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SebastianJoshua
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Posted on Mon, Aug 14, 2006 01:48

Misyar Marriage. This is absolutely my opinion only and you may comment on it, thank you. Misyar marriage is a marriage without a financial obligation to the second, third and forth wives. Example: I already married with 3 kids. (First marriage/first wife) Then, I married 3 more women 1. a widow age 40 with 2 young kids 2. a widow age 35 without kids 3. a single woman age 35 All three of them are financial freedom that means they do not depend on me on daily needs. It is different than polygamy as polygamy you (husband) have to support everything to all your wives. The reason why Islam allowed Misyar marriage is that; 1. Woman need companion, at least they have a husband that they share their problems, share their filling, share their sexual needs, raising their kids and so on. 2. Misyar marriage does not apply to young woman. In Malaysia, as far as I know, young woman is consider below 30 years old. After the age of 30, it is hard for a woman to get a husband. 3. Lots of women nowadays are financial stable, have car, house, and a secure job but for a married man, he have lots of things to think. To have another wife without strong financial backgrounds is very difficult. Polygamy is considered as men?s pride as they can married more than one woman. Misyar marriage is considered as men?s responsibilities towards society. They did not marry because of sex, or beautiful face/body that woman have. They marry women because to protect women from fitnah, or because kids have no father or she need a guidance or she need someone to share problems. Hmmm? hard for me to explain details as I am not good in english.


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azrakmohit
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Posted on Thu, Sep 14, 2006 12:25

I think that in Islam if you have 4 wives you have to take care of all 4 equally. Or so my uncle says who has 4 wives


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Posted on Wed, Aug 16, 2006 23:43

hmmm... actually i agree with you as polygamy and misyar is just having more than one wife but it's depends on 'niat' and how do you define the situation. As far as i know in middle east is widely use but not at asean countries. p/s: i hope that i can marry a rich widow :P


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Posted on Tue, Aug 15, 2006 20:36

assalamualaikum, forgive me but i don't see the different between misyar marriage and polygamy referring to your explanation and seems to me these two kinds of marriage has a very thin layer's difference as three reasons u mentioned might be the reasons people do polygamy, you might need to more stronger reasons to support your opinion about this matter so people like me can see the different...anyways it's just my thought that whatever we call it it's just a legacy for men to get married again...wassalam


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