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Posted on Wed, May 09, 2007 03:30

salaam Thought i'd use this platform to get some views on a predicament that borders on shariah, family duty, muslim duty, and personal choice. A proposal comes to a girl. Family is in admiration of this male suitor. And why not, he is staunch in his Islamic beliefs, has a good job, intelligent, friendly and respectful personality, and good character. He has all the important traits the Prophet SAW advised on the situation. But problem comes in because the girl refuses the proposal, though she herself may be considered a practicing muslimah. But the foundations of her disapproval are that they cannot communicate with each other ? for some odd reason he just does not understand anything she says? yet it can be clear, concise, and non-ambiguous. Girl is also an intellectual and therefore sees that as a serious problem, especially as she has been independent for some time and has some open minded views as well. So she wonders, if he doesn?t get her on the simple day to day matters, what chance is there on the deeper shariah rules and interpretations, or philosophical levels. Family say she is too western inclined, and has no faith and trust in Allah. And by refusing the proposal, se has earned the displeasure of her family. A double-edged sword. Are there any Islamic grounds to her view? Does she have a foot to stand on?


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Posted on Wed, May 16, 2007 01:52

salaam thanks brother dana. but how are you drawing paralells with the story of Zaid bin harith (RA) and Umme zainab - i do not follow. the facts are that they had an unhappy marriage and they divorced. i haven't found any reasons for hte unhappiness - maybe it was a case of coming from different backgrounds and therefore having different expectations, but Allahu A'alam - Allah knows best. its amazing, i tried to google the story, but the kuffar enemies of Islam have distorted the story and used despicable words against the prophet (SAW). May Allah grant them and us all hidayat. Ameen!!


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Posted on Mon, May 14, 2007 03:48

this senario is similar if not the same in the issue of one of the prophet's s.a.w wives who was married to zaid earlier.please refer to the seerah n hadith books for actual text.


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Posted on Fri, May 11, 2007 08:08

As salaamu Alaikum, what are those "open minded views"? And what are those day to day points that he can't handle you on?


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