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Posted on Thu, Jun 15, 2006 11:19

Salam Alkioum Brothers and Sisters, I have been a muslim revert for some time now. I am a 22 year old who was very faithful to catholicism however I didn't believe that Jesus was God. I learned about islam read the quran and reverted. After reverting I met and was suppose to marry a muslim man however his family would not agree to me because I am white. My question is, the prophet muhammad (peace be upon him) stated that arab is no better than non arab or white then black as long as they are pious and good religion. My question is has color and the country you live in become more important then the religion you follow. I know that many think western girls are bad but there are good and bad everywhere. Allah says love for his sake, so when did culture and country become more important? If I am muslim doesn't that make me no different then him or his family? Please help brothers and sisters, I find myself doubting islam now because I feel like I don't belong in the religion. Will I forever be judged because I am white???


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Posted on Tue, Jun 27, 2006 02:52

Is not this good for islam and muslim community that no one came with their experience of discrimintion by fellow muslim. The big question is is this represent the truth. THE WHOLE TRUTH.


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Posted on Wed, Jun 21, 2006 03:10

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters, Dear sister (Author), Please have faith in Allah and Islam, than you will not bother what other people think of you or your culture or colour. Islam is beautiful but there are some people who have narrow and negative thinking. Allah made humans from different nations and tribes for us to know one another, and this is more or less stated in the Quran. No need for us to be proud of our CULTURE. No need for us to be proud of our SKIN COLOUR OR HAIR COLOUR. No need for us to be proud of our STATUS and WEALTH. No need for us to be proud of our LANGUAGES. No need for us to be proud of our BEAUTY. A lot more that could be mentioned..... But at the end of the day, Allah will just see our heart and Taqwa. ALL THAT MENTIONED ABOVE IS NOT A PASSPORT for us to enter paradise or hell. All of us will die and return to Allah in POOR STATE leaving our wealth, our family, our status, our culture, etc, etc.........


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Posted on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 23:36

the essanse of islam counts not the colour they r wrong


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Posted on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 22:07

In the name of ALLAH, Most Gracious, Most Merciful SISTERS AND BROTHERS there's some thing every person should know. so please and please remember that ISLAM is perfect not all Muslims here is a little Example Equality in ISLAM Muhammad (pbuh) asked people to shun notions of racial, family or any other form of superiority based on mundane things and said that righteousness alone was the criterion of one's superiority over another. It has already been shown how he mixed with everyone on equal terms, how he ate with slaves, servants and the poorest on the same sheet (a practice that is still followed in Arabia), how he refused all privileges and worked like any ordinary laborer. Two instances may, however, be quoted here: Once the Prophet (pbuh) visited Saad Bin Abadah. While returning Saad sent his son Quais with him. The Prophet (pbuh) asked Quais to mount his camel with him. Quais hesitated out of respect but the Prophet (pbuh) insisted: "Either mount the camel or go back." Quais decided to go back. (Abu Dawud, Kitabul Adab) On another occasion he was traveling on his camel over hilly terrain with a disciple, Uqba Bin Aamir. After going some distance, he asked Uqba to ride the camel, but Uqba thought this would be showing disrespect to the Prophet (pbuh). But the Prophet (pbuh) insisted and he had to comply. The Prophet (pbuh) himself walked on foot as he did not want to put too much load on the animal. (Nasai pg. 803) The prisioners of war of Badr included Abbas, the uncle of the Prophet (pbuh). Some people were prepared to forgo their shares and remit the Prophet's (pbuh) ransom but he declined saying that he could make no distinctions. (Bukhari, Sahih Bukhari, Chapter "Ransoms") During a halt on a journey, the companions apportioned work among themselves for preparing food. The Prophet (pbuh) took upon himself the task of collecting firewood. His companions pleaded that they would do it and that he need not take the trouble, but he replied, "It is true, but I do not like to attribute any distinction to myself. Allah does not like the man who considers himself superior to his companions." (Zarqani, Vol 4 pg. 306)


