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Posted on Mon, Jul 31, 2006 08:14

im in a similar situation as well.. I just converted to Islam.. and no intetion of going back because that would make me a disbeliever, and I truly feel that Islam is the best religion. My parents basically my whole life have questioned of God's existence.. my father says that religion is for the weak, for people afraid of death. Something had to have created all of this, and I think God. My views are different of my family.. they are basically atheist? They do feel that there is something bigger than all of us, but they dont even practice any religion... Telling them is probably going to be very difficult, i dont intend on for awhile.. but, how i see it is.. it is better to believe than disbelieve, and that Islam involves true sacrifices.. and that your religion is a part of you but that does not change the fact that you are your father's daughter, that you are the same person, and that you still love him the same and that he should too... Best wishes to you. God bless. and remember that God is forgiving.. Coronita


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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 21:27

Zanjanah... I do believe in Jesus, not as God, as I was raised to believe, but as His prophet. There is but One God and Mohammad pbuh is the Prophet of Allah. I am so glad to have been blessed with the knowledge of Islam. I would never to go back to a disbeliever. How is your dad a muslim and u christan?


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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 21:24

Suniya...salam.. yes, i have told my father. he was very upset, but said he knew all along...imagine that! he was very upset and said me wearing hijab is an embarresment to him. he does not want to tell any of my family..i am dealing with it one day at a time...ALLAH AKBAR!


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Posted on Wed, Sep 06, 2006 08:49

Assalamualaikum to my Muslim brothers and sisters, Dear brother Suardin, Thank you for your words, may be to clarify, I am a born Muslim, borned from the womb of a Muslim mother. But my mother was borned from the womb of a non-Muslim mother. My mother is adopted by a Muslim family since baby. Please do not prejudice, (My mother NOT A HARAM baby) I think no need to tell the History lah....... As a conclusion, I believe the adoption of my mother is a bless by Allah, may be Allah wants my mother TO DIE AS A MUSLIM......Alhamdulillah if that is His Planning......(Praise be to Allah).... Dear sister (Author), If you not yet inform your family about your Muslim conversion, I would suggest try to get a trustworthy or honest friend or family member to become a middle person to convey the message to your father and family members. If you don't want to make use of middle person, may be you could use a letter to inform your parents. In the letter you could vent out your feelings, your reasons for conversion, your hope that your parents and family to accept and love you as a Muslim. Inform them you are still the same person, and still loves your parents and family. If you afraid that your father will use violence towards you, you could temporarily get shelter or live with your trusted friend, temporarily. Hope your good friend could understand your satuation....... Your must tell other people including your family about your conversion. Please refer to my comments in the blog written by author sister Coronita, topic 'Muslim Identity'. I think I don't want to repeat my comments........ Hope you able to guide your children to become good Muslims, but you yourself must show good examples to your children to become good muslims, Insya'Allah. Sister, may Allah bless you and give you the ease and comfort for you to do your duties as a good muslim and a good muslim mother, Amiin. Your sister in Islam.


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Posted on Thu, Aug 24, 2006 06:21

Assalamu allaykum sister.. Dont worry sister insha allah, Allah will accept your Islam but the thing is that u better tell to yout parents because u should rely on Allah and it doesnt matter what happens, because if u believe in Allah with the strong faith He will find a way out for u from this situation....i ll pray for u insha allah assalamu allaykum


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Posted on Sun, Aug 20, 2006 23:08

Dear Zanjanah, thank you for your concern....... indeed we are equally concern about you. We all love Prophet Jesus (peace be with him) as you, the only difference is we beleive in all the prophets...Abraham, Moses, Jesus, Mohamed, etc..(may peace be with all of them).and we do not differentiate them. We beleive in the "true' teaching of Moses and Jesus thru' the original "taurah" and "injil" which has but sadly been corrupted, if you want to know the story in the Quran of Jesus, there is even a chapter "Maryam" dedicated to Mary and Jesus. From Adam till the last day, there will only be one God, the self sufficient, who was not born and never have children like human, and not comparable to any others. God, the most loving , the most merciful, your creator and my creator are one. May we all unite under one God.... and truly Jesus will be coming to correct all the wrong accusations being hailed against him as son of God or God. Let us unite as one...Jews, Christian and Muslims against our only enemy, Satan and let us not fight each other, rather let us have dialog and move towards unity of one God! Ameen! Peace to all who wants Peace.....a brother from a faraway land of the "Lion City"


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Posted on Sun, Aug 20, 2006 20:23

hi zanjanah,since the Creation of Adam with dust from no mother an no father is possible & belive able 4 u so why its so hard 4 u to understand the birth of Jesus without father when its less complicated that at least he had a mother,u really wanna have faith in Jesus and wanna understand his true message 2wards one god like prophet b4 and after him brought to man kind i invite u to study Islam cuz no Muslim is true Muslim until he belive in Jesus & other messengers b4& last messenger prophet Muhammad(pbuh)after,so don't worry about your friends faith in Jesus cuz its much more stronger now then it was ever b4 alhamdulillah thanks


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Posted on Sat, Aug 19, 2006 22:43

Its better for him knows of your "converion"to Islam from you,his daughter rather he will findout from others especially from outsiders.


