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Posted on Fri, Sep 15, 2006 08:23

salam alaykum... i just reverted not along ago, i do not wear the hijab yet.. i wasnt sure if i was ready to wear it.. its only been liek 3 months.. but. ive been thinking about it alot lately and its something i kind of want to do.but i cant..because my parents dont know that I reverted to Islam.. and if they did.. they would be very angry. i Dont know for sure but i think they would dis own me..and i am too young to be on my own and have no family that wud be accepting of this.. im 18.. and in my 3rd yr of university that my father pays for. and one more year still to go. they always have some bad remarks everytime that muslims come up. it gets me angry and sometimes i almost blurt out well IM A MUSLIM! lol. but yeahh.. but anyhow.. my question is.. if i wore the hijab to school.. but i didn twear the hijab right yet while im out with my parents and when im working with them.. is that bad ? to be wearing it sometimes and not, is there any point? i dont know.. i want to wear it, but i dont think taking it on and off is a good thing. i will wear it eventually. when i tell my parents and they find out im muslim i will wait for their reaction and see if they still talk with me and respect my decision. and then slowly later on i will wear the hijab..so..gradual steps. what does everyone else think? coronita.


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Posted on Wed, Oct 25, 2006 05:32

Dear sister coronita, read carefully The scholars have based the conditions of the hijaab (covering) which Muslim women must wear in front of non-mahram men on the evidence in the Quran and Sunnah. So long as a woman adheres to these conditions, she may wear whatever she likes in public places and elsewhere, and her hijaab will be considered Islamic. These conditions may be summarized as follows: 1. The hijaab must cover her entire body 2. It should be thick enough to conceal what is underneath it 3. It should be loose-fitting, not tight 4. It should not be so attractive as to call men?s attention to it 5. It should not be perfumed 6. It should not be a dress of fame and vanity (i.e., it should be extravagant or excessively opulent) 7. It should not resemble the dress of men 8. It should not resemble the dress of kaafir women 9. It should not be adorned with any crosses or pictures of animate beings


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Posted on Wed, Oct 25, 2006 04:46

Dear sister coronita, read carefully The scholars have based the conditions of the hijaab (covering) which Muslim women must wear in front of non-mahram men on the evidence in the Quran and Sunnah. So long as a woman adheres to these conditions, she may wear whatever she likes in public places and elsewhere, and her hijaab will be considered Islamic. These conditions may be summarized as follows: 1. The hijaab must cover her entire body 2. It should be thick enough to conceal what is underneath it 3. It should be loose-fitting, not tight 4. It should not be so attractive as to call men?s attention to it 5. It should not be perfumed 6. It should not be a dress of fame and vanity (i.e., it should be extravagant or excessively opulent) 7. It should not resemble the dress of men 8. It should not resemble the dress of kaafir women 9. It should not be adorned with any crosses or pictures of animate beings


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Posted on Tue, Oct 24, 2006 14:18

assalamu aleykum Coronita, you follow your heart.when you are inside your parents house you donot need to wear the hijab ;)


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Posted on Tue, Oct 17, 2006 15:46

Salamu Alaikum sister fatima22 Thanks alot for the comment, I am trying to post the subject as a blog many times but it deleted so I make part 1 as comment in my sister coronita blog. I hope I can post part 2 in your blog but you hid your profile. If you can tell your reverted friends about this blog, God reward you good for this. Jazak Allahu Khairn Abdul-Hady


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Posted on Mon, Oct 16, 2006 01:54

Assalamualaikum I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to bro AbouMohamed for painstakingly typing in the lengthy but VERY VERY HELPFUL description of the Prophet's prayer. At first i skipped his comment becos it looked very lenghty ...but after making the effort to read it, Masyallah!, i have benefitted much from the details. The information is sooooo helpful, especially for us reverts. Personally, i am very particular about people passing in front of me while praying. In the female section of the mosque, there are usually more children and i sometimes get disturbed when these children run in front of the rows while we pray in congression. I would usually stop them if i could or make sure i tell them after the prayers. Some have cried and complained to their mothers, but it did not stop me because in the first place i felt their mothers should have disciplined them about this important behaviour. Deep down inside I used to feel bad for intruding to highlight this point, but after reading the description of the Prophet's prayer, i realise the importance of preventing anyone to pass in front of us.... Now I make sure I place some form of sutrah in front of me even when praying in congression... Jazakumullahu Khaira


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Posted on Sat, Oct 14, 2006 23:24

Assalamualaikum, Dear sister Coronita, You look sweet and pretty in your hijab, your new image...... Alhamdulillah, Allah has shown you guidance........ There is always room for improvements for all Muslims......in everything in life for the happiness in this world and Hereafter.......Insya'Allah. May Allah give you the ease and comfort for you to do your duties as good Muslimah, Ameen. Take care my dear sister. Have a nice day! Your sister in Islam.


