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lisa2000
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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 19:54

I am a good muslim woman looking for a praying man that follow the Quran and sunnah who only want one wife.

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Posted on Fri, Oct 12, 2007 20:29

Salaam alaikum, First let me say that I was born a Muslim of a long lineage of Muslims -- my parents, grand parents, great grand parents... as far back as have been recounted to me. Now my point. This distinction Brother Zokerny makes between "recent converts" and supposedly old-timer Muslims is unhealthy. A muslim is a muslim, is a muslim... No Muslim is better than another except by faith, worship and deeds. Longevity per se isn't so relevant. The acceptability of 4 wives can be subject to specific interpretations. In any case a woman has every right to negotiate exclusivity (1 wife) as part of the marriage contract. If the man accepts it, it becomes binding over and above the basic stipulation in the Qur'an. Allah is Great!


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Posted on Mon, Dec 25, 2006 09:05

Its strange, but recent converts, believe more or are better Muslims, i suspect you are, then those were born with faith, counting several hundred years. 4 Wife is allowed, if you can support it.I had friend back in Bosnia, with four wifes, but thats just one case


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Posted on Tue, Sep 05, 2006 13:01

When one accepts Islam, one must accept the teachings of the Quran as a whole and not just certain preferences. As females, understandably, it is never easy to share our husband but we have to understand that this ruling was allowed with specific conditions. It is also difficult for most normal men to adhere fully to these conditons, e.g. to love and treat each wife equally. Most men unfortunately just ignore and abuse these conditions....but they will be answerable for their intentions and doings in the Hereafter. The females on the other hand are promised Jannah if they accept and treat the wives of their husband in good faith. But this does not mean that the permission to marry more than one wife according to Islamic teaching, is an injustice to women. On the contrary, facts would determine that that are more females than males in the world population. Causes could be because most soldiers are men and many die in wars/combats, etc and their wives are left as widows. If we pair every male with just one female, there are bound to be sisters left unable to be paired off...so it is only Allah's (swt) kindness that take in consideration the plight of those remaining women...and so we have the existence of this permission. At least the muslim men give these women the status and rights of 'a wife'....the non muslim men can only accord them the status of "a mistress" who possess no claims/rights whatsoever on the relationship.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 03, 2006 07:26

Bismillahirohmanirohim Assalamualaikum whwt Dear Lisa, Alhamdulillah to be muslim and to follow and practice good teaching of islam. Practicaly to be humble and seek ALLAh AM redha. Of course for every women whiching only to have ONE husband ... even though man is allowed to have 2, 3 or 4 wifes ... but with conditions ... effortable,very religeous and to fair even among his wife and children. Not all men whiching to have more wife ... there's reason ALLAH AM set the syariat in such way ... Likely men to have more wife is to 1) avoid `zina' (aldultery) 2)To help and secured widow & orphans 3)To generate umah 4) Loving But to every men must understand ... You are responsible to your wife and child ... if you unaware or carelesly taking of them to be truthful muslim ... you are to blame ... during the jugement day you will get what you deserve ... it is not that easy to have extra wife .... Wallahualam Wassallamualaikum whwt Thank you Your's Suardin Hj.Ali


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Posted on Mon, Aug 28, 2006 04:59

Bismillahhir-rahmanir-rahim The upliftment and maintence of women falls on the shoulders of her husband. He is not to disrespect,degrade,nor make her to feel anyway unease. It is a dishonour to her and ourselfs to seek to aquire other wives when we should be content with fullfilling the blessing Allah has granted in the one. There is a tendency on mans part to use certain texts to continue on the road of infidelity which is contary to the tenents of our faith. If we are "Humdu Allah" the practioners of our Deen then the utmost respect is given to our women, our wives. In the treatment of them is the refection of ourselves. Allahumma infa'ni bima 'allamtani wa 'allimni ma yanfa'uni. O my Lord, make useful for me what You hath taught me and teach me knowledge that will be useful to me. "Assalamu'alamanit taba'alhuda."


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Posted on Sat, Jul 29, 2006 15:15

alslam alikum my brothers and sisters: as we know the allawance of our relegion for the man to marry more than one woman and this of sonah but also give the woman to put a condition for the man who will marry to not marry another woman and if he accept that condition he must be on his word as we orderd in our relgion or he can refuses that condition and look for another woman


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Posted on Thu, Jul 27, 2006 18:00

Mashaallah ,you are so beautiful,but if you accept Islam you have to accept everything about it.In America alone if every man marries still there will be 8m women without husbands ,England is 6m women ,France 5m and so on.Every country they are more women than man,except India with a reason behind .And remember not every man marries.Some financially are broke some are gays.Where will all our sisters get husbands? May Allah give you a nice husband who will not change his mind and marries the second wife.It will be a really test God forbids. Amin.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 26, 2006 22:42

The Koran stipulates multiple wives only if a husband can treat all equally. It adds that this is virtually impossible so one wife is best. The taking of more than one wife was meant for extreme circumstances in which women and children would not be taken care of otherwise (e.g. war widows). I don't see polygamy as a normal part of Muslim life, but rather a tradition that has been passed down - and the "allowance" by the Koran abused - in some countries. My husband is from Cairo, Egypt (I am an American who converted years ago) and he only knows anecdotally of men who have married more than one wife. He does not, however, himself know any men who have more than one wife. On another note, Dear Sister, for your own sake, please consider wearing the hijab. If you consider yourself a "good Muslim woman," you should follow God's command to do so. He will certainly be pleased with you and may reward you with the wonderful husband you desire :)


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Posted on Wed, Jul 26, 2006 20:27

salamz to all, be easy on her she is new to islam and she has the right to ask for a husband that want one wife ,it doesnt mean that she is against it! she didnt say that she is against it! so brother zachary2000 its true what u said but u cant use it with a new muslim who is asking for a husband who want one wife! (i agree with za205) allah knows best


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Posted on Sat, Jul 08, 2006 02:54

I too think that the sister is stating her preference and she is not against polygamy Its good to wish a man practising islam


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 01:58

multiple wives are also Quran wa Sunnah if we gonna accept the diin lets accept all or nothing, not what is befitting for our own comforts.


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