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Posted on Thu, Aug 30, 2007 08:07

It is argued that polygamy is halal and that muslimahs should learn to accept and even favor this aspect. It is sunnah... But is it right to accept and favor the situation of all the wives living in the SAME HOUSE? Did our Prophet (pbuh) practise this? I have a friend whose husband is asking for this because he cannot afford to have 2 houses and is persuading his first wife to allow his second wife to live under the same roof. Her fear is that, it would be hard for her to deal with her emotions and thoughts, especially during the nights when he spends with the other wife in the other room... Human nature is such that it is never easy for any female to share her husband....... but logistic distance between the wives does help. However when this access is denied, I wonder if the husband ever spare a thought about such feelings of his wives?


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Posted on Tue, Sep 04, 2007 16:36

Asalamualaykum Thanks for the info. Had a feeling it was not the usual arrangement prescribed as Allah knows best our strength and weakness and would not subject us to the impossible.


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Posted on Sat, Sep 01, 2007 23:09

As-salaamu 'alaykum, the man you mentioned must have spare a thought, or else he would not be trying to persuade her. Ultimately, however, the decision is hers. It is an exceptional arrangement, and it is only likely to work when the persons concerned are steeped deeply in the Deen and / or there is a strong triangular collaborative bonding and mutual affinity. `Ahmad 'Ali


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Posted on Thu, Aug 30, 2007 23:50

As-salaamu 'alaykum, Also, if he cannot afford to separate self-contained units / apartments at the least, he cannot contemplate an actual multiple marriage. `Ahmad 'Ali


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Posted on Thu, Aug 30, 2007 23:49

As-salaamu 'alaykum, the ruling in the fiqh is to have two separate dwellings, which could be houses, aparments, separate and complete sections of one building, whether located adjacently, at a distance, in the same area or city or what, UNLESS the parties, as adults knowing their situation best, freely and voluntarily come to a consensual agreement on living under the same roof. Such arrangement, not being the "root position" in the matter, and in fact a deviation from the norm suiting the generality of people, cannot be imposed. For the reasons you mentioned, and to create a wider space for solacing intimacy, to curb jealousy, etc. So if there is some form of judicial determination of disputes, the man you mentioned would be ordered, given the lack of your friend's consent, to provide each with her separate dwelling. The remedies for not doing so could extend to the dissatisfied woman seeking the dissolution of her union on the ground of harm. `Ahmad 'Ali


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