Quoting Haleemah:

Salaam All

I pray everyone has had a good eid and New Year...

yup 2007 is gone and I swear my hope in a spouse has gone with it... LOL

Picking is becoming small... like miroscopic.

And now I am going to be 30 in 10 days... might as well take me out to the pasture... LOL

I'm joking... I am pleased to reach the big 30, Never thought I would be single at 30 but Allahu Alim...

Currently there is one brother I have been talking to since Ramadan but I dont know where exactly is his standing... like he seems ideal the only issue I have is that he job hopes... We communicate via email but that's like once in a blue moon.

the more I think about the more feel like he's just not the one anymore... in the beginning I thaught YES... But when I look at the whole picture...

For example - I call but he never calls me...so like once a month we'll chat on the phone.

He's talking to another sister (I asked) so I dont know where or what his train in thinking...

Yes there are brothers that presents themselves in regard to marriage BUT I'm TIRED Of the GAME PLAY and WORDS and really the internet seem like the only place but it's like a small community pool....

two of my muslim friends are married and both want out because their husbands aren't nice...

Is the my Future?

Just the other day I was chatting with one brother and he was praising Non-muslim woman because they don't require a dowry.
BUT THE MEHR FOR A BRIDE IN IN THE QURAN... IT'S ALLAH's COMMAND the the Groom gives the Bride a Dowry.

What's the world of muslim men coming to... have they all been sucked into the dunya life that their only muslim by name?

I know I'm repeating myself but it's just depressing...

How can I practice and complete half my deen when it's like finding a needle in a hay stack when it comes to finding a mate?

I swear all I want is another Hybrid Cat, yes I am prepared to be a single mom through adoption or some other way...

Ideally I would love to have a husband that's really practicing the Sunnah of the Prophet. but I doubt that it will ever happen...

Fi Amin Allah

Salaam All

I pray everyone has had a good eid and New Year...

yup 2007 is gone and I swear my hope in a spouse has gone with it... LOL

Picking is becoming small... like miroscopic.

And now I am going to be 30 in 10 days... might as well take me out to the pasture... LOL

I'm joking... I am pleased to reach the big 30, Never thought I would be single at 30 but Allahu Alim...

Currently there is one brother I have been talking to since Ramadan but I dont know where exactly is his standing... like he seems ideal the only issue I have is that he job hopes... We communicate via email but that's like once in a blue moon.

the more I think about the more feel like he's just not the one anymore... in the beginning I thaught YES... But when I look at the whole picture...

For example - I call but he never calls me...so like once a month we'll chat on the phone.

He's talking to another sister (I asked) so I dont know where or what his train in thinking...

Yes there are brothers that presents themselves in regard to marriage BUT I'm TIRED Of the GAME PLAY and WORDS and really the internet seem like the only place but it's like a small community pool....

two of my muslim friends are married and both want out because their husbands aren't nice...

Is the my Future?

Just the other day I was chatting with one brother and he was praising Non-muslim woman because they don't require a dowry.
BUT THE MEHR FOR A BRIDE IN IN THE QURAN... IT'S ALLAH's COMMAND the the Groom gives the Bride a Dowry.

What's the world of muslim men coming to... have they all been sucked into the dunya life that their only muslim by name?

I know I'm repeating myself but it's just depressing...

How can I practice and complete half my deen when it's like finding a needle in a hay stack when it comes to finding a mate?

I swear all I want is another Hybrid Cat, yes I am prepared to be a single mom through adoption or some other way...

Ideally I would love to have a husband that's really practicing the Sunnah of the Prophet. but I doubt that it will ever happen...

Fi Amin Allah

Quoting fatima333:

Assalaamalicum,
haleemah,
i understand u very well,please dont lose hopes.INSHALLAH u will get married to good guy,ALLAH is great,In ALLAH treasure everything u will get.plz i suggest u one thing" READ TAHAJJUT NAMAZ" and ask ALLAH what ever qualities u want in husband..if u r finding men who dont bother to call u,who praise non muslim women just because they dont ask MEHAR..such men what life they will give to wife???,,u r lucky that u soon came to know about bad characters of this guys,,u r safe as u are not married to such bad guys who is careless to do just a phone call...no one knows when u will get married,ALLAH knows everthing,,if u are 30 take it easy,,leave everything on ALLAH,,READ tahajjut namaz and ask ALLAH FOR A GOOD GUY.NOW u are preparing to adopt..i suggest u dont lose hopes on marriage please wait..but u can also give some money to poor kids to help them..
nothing is in ur hands,,ALLAH already made partners,,inshallah just read namaz,tahajjut namaz and pray...leave it everything on ALLAH,,,concentrate in some other work,,be with good female friends..the female friedns who wants to go out of marriage ,advise them right ,,solve there problems to avoid divorse..takecare

Assalaamalicum,
haleemah,
i understand u very well,please dont lose hopes.INSHALLAH u will get married to good guy,ALLAH is great,In ALLAH treasure everything u will get.plz i suggest u one thing" READ TAHAJJUT NAMAZ" and ask ALLAH what ever qualities u want in husband..if u r finding men who dont bother to call u,who praise non muslim women just because they dont ask MEHAR..such men what life they will give to wife???,,u r lucky that u soon came to know about bad characters of this guys,,u r safe as u are not married to such bad guys who is careless to do just a phone call...no one knows when u will get married,ALLAH knows everthing,,if u are 30 take it easy,,leave everything on ALLAH,,READ tahajjut namaz and ask ALLAH FOR A GOOD GUY.NOW u are preparing to adopt..i suggest u dont lose hopes on marriage please wait..but u can also give some money to poor kids to help them..
nothing is in ur hands,,ALLAH already made partners,,inshallah just read namaz,tahajjut namaz and pray...leave it everything on ALLAH,,,concentrate in some other work,,be with good female friends..the female friedns who wants to go out of marriage ,advise them right ,,solve there problems to avoid divorse..takecare