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truthseeker2008
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Posted on Tue, May 23, 2006 21:44

I consider myself to still be new to Islam although I have studied for awile. I am not perfect and I find myself being tested practically on a daily basis. I know someone who was raised in a muslim country and then moved to the United States. After being here for a few years they engage in premarital, smoke, lie, drink alcohol, and they no longer pray or read the Qu'ran. I am only searching for guidance; since I am new I feel as if it will be the blind leading the blind, but I have this heavy-hearted feeling that I would be wrong to turn my cheek and walk away. The area where we live is only a handful of Muslim. Is there something specific that I can write or say to them? What do I do and say in a manner that will not offend them? Any comments will be greatly appreciated.


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HamduRabbi
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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 06:40

Asalaamu Alaykim Wa Rahmatullaye Wa Barakatuhu. Bismillaye ArRahmane ArRahhime Al Hamdulillaye Rabbil Alamine. All praise is du to Allah (SWT) Dear sister in Islam, It is very courageous of you to raise this issue. You are fulfilling your obligations of "enjoying good and preventing evil". In the Holy Qur'an, Allah (SWT)puts in the mouth of Luqman (a wise man) the folling words; Bismillaye ArRahmane ArRahhime "Yaa-bunayya aqimis-Salaata wa"-mur-bil-ma'-ruufi wanha 'anil-munkari wasbir alaa maaa ashabak: inna zaalika min azmil-'umuur". "Oh my son, establish salaat, exhort people to do good (observing Islamic monotheism and all that is beneficial in the eyes of Allah [SWT], and forbid people (from disbelief, polytheism and doing what is evil and bad) and bear with patience whatever befall you. Verily these are some of the important commandements ordered by Allah with no exception." Surah 31: Luqman, Verse 17. The Noble Qur'an; Summary of Tafsir by Ibn Khathir. There is a saying attributed to the Holy Prophet (SAWS) of which the general meaning is: "If you see wrong or evil being done, you should stop it. I you cannot stop it, you should speak against it. If you cannot speak against it, you should at least hold in your heart your dissociation with such wrong or evil; and that is the lowest level of eemaan (belief in Allah (SWT), His Messenger and Islamic Monotheism)". This hadith is recored in nearly all the major books of Ahadith. My suggestion is that, if there is a local mosque, to talk to the Imam. He would have more authority to speak to those people. Usually, whose who were born overseas would rarely accept a word of advice from a woman, be she from their own ranks, or worst a stranger. If there is no mosque or there is no Imam, try to find an Authoritative masculine figure and confide with that man about your concerns. If you can't find such a man, then pray to Allah (SWT). If you know they are Muslim inspite of their behavior, you can pray for them. If you doubt they are Muslims, you can pray to Allah (SWT) for good to happen to your community. In any case you already have done more than the minimum that was required of you: You have spoken againt it. I turn to Allah (swt) repenting and asking for forgiveness if I made a mistake. May Allah (swt) reward you for your good actions. May He help you with your children and may He make you tasks easy on you so that you reach your goals with His Merci.


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AbdulSamed2008
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Posted on Thu, May 25, 2006 16:25

wa aleykum salam sister, Bismillahirrahmanirrahim, # 7.181] And of those whom We have created are a people who guide with the truth and thereby they do justice. # [7.186] Whomsoever Allah causes to err, there is no guide for him; and He leaves them alone in their inordinacy, blindly wandering on. Only Allah can guide them.You can only make dua.If they ask you about islam you can tell them. May Allah bless you


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Posted on Wed, May 24, 2006 08:10

I Saw your profile and I liked it. I frefare to hear something from you.


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