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Posted on Sat, Aug 19, 2006 14:14

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, [60.8] Allah does not forbid you respecting those who have not made war against you on account of (your) religion, and have not driven you forth from your homes, that you show them kindness and deal with them justly; surely Allah loves the doers of justice. [60.9] Allah only forbids you respecting those who made war upon you on account of (your) religion, and drove you forth from your homes and backed up (others) in your expulsion, that you make friends with them, and whoever makes friends with them, these are the unjust


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Posted on Sat, Aug 19, 2006 11:01

All thanks to Allah who has guided us all to the straight path! To advise is easy...but will we be there when you make the decision.... I can only say that apart from prayer, you need to connect with a few "good" and "reliable" friends or close relatives who will be there for you when you decides to break the news! (Meaning, they are willing to let you stay with them for awhile till the storm is over.) Mentally and emotionally too, you must be prepared for the worst, maybe temporary, and you must have some temporary measures you can take when the obstacles is placed in front of you! But if you are not confident enough because of too many obstacles.... then be patient and wait for awhile till new opportunities arise. The best option is if you are able to get married to a good muslim brother who will take care of you even in the worst case scenario of your family disowning you for awhile. But, at the end of it all, your true love of your creator, should see you thru' any hardships in life.....just as the wife of "Pharoah" did! May peace be with you and all.....a brother from the faraway land of the "Lion City".


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Posted on Fri, Aug 18, 2006 14:42

Hello friend !! I am christian and am member of pentecostal church but my father is a fundamental muslim. Why u have became muslim ? I have been all my life christian and my father has been all his life muslim. Where is ur christian faith to Christ ?


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Posted on Fri, Aug 18, 2006 14:41

Hello friend !! I am christian and am member of pentecostal church but my father is a fundamental muslim. Why u have became muslim ? I have been all my life christian and my father has been all his life muslim. Where is ur christian faith to Christ ?


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Posted on Fri, Aug 18, 2006 13:18

asallamoalikum wrwb,first of all thank Allah swt 4 his Mercy & blessing upon u sis alhamdulillah. u r now in the family of 1.4billion Muslims so u r not a minority to hide or can't practice your deen as others can do & preach freely even when its not as authentic as Islam,sure u got lots of good suggestion from brothers and sister may Allah reward them but we r not in your shoes so we could really know what u going through,best suggestion i can give is to get married with good practicing brother so that 1+1=2 can make better difference in family & society as well,may Allah solve all our problems insh'Allah Fe Amman Allah


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Posted on Wed, Aug 02, 2006 22:16

I live in America and I have no religious freedom. Any ideas on the best way to tell my parent?


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Posted on Wed, Aug 02, 2006 22:12

Suniya, Salam, No, i haven't told my father as of yet. When I leave the house and put hijab on down the road, i always get so nervous. i hate the sneaky ness of it all. i want to tell him so badly, i know he will be hurt and will feel betrayed and i would never intentionally hurt my parent in any way u know. my family is very strict pentecostal christain. i went to a christian school and church all my life..he isn't going to take the news well i know. he is very anti-muslim & Islam. i fear the worst when i just think of tellig him. i have no idea on how to go about telling him..


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Posted on Wed, Aug 02, 2006 09:01

I do believe that your father will be extremely furious by your acknowledge to be a Muslim.But i will also do believe that he will accept you by who you are,eventually.You are his little Princess after all.Though it will takes time & effort on your part to convince your father that you have make the right choice.God will be with you.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 01, 2006 09:05

Aslam-o-aliqum! I wish u all the best to be a Muslim. I am really happy for u. About your father, I dont think so that he gonna have any problem with that. Know even anything happen to u. You gonna go directly in Jannah! (Inshallalh) Everyone make mistake. Tell him the truth. He can't do anything. Believe on god, inshallah, he is gonna help u!. Don't forget that all muslim brothers and sisters r with u!!!! Ma salam!


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Posted on Mon, Jul 31, 2006 11:22

Assallamualikum whwt Dear Nurfitrah, Alhamdulillah, glad to know you as a Muslimah now ... you're being chosen by ALLAH AM (Al-Mighty) ... As a revert er in fact as a born Muslim (like me wise) need get to know Islam deeply ... knowing your ALLAH AM and our beloved prophet Muhammad bpuh ... to strengthen our Islam faith. For my opinion, you need to tell your parent and family members ... before that get an assistant from your Muslim friend with proper knowledge about Islam (Sunni) and truly practices Islam fate. You might need that ... for references. Islam is a beautiful religion ... as a revert er or a born Muslim ... we MUST learn Islam and have a knowledge about Islam ... seek ALLAH guidance through night prayers (Tahajud, Hajat & Witir) ...when facing this problem. Once you tell them it will be a full release of burden and no longer hiding ... you have choose the right faith ... you are free to practice ISLAM ... Show to them the kindness of Islam ..you're like a new born child free from sin Islam is for all not to certain ethnic ... Get to know ISLAM well ... seek ALLAH AM forgiveness and sakinah ( Calmness ) loving prophet Muhammad bpuh . To talk about ISLAM ... which can never ended ... Islam teaching is full of know ledges ... like wise 1) Istiharah - Cleaning & hygiene 2) Ablutions - before perform prayer 3) Prayer -


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