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Posted on Tue, Jun 20, 2006 20:57

wa alaykum salaam sister dear sister dont ever dout islam becase it the right religion and the best. You are belong to this religion wheather you are white or black or any other color.for that you have already know what the prophet mohammed(peace be upon him)said about race. so please forget about what these other people are saying because they are "misrepresenting" the real muslim. when i say "misrepresenting" i will give a good example of how the sahaba used to treat each other. when the sahabah(muhajiriin) came to madinah, the ansaar welcomed them not only that they became brothers and shared everything. one man from ansari asked his brother whoes muhajir to chose one of his wifes so that he can marry her. that is how muslims should treat each other. ur sister afnaan


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 21:37

salaam alaikum... don't worry sis', u're not alone. i had the same problem. i was engaged for two years but my fiance faced so much opposition from his family even for suggesting it that he chose to hide our relationship instead. it lead to so many problems and stress and simply couldn't go on. in the end we weren't just hurt emotionally, but religiously as well, and having your faith battered by a romantic relationship is never worth it. i assure u there are families out there desperate for their sons to marry a revert to islam. those are the sincere muslims. trust me, your reward and blessings will be infinitely multiplied if u're lucky enough to marry someone from a proper muslim family that's not only willing to accept u as a muslim, but also anxious to encourage your faith and to educate u further about islam. i know it sounds crazy, but be happy for the way things have gone and have faith that God will bring something better your way in the future, insha'Allah. God bless and best wishes :)


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 08:53

Well sister, I can honestly feel and relate to what you are saying. The sad fact about all religious ideals is that a great many who profess to follow them often fall very short of practising them. When it comes to marriage it is understandable that a parent would only want the best for their child, but what is often over looked is that even a parent???s perspective can be clouded by cultural teachings that contradict religious teachings. There comes the moment when a parent feels the need to judge a person based on that persons past, yet that very idea implies that a person can not learn from their mistakes and nor can a person change. Both of which I think we can agree are false presumptions. As a white middle aged Muslim man who???s family is predominantly Catholic, I to am often welcomed in the masjid and even for dinner, but for marriage to ones daughter I am not. I suspect the primary reason for this is because it takes time for people to really know others and with out any understanding of a person???s history a lot of assumptions are made with out any consideration. I???m sure that over time, those with in a community will begin to realize and recognize the value of a person and inshallah reverts like us will be welcomed and accepted as part of the families. If being married or accepted by others was my primary motivation for accepting Islam, then I would not have accepted it. Islam is a relationship between a person and Allah first and foremost. So instead, I have chosen to submit to the will of Allah and if that means that I remain single for the rest of my life, then so be it. Given my age, my lineage, my past and what I???m looking for in the woman whom I wish to call my wife and best friend. I suspect that I will indeed remain single. However, that does not mean that I have given up all hope. ;0)


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 08:23

Asalamu Alikum sister, I can understand your feelings, but my dear sister you can not lable anything on islam after having bad experience with few muslims. Personally, i do not believe in race, cast and color neither Islam supports any of these concepts. I have many white friends who married with arabs and african muslims. Everyone can see that there is a difference in thoughts in westerns and eastern people. I would suggest you to marry with western muslim, it will avoid many problems. But my dear sister ofcourse there is no restriction to marry with any muslim man. keep your trust in Allah (S.W.T). You will find right man for you. insha'Allah. May Allah bless you.Amen Umar


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 03:38

Asalamu alykum my sister in islam.I wish you all the best inshallah in this dunya and the akirah. Do you know sis i feel that one of the the many reasons why the ummah is not united is because there a lot of muslims who mix in culture with religion, and unfortunetly they follow their culture more then their deen. I know some muslims who would get their daughter or son married to a non practising muslim who commits all the wrong things rather than marrying them to soemone outside their culture(country) even though they are so practising, and the reason for this is because so 'people' around the community would not talk about them. There are people out there who fear people more then Allah (SW). My advice to you sis is don't give up and have faith in Allah because He(SW) will help you through all your actions. Inshallah you get what you want just be patient sis. Masalama:)


