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Posted on Fri, Jun 08, 2007 10:36

A muslim girl wrote to me and asked me why, of all the religions, i made the regretful choice of becoming a muslim...... when she, if she could help it, would very much wish she was not born a muslim. But she fears to go against her parents. Her reasons...... They world regards muslims as terrorists and fear to associate with us. We move around in fear. We face hostile reactions. We seem unwelcomed anywhere.... Employers regard muslims lowly and doubt our capabilties to do the job, so job seekers have a tough time. Those already employed are not earmarked for promotions as easily as non muslims. Muslimahs are restricted in their choice of jobs because of their hijab. Muslimahs are deprived of a lot of freedom and experiences as they cannot go to the disco, mix freely with the opposite sex, dress beautifully in the latest fashions, restricted in their travels, cannot enjoy beach activities or swim in public, etc, etc, etc... As a muslimah she feels suffocated, retarded, restricted... To her being a muslim is a like being in Prison! Ultimately she says it takes a lot of courage to be a muslim....but she also thinks it is stupid of anyone to want to do so....... Care to comment??


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Posted on Fri, Jul 20, 2007 16:32

that is to sad , you drop any thing people think it is wrong!!you got be strong, you got have faith ,this is all what islam about


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Posted on Tue, Jun 26, 2007 10:37

"The world regards Muslims as terrorists and fear to associate with us. We move around in fear. We face hostile reactions. We seem unwelcomed anywhere...." All Muslims are taught that when reading the Qur'an they must first begin with the words "I seek refuge in Allah from Satan." These words have deep meaning to me. I certainly don't move around 'in fear' of anyone except Allah (SWT). Hostile reactions? Sure, but no different than anyone who is regarded as different. A Black Christian would get a hostile reaction in a backwoods, KKK-sympathetic White 'Christian' neighborhood. It's human nature to fear and revile what's different and what you don't know. As for that, rejoice in being persecuted for righteousness' sake. Smile back. Jesus (pbuh) is reported to have said: "Blessed are ye when men shall revile you and persecute you for my name's sake, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely. Rejoice and be exceedingly glad, for great is your reward in Heaven, for so persecuted they the Prophets which were before you." (Also see the Qur'an 41:34.) The young woman continues: "Employers regard Muslims lowly and doubt our capabilties to do the job, so job seekers have a tough time. Those already employed are not earmarked for promotions as easily as non-Muslims. Muslimahs are restricted in their choice of jobs because of their hijab." Really? Is that why a great portion of engineers and people of the medical profession in the West are Muslims? The only restrictions are what people themselves make. Allah (SWT) is capable of anything, just ask him. If anyone works for a place that makes Muslims or anyone feel unwelcome, I don't see why they would want to continue working for such a vile organisation anyway. "Muslimahs are deprived of a lot of freedom and experiences as they cannot go to the disco, mix freely with the opposite sex...." This is her idea of 'freedom'? Having guys grope her and drool over her in those meat markets people call nightclubs? She could benefit from expanding her horizons. Maybe she could try to find good company and have regular meetings with her good and pious friends. What about poetry? Sports? Religious study groups? Music (if halal)? She should keep praying to God and offering her salat, and keep reading the Qur?an regularly. She might even want to fast two or three times a month on weekends or whenever she has the time. During fasting, we should remind ourselves that we are abstaining from food for His sake, and after this manner pray to Him: ?Lord for you I have abstained from this desire (for food). I could not have abstained without the strength you gave me. My Lord I am your humble and frail servant. Give me the strength to abstain from that desire as well, for I fear your wrath and seek your mercy. "...dress beautifully in the latest fashions, restricted in their travels, cannot enjoy beach activities or swim in public, etc, etc, etc..." Why should the latest fashions define who you are and how beautiful you are as a person? Muslims in the West need to stand fast! Remain liberated from materialistic slavery. Also, I don't agree that Muslim women are restricted in travel. Travel with a group of several women can be very fun, adventurous, and invigorating when planned properly to take in account safety and religious concerns. She could also travel with family members! As for swimming, hasn't she ever heard of the burkini? "As a Muslimah she feels suffocated, retarded, restricted..." To her being a Muslim is a like being in Prison! Ultimately she says it takes a lot of courage to be a Muslim....but she also thinks it is stupid of anyone to want to do so......." This sister would do well to remember that life is a trial, and in the course of our life there comes a time when it tests our commitment to our claim: "I bear witness that there is no god but Allah (SWT), and that Muhammad (SAWS) is His servant and His Messenger". I know that in the West, practising our religion poses immense difficulties and at times, we are bound to feel lonely. Muslims should learn to speak to Allah (SWT). His hotline is Tahajjud--when the world sleeps, we can wake whenever conveniently possible to open our hearts to Him. We should learn how to speak to Him through the prayers of Rasulillah (SAWS). Let's train our ears to listen to Him as He speaks through the Qur'an. Then, it's easy to hear Him answering! As Muslims, we should always seek refuge in prayer and in perseverance, in occasional fasting, and in the study of the deen and in da'wah. We should have prayer and perseverance be our strength, fasting our shields, and knowledge of deen and da'wah of Islam our swords. With these, we can all prevail, Insha'Allah.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 20, 2007 20:59

Dear friend...How do you do? i hope you're doing good...I want to tybe a bit of my opinion... Yes,The world is a jail for moslem/moslemah:-)). Dear friend I think your friend has to take it step by step at a time.Dont bother about what people say about you:-),they dont feed you or something so why would bother?...the world is full of variations mind just life your live like Bon Jovi said:It's My Life.but sure you can enjoy the world thats why it was made for. Enjoy the beach with proper outfit surely


