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sweetoojawad
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Posted on Sat, Oct 07, 2006 21:42

Assalam Alaikum friends, I have told my father that I a muslim and that I wear hijab..he says that it is an embarresment to him.. I want to wear hijab everyplace I go, but in a small town, some former christan friend will see me, (I am sure of it) and ask me questions about me being muslim. How do I respond to "Why are you muslim.." "You know Islam isn't truth..Christan is truth..", Your not coming to church anymore?"... I don't want to be rude, but I don't want to get in a religious debate either. I already know what they are going to say to me if they see me in hijab. No matter what I say, I know that they will think of me as being deceived and not having truth...maybe even being possessed. I know how they think.. I don't want to give them a chance to insult Allah and Mohammad pbuh.. Do I just ignore these people and be rude or what?? any suggestions... ALLAH AKBAR


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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 17:48

sister you have had it hard and i am a converte to and i know my famliy don't like it but they try to tell me i am going down the wrong road ,but its jast as you all say you answer for yourself Re: sister i have the same problem and all i can tell you is that Allah will work everything out for you .i still have not tell my grandmother i am muslim not but i know that she knows . sweetoojawad write: Assalam Alaikum friends, I have told my father that I a muslim and that I wear hijab..he says that it is an embarresment to him.. I want to wear hijab everyplace I go, but in a small town, some former christan friend will see me, (I am sure of it) and ask me questions about me being muslim. How do I respond to "Why are you muslim.." "You know Islam isn't truth..Christan is truth..", Your not coming to church anymore?"... I don't want to be rude, but I don't want to get in a religious debate either. I already know what they are going to say to me if they see me in hijab. No matter what I say, I know that they will think of me as being deceived and not having truth...maybe even being possessed. I know how they think.. I don't want to give them a chance to insult Allah and Mohammad pbuh.. Do I just ignore these people and be rude or what?? any suggestions... ALLAH AKBAR



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Posted on Tue, Aug 21, 2007 17:31

Re: sister i have the same problem and all i can tell you is that Allah will work everything out for you .i still have not tell my grandmother i am muslim not but i know that she knows . sweetoojawad write: Assalam Alaikum friends, I have told my father that I a muslim and that I wear hijab..he says that it is an embarresment to him.. I want to wear hijab everyplace I go, but in a small town, some former christan friend will see me, (I am sure of it) and ask me questions about me being muslim. How do I respond to "Why are you muslim.." "You know Islam isn't truth..Christan is truth..", Your not coming to church anymore?"... I don't want to be rude, but I don't want to get in a religious debate either. I already know what they are going to say to me if they see me in hijab. No matter what I say, I know that they will think of me as being deceived and not having truth...maybe even being possessed. I know how they think.. I don't want to give them a chance to insult Allah and Mohammad pbuh.. Do I just ignore these people and be rude or what?? any suggestions... ALLAH AKBAR



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Posted on Mon, Oct 09, 2006 11:27