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 02:31

To judge or to be judged! Sorry to say, everbody will judge us whether we like it or not! Some will judge us positively and maybe like/love us while some will judge us negatively and doesn't like/hate us! Of course, it is so heartbroken to be judge negatively when our intentions and actions are actually good! Humans are weak and sometimes listens to the whispers of evil from among jinns and among man and then they start to judge us negatively, but we mustn't worry about them, although we ask God to protect us from such trials! Don't worry about people judjing us! The one we must most worry is how will God judge us, will Allah the almighty, accept our humble deeds in this short period of our life in this world. The prophet Mohamed (peace be upon him) encouraged us to treat ourselves like a traveller in this world, taking only what is necessary for this worldly journey and prepares for the next long journey back home (Akhirah)! It is better to judge ourselves, our weakness and try to improve ourselves, then to judge others! At the end of it all, the sincerity of your heart (thru' constant and daily purification by your good deeds and being near to Allah) will shine thru' eventually and people will attract to you like a magnet. Remember always, the best judges is your creator, Allah, the one and only! Peace be with you & all!


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Posted on Mon, Jun 19, 2006 00:54

The question u have pointed do exist in reality in our society. Discrimination is not allowed in Islam but its beautiful word only to say. In reality tere are only few people who agree with this concept and fewer who practice no discrimination on basis of nationality, tribe caste etc.


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Posted on Sun, Jun 18, 2006 13:33

I'm sorry for the trouble, your having but In islam the COLOR doesnt have a rule. But there are more people that hold unto what they believe in the centrius before.To tell you the truth be passion and you'll find the right guy isha allah. And you are in the right religion. Mashaallah for you convert. Salaam


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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 13:52

Thank you all, I really appreciate your comments. Hurt is a very hard thing to deal with especially when you know that you are a good person but no matter what you do you will be considered bad. Inshallah I will find the reasoning in all of this. Inshallah. As for now I can only make dua and hope not everyone will judge me. Allah bless you all, thank you for your words of encouragement.


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Posted on Sat, Jun 17, 2006 05:45

Satan was cast out because of pride, feeling he is better than Adam (peace be upon him), so doesn't want to give respect to Adam (pbuh). When anyone of us let our ego ride on us, making us feel we are better than the other.... then we are on the road to destruction! I understand how you feel... like an outsider... I feel like that too last time before I fell in love with the creator.... and then I realise that everything that happens before your eyes is your creator trying you and also it is always a blessing behind it if you can only see it with your heart! The Almighty wants something better for you and maybe the message for you is Islam meaning "submission to peace" or "wiil of God" is a way for all human beings to find the way to be closer to God. Some may verbally say they "submit to peace" but in practical, thru' their actions, they are not "submitting to peace". The actions of those people shouldn't demoralise you or sway you from the straight path and indeed you should use it as a mirror to reflect on yourself and improve and do as many good deeds. The purity of your heart in remembering Allah and doing as many good deeds will shine and others will be attracted to you like a magnet! Believe me, that man and his family who rejected you was never fated for you....because you are fated to marry Mr.......Coming Soon! Allah loves you and your heart should always be firstly for Allah.... Hope my long expreesion doesn't bored you... cause I speak from my heart! As for me, I feel like a billionaire, because I have good health which no money can buy and more importantly, I have the love of God always in my heart! Nothing else matter! Peace be with you & All!


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Posted on Fri, Jun 16, 2006 18:55

ASSALAMOUALAIKOUM NO NO NO!!!!! Islam sees no colour!!! The family in question is wrong!!!! I will be honest with you, that mentality is more tradition than religion and unfortunately the generation above myself and upwards still have that idiotic view. A classic recent example is Malcom X pls read or watch the film (although watching is a lot easier!!!) Please have faith, I will pray for you inshallah, take care.


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Posted on Fri, Jun 16, 2006 14:52

a muslim born gets credit for bein muslim a convert muslim gets double credit for there deeds.at the end allah will reward u patience is the key my sis allah maak


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