and the grass isn't always greener on the other side.Hopefully in the scenario you've given the couple will gladly and thankfully reconcile after a short separation and respect and value each other that much more.Spouses unfortunately often see the negative traits in each other whilst under the same roof when things are not going so well, but once apart they appreciate all the positive traits in each other and realise what a tragedy it would be if a divorce was to take place.Sorry for the long winded answer,take care,Allah hafiz.

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