To Sweetoojawad, and to fatima22, Sweetoo, I know that you have read some of my difficulties before I spoke Shahada and submitted to the will of Allah. That moment for me was, and everyday since is, the peace and sense of blessing from Allah. My father was raised Irish Catholic in New York City, and I honor and respect his wisdom, strength of character, and morality. But when I informed him that I was converting he said "you're just going through a phase." We did not speak again for over a year. Nor did I speak to my mother, who had sided with my father. I know that my father saw my declaration of faith as potentially detrimental. When we did begin to talk again it was during Ramadan, and he kept trying to feed me or give me a beverage. But it was not meant to be insulting. He did it because fathers want to protect their children. He was afraid I would be discriminated against, and he was right. I do not believe the Din to always be smooth and straight, but my fear is not the difficulty of the terrain, but being led astray when the path seemed too difficult. Since the beginning of this month of Ramadan, I have honored the hadith of the five pillars of Islam and faithfully done Sawm. My mother became very sick with cancer and had a massive operation. I had to drive up to Columbus Ohio (about 2.5 hours away), to be there before 7 AM. If I was much after that I would not have seen her before she was prepped. I was aware of the risk of surgical complications, and that it could be the last moments my mother and I spent together. To me it was more important than ever to honor my Shahada to Allah and to remain submissive to Allah. While in the waiting area during the early part of the surgery, my father offered to buy me coffee, because I had been up all night before so I would arrive early enough. I told him that I could not, because it was Ramadan. He nodded in agreement. Alhmd'Allah ir-Rahman my mother survived the removal of a massive tumor, and the doctors were amazed at her good fortune. They said they believe the cancer had not spread and that chemotherapy treatments would be very effective in destroying residual cells. I believe Allah gave me the strength to be able to honor my parents in their time of need. When I first arrived at the Cancer Clinic my father asked "what are you doing here?" He knew I had my coursework for college later in the day, and that I had to work that evening. He didn't want the difficulties of my mother and father to distract me from completing my degree. I just looked at him, and very solemnly said: "family." Sweetoo and Fatimah, I tell you this story because many of us who convert suffer through the strain of explaining to family and friends that Allah had led you to embrace the Din, and that in doing so you do honor Allah in showing modesty in wearing the hijab. I hope that in the days, and maybe even years to come, that your father comes to accept that you, sweetoo, are still his daughter. I hope that he honors your embracing of faith, even if it is not his path. In Native American traditions, (and a movie about high school wrestling from the 80s) there is the undertaking of a Visionquest to find one's true self-identity.. Perhaps you could frame the discussion of your submission to Allah as the end of a Visionquest. I will pray that Allah intervenes for you fatimah and you sweetoo, and should it be the will of the One God for you to reconcile your differences withot diminishing the greatnesss of Allah. Through the worst times our family has endured these last weeks, I humbly acknowledge, Allahu Akbar, that indeed all is as Allah wills it to be.


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Posted on Mon, Oct 09, 2006 08:49

Salaam Dear sister, Some of my friends that revert to islam when they go home to their family who's not muslim they'll wear a turtle neck shirt and wrap their hair in turban style bun or they'll dress really plain wearing a high neck or scoop neck shirt and a skirt with a turban bun like scarf covering their hair... A lot of African American women wears this style of scarf to bed or going out with friends.. You will be covered at much as you can and your family wouldn't be harsh to you when you go out... and eventually bring the scarf down... take small steps. Another part of my family isn't muslims so growing up they didn't want their kids to play with us because my sister and I wore the Hijab- But then we started to wear it in the bun style and my non-muslim family was allowing their children to play with us- Now were Adults I would wear my hijab and no one would say anything any more... I feel that's because they started to get used to seeing me in the scarf so much that it didn't matter if it was up or down... now getting them to adjust to the Niqab.. that's a differetn story...LOL


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Posted on Sun, Oct 08, 2006 07:18

