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Quoting american4islam:
I don't think you're wrong at all in thinking this way. It's natural. Most women will recognise the 'truth' that they are regarded as 'individual' when single, but once they marry, they become 'someone's wife'. This may or may not be satisfactory to both of you. If not, a lot of problems will arise. The husband and wife role should be complementary, and only successful if there is no resentment on both sides.
There's no difference of value between male and female Muslims--we are equal in every respect and created from a single soul; one sex is not more important or cherished by Allah than another. However, the duty of the husband is to be the boss, the head of the family. If that isn't the case, friction will arise.
Therefore, I think it's important that both parties take great care to marry a partner whom they respect and who is worthy of the other. They should be a team, interdependent, if you will. A good Muslim husband should treat his wife as he would treat himself, because on the Day of Judgment, he will have to answer to Allah (SWT). A good Muslim wife, according to the Prophet (SAWS), should perform her salat, restrain from adultery, and obey her husband.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) knew that it was wrong to try and force women to change their characters and be different, and pointless to be frustrated by things that won't change. He said, 'Treat women kindly. Women have been created from a rib and the most crooked part of it is the upper region. If you try and straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it as is, it is bound to remain crooked. So treat women kindly!'
Finally, the most important factor in any Islamic marriage, of course, is Allah (SWT). He comes first and His will should be sought after by both spouses. A husband's wishes should always be respected unless he tried to turn you away from Allah (SWT).
Of course, Allah (SWT) knows best. I will make du'a for a successful marriage for you, sister, inshaAllah.
I don't think you're wrong at all in thinking this way. It's natural. Most women will recognise the 'truth' that they are regarded as 'individual' when single, but once they marry, they become 'someone's wife'. This may or may not be satisfactory to both of you. If not, a lot of problems will arise. The husband and wife role should be complementary, and only successful if there is no resentment on both sides.
There's no difference of value between male and female Muslims--we are equal in every respect and created from a single soul; one sex is not more important or cherished by Allah than another. However, the duty of the husband is to be the boss, the head of the family. If that isn't the case, friction will arise.
Therefore, I think it's important that both parties take great care to marry a partner whom they respect and who is worthy of the other. They should be a team, interdependent, if you will. A good Muslim husband should treat his wife as he would treat himself, because on the Day of Judgment, he will have to answer to Allah (SWT). A good Muslim wife, according to the Prophet (SAWS), should perform her salat, restrain from adultery, and obey her husband.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAWS) knew that it was wrong to try and force women to change their characters and be different, and pointless to be frustrated by things that won't change. He said, 'Treat women kindly. Women have been created from a rib and the most crooked part of it is the upper region. If you try and straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it as is, it is bound to remain crooked. So treat women kindly!'
Finally, the most important factor in any Islamic marriage, of course, is Allah (SWT). He comes first and His will should be sought after by both spouses. A husband's wishes should always be respected unless he tried to turn you away from Allah (SWT).
Of course, Allah (SWT) knows best. I will make du'a for a successful marriage for you, sister, inshaAllah.
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