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Posted on Wed, Jun 20, 2007 20:18

Dear friend...How do you do? i hope you're doing good...Yes,The world is a jail for moslem/moslemah:-)but world is not the aim of a moslem/moslemah when he/she was birth in this world,world is only temporary not final goal.Like walking under the rain then find a good spot to relax for a while but after the rain dries you just have to move on for your journey have to be remembered we dont live forever,...let say 60 years 70 years?. or we can be death in this very next minute no one knows. just say...you have freesex,...how much long is the joyness?:-)),...an hour,2 hours?...after that,...bumb!,you pregnant,and all your plans for the future all your dreams to become what you want to become, gone...for good,..for fake happy hour(s) sex,Not to mentione the disease would you give that all a way?not all the good stuffs in this world are good for you...Precious your self and precious the life it self they're so valuable you deserve much better


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Posted on Wed, Jun 20, 2007 00:32

Assalamu alaykum. I know that this is all going to sound corny, so bear with me as I get misty-eyed. Bismillah ir-Rahman ir-Rahim Here are 10 Reasons why I love being a Muslim: 1) I'm part of a worldwide family of loving, caring people. Never before in my life have I met people so willing to help and love one another regardless of where they are from, who they are, or what they do. I've had Muslims that I knew nothing about other than their first names go to bat for me, assist me, invite me into their homes and show unconditional love. I don't care what the biased media or xenophobic jerks have to say about Islam. I know we have our problems in the ummah, but overall, I've witnessed firsthand the goodness of the ummah and know that true Islam is good. 2) Islam makes me a better person. Since submitting to the will of Allahu Ta'ala, I've become more aware of the world around me and feel obligated to make a difference, however small it might be. I've become less judgmental, less argumentative, more committed to justice, and closer to my family and friends. Rasulillah Muhammad (SAWS) taught us to be kind and generous in our dealings with humanity. I praise and thank Allah (SWT) every day! 3) Being a Muslim has answered all of the questions that I've always had about sprituality and my role in the world. I don't feel confused or lost anymore. Islam is great, Islam feels right. Alhamdullilah! 4) I feel closer to my Creator when I do salat, when I hear the words, "Assalamu alaykum", when I hear, "Allahu akbar!" I always think, "This is the way that the world is supposed to be. This is how everyone should feel; at peace worshipping Him and at peace and solidarity with one another." 5) Doing things that are halal strengthens me, I feel good knowing that what I do is acceptable to Allah (SWT). 6) Being Muslim in a way makes me feel closer to my roots. Not only is Islam a state that all human beings are naturally ordained to be in, but I know that many of my people's ancestors were Muslim and that they made an impact on society as Muslimeen. I hope that I can sustain that connection and do my part to continue a positive movement of Islam. 7) Though there are moments that I feel down, I very rarely feel depressed because I know that to submit to the will of Allah (SWT) means that good things are always in store for me. 8) When it comes to male-female relations, Islam makes me feel that it is okay to be a nurturer, a teacher, rather than trying to compete with my partner. I feel that it is okay to trust your partner, to take a backseat to your partner and let him be a man. Allah (SWT) ordained men to be the rulers of their domain. My husband is the provider and protector in my life. Though we mutually respect each other, he is the provider, protector, and ultimate decision-maker in our relationship . He is superior not in character or being, but in that role. I am his helpmate, rather than a rival (as Western society advocates), and I complete him. This doesn't make me less of a person, but simply affirms my role. "The man is the head and the woman is the neck!" 9) I think that in general, Islam makes a person more disciplined. I don't count all of the fanatics, terrorists, and people causing violence. (That is a small minority, and I feel that the media and people exploit that to slander our religion and to provoke hatred.) The majority of Muslims that I know wouldn't hurt a fly and rarely even show outbursts of anger (as opposed to the many "Christians" that I know). Most Muslims that I know are very patient, kind, positive, and non-judgmental. That is the main reason why I was attracted to Islam. 10) Muslims are more passionate about their faith. I've seen some passionate Christians, and I respect them also, but the vast majority of Muslims I've seen, be they foreigner or American, feel that sort of passion for Allah (SWT). We are literally "on fire" and Islam is a way of life! While I do not condone violence of any sort (much less in the name of Islam), I am deeply awed even by the fanatics as they are willing to die for their religion. Growing up Christian, I read about that sort of "fire" in the Bible, but could never imagine it in real life. Now I understand it and feel its power.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 11, 2007 18:21

well sister,that's where we need the responsibility of parents,in America 2 types, specially after 9/11 came up,one who wanna completely merge into unislamic society so these question don't bother them anymore,people eyes don't stair at them anymore,these people r very huge in numbers,there parents enjoyed there unislamic life & now its too late to put things in there minds & there kids minds CZ they already mature & pretty confuse,second type is those who have mercy of Allah swt & they feel more strong against all that prejudice & hatered,they think its best opportunity for them to give dawah where u have million question & fingers pointing at u all over but they small in numbers,view our Islamic history u will always going to find a true belivers small in numbers,Allah swt dosen,t need help of many people to b victorious but he show his mercy when he put few chosen one on right path,its always going to b one leader,one person who motivate many others,may Allah swt put us among the true & right ones not those who r wrong & in millions insh'allah


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Posted on Sat, Jun 09, 2007 11:06

As-salaamu 'alaykum, yeah, as one wise man said, the children of 'ulamaa' are turning kuffaar and the children of kuffaar are turning 'ulamaa'. It's the natural balance of Allah's Decree. I would focus my attention on the latter category. Fa-dhakkir in-nafa`atidh-dhikraa. `Ahmad


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