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xxjimjim
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Posted on Tue, Jun 19, 2007 02:45

hello people, now check this out. I know i did not have that much of the education..have 2 different diplomas in medicines but never had the chance to go back to college to finish my 4 year degree...anyway so now i goto these different site to find the mate and the only thing i hear from their families is "NO"..when i asked them why a no ....they replied that i don't have enough degree to back me up....why is that ....i know i don't have enough degree but i have a big heart and a loving one too....and even with these diplomas i am THANXS TO ALLAH doing pretty good..NOW THESE THINGS HAPPENS ONLY AMONG DESI PEOPLE ...WHY WHY WHY ??????? sometimes certain situations comes along in life which stops you from getting a higher degree....but ALLAH knows i tried and still trying ....how can i find my MATE >...answer please..or should i die single....thats what i am thinking too.


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Posted on Thu, Jul 19, 2007 00:11

The only compatability that should matter in Islam is devotion to Allah (SWT). That matters far more than financial, social, or educational status. The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) permitted marriage between people of vastly different social status and financial backgrounds (and his own marriage with Khadija (RA) is an excellent example), because he knew that a person's heart mattered most. As husband and wife, you must have shared values and beliefs so that attitudes and habits bind you together. The Holy Qur'an says: "A slave who believes is better than an unbelieving woman, even though she attracts you." (2:221) Brother, look for a woman who can be your best friend and closest neighbor, the one who will share your concerns and responsiblities of life, who offers peace, comfort, and rest, and who helps to bear difficulties that would be too much to face alone. Any woman who does not meet that criteria, or who judges you based on anything other than this criteria, isn't worthy of you.


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Posted on Wed, Jul 04, 2007 11:33

In a neighbouring country the citizens are well known for their high achievers..Most have very high education, first ranking in most aspects BUT imagine they need a campaign to try and teach their citizens to be courteous! If you drive on their roads the motorists do not even bother to signal when they want to change lanes or move off from a stationary position. The signal lights of the vehicles there are the least utilised gadgets!! And if you happen to be the one signalling, you can wait till kingdom come before any motorists would allow you to cut into their lanes!! This is sadly disappointing, considering it is a highly developed country. It shows the locals lack consideration for others because their own self interest is always of utmost importance. This is all the outcome of paranoid paper chase... High IQ's but very low EQ's. Those who are so into degrees and always judging people more by their brain capacity rather than by the warmth of their heart, should perhaps look for robots rather than humans...


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Posted on Tue, Jul 03, 2007 06:10

Re: xxjimjim write: hello people, now check this out. I know i did not have that much of the education..have 2 different diplomas in medicines but never had the chance to go back to college to finish my 4 year degree...anyway so now i goto these different site to find the mate and the only thing i hear from their families is "NO"..when i asked them why a no ....they replied that i don't have enough degree to back me up....why is that ....i know i don't have enough degree but i have a big heart and a loving one too....and even with these diplomas i am THANXS TO ALLAH doing pretty good..NOW THESE THINGS HAPPENS ONLY AMONG DESI PEOPLE ...WHY WHY WHY ??????? sometimes certain situations comes along in life which stops you from getting a higher degree....but ALLAH knows i tried and still trying ....how can i find my MATE >...answer please..or should i die single....thats what i am thinking too.

Salam bro, If someone doens't appreciate you as you are, he/she is not worth to be your friend/mate. Trust me. I know this kind of people who only cares about diplomas and money.. What diplomas has do with marriage? Nothing, if you ask me. I believe you're a smart good guy. You need no diplomas prove anyone that! I feel so sorry for you.. I had to prove my parents so much I am something with piece of paper.. When they got it, they wanted more.. Insha Allah you will find a nice girl and be happy. Never give up something you want very much. Wish you the very best. Massalaam.


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