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Posted on Fri, Sep 29, 2006 12:36

salam everyone, thanks for your comments and ideas,,:-) much appreciation. Ramadan Mubarak, sister coronita.*


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Posted on Thu, Sep 28, 2006 23:36

Assalamualaikum, Dear sister Coronita, It is good if you are able to get part-time job, so that you could stand on your own feet or financially independent, so that you don't have to depend so much on your parents about money matter. By doing so, you have more freedom to do your duties as good Muslimah, including to wear Hijab. Eventhough if your parents know you are a Muslim and also wear Hijab.......you don't have to worry if your parents and family boycott you or disown you....... If you are able to get financial help from your Muslim boyfriend is also good, and maybe you could repay him when your finance is already stable in future...... For your future wedding, no need to make something grand, it may be small and not expensive but the most important the wedding is BLESS BY ALLAH........ May Allah give you the ease and strength to fulfill your duties as good muslimah, Insya'Allah. The most important, to please Allah and to get Allah's blessings SHOULD BE THE FIRST PRIORITY....... servant of Allah.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 27, 2006 20:52

Sister Coronita, Assalam, Hi..I am a revert who (after a while) finally came out and told my father. I have no muslimah friends here.. I could use some support and a good muslimah friend. If you would like, we could exchange emal and #'s to keep in touch. I think that we could both use some support.. May Allah bless you...Your sister in Islam. Sweetoo


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Posted on Wed, Sep 27, 2006 20:28

Assalam Alaikum sister, I was in your same situation...I would wear hijab everywhere except in front of my family because I had not told my father yet. A few people that I know seen me and I ended up telling my father that I was muslim before anyone else could. He was very upset, but Allah Akbar. My father seen me in hijab and was very angry..he feels that it is an embarresment to him. I do wear hijab, but not in front of my dad or family. I know it is hard, but once you tell your family, you will feel a huge release..."It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not". Your sister, Sweetoo


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Posted on Wed, Sep 27, 2006 17:12

salaam sister.wearing hijab is compulsary.dont worry about little things like money for your education.allah will look after you.you are doing somthing wonderfull so sister dont fear.just pray.


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Posted on Wed, Sep 27, 2006 15:15

