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Posted on Sun, Jun 04, 2006 17:57

Salamulikum i am young man from germany and in my family we never talk about some things, because we shouldnt talk about that, my father says. But i want to know if i dont have a girlffriend it is allowed to masturbate for a muslim? because sometimes i want to but i dont know if i get punished by our great allah. my german christian friends say it is good, but i dont believe them. please help me.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 25, 2006 05:24

The conceptual relationship of boyfriend/girlfriend is highly discouraged in Islam (to say the least), for it leads to acts foridden by divine decrees. What the Holy Prophet (SAWS)recommended, for men who are unable to marry, was and still is "to fast", i.e do sam; for fasting takes the faithful away from Hell Fire for a distance of 70 (seventy) years. Allahu Aalamu. May Allah (SWT) forgive all of us for our shortcomings and guide us to do the right things.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 25, 2006 03:44

according to me... try to change ur mind to other interested things if u can atleast until u get married. But if U really cannot... I think u can do it as long as u don't trouble others..let our god decide whether it's right or wrong (GOD IS MOST GRACIOUS & MERCIFULL) brother... god knows everything that we all doing....


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Posted on Tue, Jun 06, 2006 00:01

In my openion its 100% Haram How ever I think if you are confused and unable to get the proper conclusion. If you are 50,50 /good or not good. Halal or Haram. Its better not to do. Because it has two results 1)It is consider in islam as a sin resulting you will be rewarded punishment 2) It will just satify you mental tention for this world not for the Last day of judgment day. So avoid punishment instead of revealing the tention of this small world. I hope you understand my point. Regards Hassan


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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 10:36

Some scholars allow masturbation but only on strict conditions: 1. You are unable to get married & would otherwise have sex outside marriage (which is a great sin & would lead to other sins) In this case the prophet has recommnded fasting (to curb your sexual appetite) but if after the fasting hours are over the urge remains - then you may masturbate but only to release the sexual tension - not to gain pleasure from it ! 2. Other scholars have said this is haram & those who can marry & choose not do so - preferring masterbation - will come on the day of judgement with pregnant hands - this is because they have "married" their hands to their sexual organ & will be punished accordingly. Please consult a scholar for more detailed information on this issue.


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Posted on Mon, Jun 05, 2006 01:34

salaam about girlfriend in islam it is not good and not allowed, you can love agirl so much and talk to her about that and you must be hounest with her ,but to be with her alone without "controul" you understand what i mean not alloewd. If you want a girlfriend to have fun.....no no no Have a nice life with your family,your father want the best thisg for you ,iam sure


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