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Posted on Thu, May 04, 2006 20:26

If your son and your love were drowning and you could only choose one of them, who would be the one you would choose?


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Posted on Thu, Jan 30, 2014 12:49

Save the drowning boat ;)



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Posted on Mon, Feb 05, 2007 07:21

"IF" we are told not to say by an nabi SAWS because that is from shaytaan. You can only do that which Allah decreed for you. When it is your time to die, you will die in the manner written for you.


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Posted on Mon, Feb 05, 2007 07:19

"IF" we are told not to say by an nabi SAWS because that is from shaytaan. You can only do that which Allah decreed for you. When it is your time to die, you will die in the manner written for you.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 04, 2006 12:23

Sister truthseeker, I wonder in a situation like this, when do u have the time think, grab whoever u can hold first! or otherwise u may lost both of them.


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Posted on Wed, Aug 02, 2006 01:55

If the son is not adult, you r responsable of him so save him. Other wise its depend on the situation.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 01, 2006 18:46

Assallamualikum whwt Dear Muslim sister & brother, It's a good question ... a choice to make ... weather to save husband or child ... Normally in any bad situation ... husband will care most to his child and spouse rather than himself ... for your question normally in critical situation dfinately you will safe the child first ... it is human instint ... BUT always bare in mind ... to save anothers ... and not to sacrify your life instead ... sometime one might try to save another instead boths died ! As a muslim or muslimah, we have a great duty toward's ALLAH AM there is to worship him, to be truthfull islamic person, to avoid sinful thing, to good deeds and mny other matters ... This world is `Fana' (temperory) is a TEST ground of faith ... do not waisted our prcious life in this world except to seek ALLAH AM redha ... ISLAM want us to success in this world of `Fana' and `Akhirat' ( after death ). To be a Muslim /Muslimah one must equiped with full knowledge of ISLAM ... to understand islam ... to know ALLAH God Al-mighty ... knowing Prophet Muhammad s.a.w ... seek sakinah (calmness) in sense of ALLAH AM redha. Wallahualam... Wassallamualaikum whwt Your's Suardin Hj.Ali


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Posted on Tue, Aug 01, 2006 16:26

Assalamo Alaykom Sister, You raise a very interesting question and may Allah sobhana wa ta'ala never place any one in such a position. In order to answer your question, I will assume that when you say 'your love', you mean your husband. I am a mother elhamdlillah and have been a wife elhamdlillah. I was very fortunate to have a loving, caring relationship with my husband before he passed away (may Allah have rahma on his soul). Even though he is gone and has been for many years, if I had the choice to make today, I would still struggle to choose between my husband and son. I would probably dive in with them and try to save both, and would risk my life trying to save both. The will of Allah will prevail regardless of my actions or choices. There really is no chioce to make, and those who were so quick to suggest that saving the son is the right thing to do, well I have very little to say except it is sad that they suggested a choice at all. The bond between a woman and man in Islam is obviously not understood to the true deapth that Allah has instructed. The married woman's duty in Islam is to her husband first and foremost, even when they have children. If both parties really understood and performed their duties and responsibilities towards one another, they would have a bond that links them with a love so powerfull that a choice between the spouce or child would be imposible to make. I do not need to speak about the bond between a mother and her children because that is understood in any culture and any religion. It is a natural instinct that Allah has created in us. However to suggest that it is more important that of the bond of a marriage is very sad and actually wrong Islamically. They are both strong emotions and bonds but in different ways. As I said, for me personally a choice is impossible and inshaallah may allah never place anyone in such a position. Wassalamo alaykom wa rahmat allah wa barakato.


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Posted on Tue, Aug 01, 2006 09:01

even its stiffy but its abit dramatic tho!!!!


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Posted on Mon, Jul 31, 2006 21:29

Asalamu3alakum muslim friends -- This is really a difficult question - mainly because as far as I know, if you drown or burn to death you go start to heaven?????? So......hum??? Well....in any case, regardless, I would save my sons life and try my best to teach him well and as for my lover - HUSBAND - I would be saving him in a way too right? Well its all in Gods hands anyway. Just try your best to do what you can. Save who you know you can save for sure and then try to save the other. Hum???? --- Let me know what you think. Lets pray that Allah brings all the muslims closers to Him by opening our hearts and minds to His perfect deen. InshAllah ya Rub. Ma3salami Friends. Later...InshAllah


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Posted on Mon, Jul 31, 2006 21:24

Asalamu3alakum muslim friends -- This is really a difficult question - mainly because as far as I know, if you drown or burn to death you go start to heaven?????? So......hum??? Well....in any case, regardless, I would save my sons life and try my best to teach him well and as for my lover - HUSBAND - I would be saving him in a way too right? Well its all in Gods hands anyway. Just try your best to do what you can. Save who you know you can save for sure and then try to save the other. Hum???? --- Let me know what you think. Lets pray that Allah brings all the muslims closers to Him by opening our hearts and minds to His perfect deen. InshAllah ya Rub. Ma3salami Friends. Later...InshAllah


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Posted on Mon, Jul 31, 2006 12:28

ASAK, You Should Choose Your Husband, For the day you get married it becomes your responsibility to safe guard him / her, it implies to both.When you show love towards your spouse, Allah is pleased,there comes a Hadith which can clear this understanding.Once a Sahabi was out on a battle field, and when he came back his wife welcomed him home served food and slept with him, and when he woke up she informed him that their son had died, He became very angry and asked her why did'nt she tell him as soon as he entered the house, then she calmly replied, I had once heard from our prophet that For a woman pleasing one's husband is more dearer to Allah than any other thing in this world, and i had done the same, and Also I had slept with you so Allah will bless us with another Child.


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Posted on Thu, Jun 01, 2006 17:13

salaam That wouldn't be a difficult to think of, because if you think about. Your son is part of you, So if you lose your son you can never get him back, right. But if you lose your love then he was not the right guy for you in the first place and you can always remarry. AND HOW WOULD HE TELL YOU TO CHOOSE. i say that is a stupped thing. GET as far away from him peace


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Posted on Wed, May 31, 2006 21:12

love (husband or wife) can be ex sometime but children can not be ex forever. in the law of islam, there is law about caring of children. until 2 or 3 years is the right of the mother. then is the right for the father. after baligh, the child must choose to live with.


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Posted on Wed, May 31, 2006 13:09

Since everthing (including ourselves) belong to Allah - I would not mind who it is I save - one is destined to die & one is destined to live (for now) & I have to live with the decision - No problem !!!


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 13:10

Salamu Alaykum my sister I think that you can't choose other than your son, if you can I say you are not a good mother


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Posted on Sun, May 28, 2006 03:07

Dear sister, You should not be puzzled for making this decision. Of course your child should be the one you choose. Because child cannot speak and express himself, cannot save himself and you're the adult made responsible by God to keep him safe and nurture him. God blessed you with child who gives you love too, it is a different love (but it is love... and God will love you for it too. I don't know the background of your story but if a man really loves you, he would not make you make this difficult decision - he will take you and the child...


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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 22:26

i believe it will be your son. You and your love will try your best to save your son. and after that you can try to save your love. ^-^


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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 06:36

Dear sister, You should not be puzzled for making this decision. Of course your child should be the one you choose. Because child cannot speak and express himself, cannot save himself and you're the adult made responsible by God to keep him safe and nurture him. God blessed you with child who gives you love too, it is a different love (but it is love... and God will love you for it too. I don't know the background of your story but if a man really loves you, he would not make you make this difficult decision - he will take you and the child...


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Posted on Mon, May 22, 2006 05:21

CHOOCE YOU HI......HI....HI


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