Description of the Prophet's prayer I Praise be to Allah. 1 ? Facing the direction of the Ka'bah 1- When you stand up to pray, face the direction of the Ka'bah wherever you are, in both fard (obligatory) and naafil (supererogatory) prayers. This is one of the pillars of prayer, without which prayer is not valid. 2- The obligation of facing the direction of prayer does not apply to one who is engaged in warfare, when he prays the fear prayer (salaat al-khawf) or is engaged in heavy fighting. It also does not apply to those who are unable to do it, such as one who is sick, or one who is traveling on a ship, in a car or on a plane, if they fear that the time of the prayer will elapse (before they reach a place where they can find the correct direction). And it does not apply to one who is praying a naafil prayer or witr prayer whilst riding on a riding-animal etc., but it is mustahabb for him to face the qiblah if he is able to do so when pronouncing the takbeer of ihraam (at the beginning of the prayer), then he may face whatever direction he is facing. 3- Everyone who can see the Ka'bah must face it; those who cannot see it must face its direction. Ruling on not facing the Ka'bah in prayer by mistake: 4-If a person prays not facing the qiblah, because of clouds [preventing him from working out the direction from the position of the sun] or some other reason, after he did his best to work out the right direction, his prayer is valid and he does not have to repeat it. 5- If someone whom he trusts comes ? whilst he is praying ? and tells him of the right direction, then he must hasten to turn that way, and his prayer is valid. 2 ? Qiyaam (standing in prayer) 6- It is obligatory to pray standing. This is a pillar (essential part of prayer), except for the one who is praying the fear prayer or at times of intense fighting, when it is permitted to pray whilst riding; for the one who is sick and unable to stand, who should pray sitting if he is able, otherwise lying on his side; and the one who is praying a naafil prayer, who may pray whilst riding or sitting if he wishes, and he indicates the rukoo' and sujood with his head. The one who is sick may also do this, and he should make his sujood lower than his rukoo'. 7-It is not permissible for one who is praying sitting down to put something raised up on the ground in order to prostrate on it. Rather he should make his sujood lower than his rukoo' ? as we have mentioned ? if he is unable to touch the ground directly with his forehead. Prayer on board a ship or airplane 8-It is permissible to pray fard prayers on board a ship or airplane. 9-It is permissible to pray them sitting down if one fears that one may fall. 10-It is permissible to lean on a pillar or stick when standing, if one is old or weak in body. Combining standing and sitting in prayer 11-It is permissible to pray qiyaam al-layl standing or sitting with no excuse, or to do both. So a person may pray and reciting sitting down, and just before doing rukoo' he may stand up and recite the rest of the aayahs standing up, then do rukoo' and sujood, then he can do likewise in the second rak'ah. 12-If he prays sitting down, he should pray sitting cross-legged or in whatever position he finds comfortable. Praying wearing shoes 13-It is permissible to pray barefoot, or to pray wearing shoes. 14-It is better to pray sometimes barefoot and sometimes wearing shoes, according to what is easy; one should not make it difficult to put shoes on or to take them off in order to pray If a person is barefoot, he should pray barefoot and if he is wearing shoes then he should pray wearing shoes, except when there is a reason not to do so. 15-If he takes them off, then he should not place them to his right; rather he should place them to his left, if there is no one on his left, otherwise he should put them between his feet. There is a subtle hint that he should not place them in front of himself. This is the etiquette which most worshippers ignore, so you see them praying facing their shoes! This is what was narrated in the saheeh reports from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). Praying on the minbar 16-It is permissible for the imaam to pray on an elevated place such as the minbar, in order to teach the people. So he should stand up on it to pray, then say takbeer, recite Qur'aan and do rukoo' whilst he is on that place, then he should come down backwards so that he can prostrate on the ground at the base of the minbar, then he may go back to it and do the same in the second rak'ah as he did in the first. It is obligatory to pray facing a sutrah and be close to it 17-It is obligatory to pray facing a sutrah (screen or cover), there is no difference whether that is in the mosque or elsewhere, whether the mosque is big or small, because of the general meaning of the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), "Do not pray except facing a sutrah, and do not let anyone pass in front of you, and if he insists then fight him, for he has a companion (qareen) with him" ? meaning the Shaytaan. 18-It is obligatory to be close to the sutrah, because this is what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) commanded. 19-Between the place where the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) prostrated and the wall there would be a space nearly big enough for a sheep to pass through. Whoever does that is close enough [to the sutrah] as is required. I say: from this we known that what people do in all the mosques that I have seen in Syria and elsewhere, by praying in the middle of the mosque far away from the wall or pillars is but negligence towards the command and action of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). How high should the sutrah be? 20-The sutrah should be approximately a handspan or two above the ground, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "When one of you places in front of him something such as the stick on the end of a saddle, he should pray and not worry about anyone who passes in front of that." This hadeeth indicates that a line on the ground is not sufficient, and the hadeeth narrated concerning that is da'eef (weak). 21-He should face the sutrah directly, because this is apparent meaning of the command to pray towards the sutrah. Stepping slightly to the right or left so that one is not facing it directly, is not correct. 22-It is permissible to pray facing a stick planted in the ground and the like, or a tree, or a pillar, or one's wife lying down in bed underneath her blanket, or an animal, even if it is a camel. Prohibition of praying towards graves 23-It is not permitted to pray facing graves at all, whether they are the grave of Prophets or of others. Prohibition of walking in front of one who is praying even in al-Masjid al-Haraam 24-It is not permitted to walk in front of one who is praying if there is a sutrah in front of him [i.e., it is not permissible to come between him and his sutrah]. There is no difference in this regard between al-Masjid al-Haraam and other mosques, all of them are the same in that this [walking in front of one who is praying] is not permitted, because of the general meaning of the words of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him): "If the person who passes in front of one who is praying knew how great a burden of sin resulted from that, standing for forty [years] would be better for him than passing in front of one who is praying." This refers to passing between him and the place of his prostration. The hadeeth which speaks of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) praying in Haashiyat al-Mataaf without a sutrah and with people passing in front of him is not saheeh, even though it does not say that they were passing between him and his place of prostration. It is obligatory for the one who is prostrating to prevent the one who wants to pass in front of him, even in Masjid al-Haraam. 25-It is not permissible for the one who is praying towards a sutrah to let anyone pass in front of him, because of the hadeeth quoted above, "Do not let anyone pass in front of you?" And because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "When one of you is praying towards something which is a sutrah between him and the people, and someone wants to pass in front of him, then he should push him in the upper chest and repel him as much as he can." According to another report: "? he should stop him twice, but if he insists then he should fight him, for he is a devil." Stepping forward to prevent someone passing in front of him 26-It is permissible for a person to take one or two steps to the front, in order to prevent one who is not responsible from passing in front of him, such as an animal or a small child, and to make them pass behind him. What breaks prayer 27-The sutrah is so important to prayer that it prevents a person's prayer from being invalidated, if someone passes in front of him. This is in contrast to the one who does not use a sutrah, whose prayer is broken if an adult woman, a donkey or a black dog passes in front of him. 3 ? Niyyah (intention) 28-The worshipper must have the intention of praying the prayer for which he is standing. He must have the intention in his heart of performing a specific prayer, such as the fard (obligatory prayer) of Zuhr or of 'Asr, or the Sunnah of those prayers. This is a condition or pillar (essential part) of the prayer, but uttering the intention verbally is a bid'ah which goes against the Sunnah, which was not suggested by any of the imams who are followed. 4 ? Takbeer 29-Then he should start the prayer by saying "Allahu akbar (Allah is Most Great)." This is an essential part of the prayer, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: "The key to prayer is purifying oneself (wudoo'), it is entered by takbeer (saying 'Allahu akbar') and exited by tasleem (saying 'al-salaamu 'alaykum


