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Alexandra1985
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Posted on Fri, Jul 13, 2007 01:03

Salaam :) This is dedicated to all my old classmates, who used to bully me 9 years... Today I was thinking about my old classmates.. I think they were pretty nice (to each others at least). But somehow..they didn't like me.. One reason was my family didn't belong to same religious Christian group as they did. That was in the Elementary School. Every day I heard how ugly my shoes were or how fat or ugly I was. Or if we had some group working, they were laughing at me.. So I did feel very uncomfortable about school. Alhtough I loved my teacher and I had excellent grades. I was best at sport in my school. I did great in language and Maths.. And they hated me also because of it. I never brag about these things, oppisite.. But I was left outside their games.. Finally I really had enough being called "fatty".. So one year...I lost 15 kilos..I became the thinnest person on my class.. Still..nothing changed.. I felt I am the worst person is this planet.. So when I was 17 I was going alone to far East.. There I was opposite everything I was before. People liked me a lot. Also I was doing modelling.. But now.. I really would like to thank all the people who made me strong.. Although what they was terrible wrong.. But anyway..it's not my business to judge anyone.. I wonder if anyone has similar memories with me?


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sincerity2005
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Posted on Fri, Aug 24, 2007 19:28

salaam.my dear sister alexandra it pains me to hear what you went through as a child and i pray that Insha'Allah nobody else suffers as you did.As you and I both know this type of behaviour unfortunately always has been and always will be shown by by some children. the reasons for the behaviour, although unexcusable, could be due to anything from peer pressure to psychological problems due to children coming from broken homes or troublesome backgrounds. one thing that does play on my mind is what type of role models are their parents.are they teaching their children this type of behaviour?or just teaching them to defend themselves at someone else's expense? i'm sorry for rambling on but i feel that sometimes the children are not to blame due to circumstances but that doesn't make it any easier for the people who suffer due to their behaviour.i hope i have given you another perspective on why they may have behaved the way they did.please accept my sincerest apologies if i may have said anything to upset or offended you as it isn't intentional. as for me i can identify a lot with what sister destinydaisy is saying.take care my dear sister alexandra,Allah hafiz.


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Posted on Fri, Aug 17, 2007 13:20

I find it very disturbing that children can tease and bully others and make life so miserable for the overweights. I often wonder who should be responsible for these senseless attitudes. Is it the fault of the parents or the educational system that neglects to instill the right values in children? If left uncorrected, it is a sad genre of adults these chidren will turn into. Although I was not overweight, I can relate with the misery expereinced by the larger sized children, because I myself was teased just for BEFRIENDING them!! I was very close with a girl who was rather overweight in high school. I used to wonder how is it that others could not instead, see beyond her physical appearance and appreciate the warmth, sensitiveness and caring nature of my friend. Eventually I consoled myself that it was their loss, ... and i refused to trade my friendship just because of peer pressure or to be in the "popular" circle of the school cohort. After school we lost touch because her famly migrated to Switzerland. Many years later, when I happened to be in Zurich, I fell ill and at the pharmacy I happened to bump into my long lost friend! And she took care of me and even insisted I stayed with her for the rest of my visit. God works in such wondrous ways!


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Posted on Fri, Jul 13, 2007 10:00

Although I had similar stuff, it wasn't that they don't want me it was the opposite. I didn't have any connection with them. I was in a catholic school through elementary as well as high school. I was practicing Muslim and I'm still till today Alhamdolillah. So whatever they had to do whether it was partying, dating, going to the prom was not part of my Islamic values. So they either had to accept me as I'm or they can just walk away. I didn't have the need to be part of any groups, and never felt I was left alone. although sometimes they would make make fun of my hijab, I would just give the attitude they deserve. people who face those kind of things need to have strong self esteem. Not everyone you encounter gonna like you, so you have stand up for yourself and say this is who I'm either accept or walk away, I'm not gonna change anything for your own interest. People have to acknowledge that everyone is different and unique in their own ways.


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