Aslmkm sweetojawad It is never easy to repond to such questions without engaging in a religious debate. The other problem is that often they refuse to acknowledge our replies with an unbiased view. The ideal situation would be when they have gotten over the big HooHaah of our conversion and we can sit and talk calmly about what details made us revert in the first place. For me, the day i announced my conversion, the family, after much uproar, collected my items from my room and threw them out of the house.... and me, with them! I just picked my essentials, left the rest on the pavement and walked away. Imagine i stayed at a hotel for a couple of days till i got a more permanent place to stay!! You are lucky your family still keep you in their house!! A week later a cousin arranged for a meeting with me. She brought a priest who was equipped with a bible. They asked me why and what made me change. I told them that firstly, i am answerable for myself on Judgement Day. Just following my family's wishes even though i feel their religious practices are wrong is not going to bail me out... Secondly, if they could provide logical and convincing answers to my questions on christianity, i would readily convert back. They accepted the challenge.... but eventually they could not give logical explanations when we touched the questions about the Trinity, the Original Sin that babies are supposed to be born with and that we are saved only through Jesus who died for our sins on the cross. The priest said that there are some doctrines and christian practices we just have to Believe and Accept..... Then i told them that in Islam, so far, all the questions that i had, i was able to find logical answers. Some of the laws and practices may initially be viewed as absurd restrcictions but i was STILL ABLE to get the explantions and logical reasonings behind these laws. So between the two, why then should i follow one (christianity) where i have to rely on blind faith, while the other (Islam) i can rely on facts and logical thinking??? To make a long story short, they gave up...handed a bible to me and asked me to promise to read the contents... I asked them how would i know this was the correct version, as i was already given one version from a protestant friend, another from a Jehovah Witness, and another from a mormon! They both then looked up to the sky and shook their heads, and gave up trying to convince me. After the priest left, my cousin ended by saying that she knew i always had a stubborn streak, but this time she admired my stubborness to search for the TRUTH...Alas, it is not easy for her to go against familair grounds, but she was impressed by Islam. That is the major obstacle...most of them are afraid to go against familiar grounds!! Even some educated and highly intelligent professionals who know the truth find difficulties to bring themselves to take that step, maybe due to status, family pressure, profession.... We ourselves need to be convinced of the Truth. If we are firm and convinced, believe me, we will be able to take all the rocks that are thrown at us. And we must never try to **fight them** angrily, as long as they leave us to practise our faith... and eventually, insyallah they would see and understand why we are muslims and that ISLAM IS THE TRUTH...and that Islam actually has made us change for the better. When i attended my cousin's church wedding i could literally see the shock in all my relatives faces. Muslim in Church!!! But i just sat at the back throughout the whole ceremony...no kneeling or singing of hymns, etc and i went because i never came across anything that said we muslims cannot enter a church... And even though none of my other family members spoke a word to me that day, my cousin wrote to me saying she was so touched by my presence... So, i would advise you to persevere and always pray for guidance and strength, and insyallah, your father and other family members may one day soften their hearts towards you.... Also constantly increase your knowledge of Islam so that when faced with questions, you would be able to provide the answers and not be accused of just follwing blindly the practices of even other muslims. We must know WHY we do it and do it CORRECTLY, even if other muslims seem to practise otherwise...The Quran and Hadiths should be our foundation... maasalam fatima


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Posted on Sun, Oct 08, 2006 04:09

Salamu Alaikum & Ramadan Mubarak my sister Sweetoojawad. As a Muslim we are always questioned on our faith because Islam is a religion that many have know true knowledge of. This is why it is vital that we Muslims know its teachings, history, laws, prophets and history so that we may speak dawah correctly and tell others about Islam. In truth learning all about Islam is the same as learning theology because we are told to beleive in all of the wholly scriptures (although they are not all untampered, i.e. the bible) and Prophets. But heres what to do when a Christians asks you questions about Islam, be honest and share with them what you do know. Don't try to fake it if you don't know. If you don't know about something they ask tell them you will back in touch with them on the matter and use it to inspire you to learn more. Asking them a few questions about christianity will get them too. I always do this. Ask them questions like; Why do you bleive Jesus is Lord? If Jesus was God why did He pray to himself. Is God so stupid that He will come to earth and all of a sudden forget who He is? Why do Christians say Jesus is the son of God? Is it because He was born without a father? Adam was born without a father nor a mother wouldn't that make his birth more miraculouse than Jesus. If they celebrate Christmas ask them why do they do that when in the bible it clearly states for them that this is a custom of the heathans & peagans in Jerimiah 10:1-4. Tell them Jesus never said He was a christian and that they where first called christians in antioch (ACTS 11:26in the bible) long after Jesus ascended to the Heavens so why do they call themselves christians. Ask them why they beleive the only way to get to heaven is through Jesus when Noah did not worship Jesus, nor did Abrahim, nor did Moses, so does this mean that they are not going to heaven. These are a few questions that will have them questioning their religion. Read a few of the blogs and comments I've posted in the forums to aid you and peace be upon all of the the prophets. May Allah ta'ala guide you in your seeking of guidance in this life and the next. Salaam Ahjii


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