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Posted on Tue, Sep 19, 2006 14:01

Salaam Sister my suggestion is if you want to try it out first... take little steps. Wear it in a bun style... Many of sisters I know that have reverted to Islam start wearing it in a bun when they are around family member who aren't muslim. But don't think there's pressure in wearing it... there isn't... when you feel that you are ready... start out small... I hope this helps... Ma Salaama


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Posted on Mon, Sep 18, 2006 09:52

Assalamualaikum to all Muslims, Dear sister Coronita, I understand your situation. Just wear hijab whenever convenient for you. Its ok, if sometimes you wear and sometimes not, at least better than nothing right....... Allah knows what is in your heart, you are not making fun of obeying Allah or making fun of the hijab Islamic ruling......but just because of circumtances or the obstacles that you gone through....... If you have the intention of doing good things, the reward is also there, Insya'Allah. Wearing hijab is wajib for all Muslim women, it is compulsory, even stated in the Quran. Try to do step by step, in any convenient way that you could. Try to fullfill all your duties as a good Muslimah, in any opportunity that comes.......and convenient for you....... Once you are ready to tell your family about your conversion, try to do it and let them now, in the time and day that is suitable..... You could use a middle person to tell your family or write a letter to them to vent out your feelings.......If you afraid that your parents might use violent against you, prepare for any shelter, example any trusted persons or friends who could give you shelter during the difficult times....... If you think that you must wait for another year to break the news or after you have your own job and become independent yourself......make a wise decision....... Pray hard, may Allah give you the ease and comfort to fullfill your duties as a good muslimah......and to give your the strength to face any problems..... Increase your knowledge about Islam, Insya'Allah it will increase your faith and iman. Hope you could able to differentiate between words of advice and words of poisons....... Don't easily influence by any comments, who try to guide you to the wrong way.......use your faith and knowledge to tell the difference, Insya'Allah.....you could get the answer...... To Mr 12161971 and Mr Maxt800, There are so many and numerous of the Christians, don't wear the veils or hijab and only so few Christians nuns wear modestly and wearing veil, what is happening.....?? Is the Christian nuns only want to enter paradise?....... Many of the Christians like to wear sexily, some even half naked or even in private or public...... And they like to wear the IMAGE OF 'god' hanging on their chest, while they half naked........so the IMAGE OF 'god' could see their half naked body or even naked body in the bed........what happening?......CONFUSED..... Servant of ALLAH.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 17, 2006 17:44

Salaam Please before you think bout hijab, first try to find what is written in the Quran in regards of the dress code. Mind you people who have been part of the faith from there birth have not done this yet, so please read for yourself, Allah will tell you, no one else. Good luck, God bless.


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Posted on Sun, Sep 17, 2006 16:53

Asallamoalikum wrwb,sis may Allah bless u on your right path & have Mercy on u cuz nothing is possible without his Mercy,Islam didn't came in few days an alcohol & intrest(riba) got prohibited in last days of Islam so u can see the wisdom an application behind why some of the most important things came so late in application,so my sister hijab is must for practicing Muslima but go with the flow mean take it slow so your family could accept it an u have to face less resistant,2 b honest hijab is even hard 4 some girls even in Muslim families those who care what others gona say or react rather then what Allah going to think.may Allah make things easy 4 all of us inshallah Fe Amman Allah


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Posted on Sun, Sep 17, 2006 12:57

If I were you, I would be more worried about telling my parents about my newfound faith, have them get used to the idea that I have the right to choose my own faith. Wearing hijab is recommended, but you will find hundreds of muslimahs who doesn't wear hijab. This is not say that its OK, but its between you and your God. Taking the time to do that is not a bad idea, in my view. Hope that was helpful.


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