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Posted on Sat, Nov 25, 2006 11:22

My friend who is single and has never been married, was once very adamant that she would not mind if her husband were to take another wife. She feels this is what a true-believing woman should do, let live and let go, let love and let share... until she read a poignant email from a woman who has actually done it. Imagine. One chilly winter night, you sleep all alone since a very long time ago, while your husband feels all snug from another person's warmth on his wedding night. Sigh... Sometimes, one cannot help but feel human. You think you are mentally prepared for it, but it's a whole different story altogether when it comes. ...Which reminds me of a time when I asked a married man why he was looking for a second wife, to which he gave such an unsatisfactory reply of, "Because I can afford it." Then I started telling him that he will never know what it feels like for a woman and went on with the above story of the one-chilly-winter-night. The man said, "You don't have to sleep all alone. We can ALL sleep together..." Now is it just me, or something is REALLY wrong here?


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Posted on Wed, Dec 05, 2007 03:18

Salaam my dear sister Sheryne i hope you and yours are in the best of health and content with life Insha'Allah. the simple answer to your question is YES there is something wrong,very wrong,in the answer the brother gave. take care Allah hafiz


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Posted on Tue, Nov 28, 2006 18:41

Assalamualaikum, To share husband does not meant to share bed.......and I believe that is not practise by Prophet Muhammad (s.a.w) himself. The heart is soft and fragile, once it break, it could break the marriage....... Follow the lust ONLY, will not last the marriage.......but will end with disaster......... Follow the Sunnah (polygamy), but DO NOT FOLLOW the Sunnah (the behaviour of Prophet Muhammad s.a.w and the teachings of the Prophet) will ONLY invite disaster in the marriage...... Most polygamy marriages are not successful, NOT because of Islamic rulings, but because human behaviour and weaknesses...... Don't only follow the Sunnah only(polygamy marriages), but the MOST IMPORTANT the Sunnah, the behaviour of the Prophet Muhammad in the family, as the head of the family........show good examples to the family, respect by them, but NOT feared by them....... Do not take Polygamy marriages as something ENJOYABLE and A PRIVEALAGE and AN ADVANTAGE, because we need to ANSWER EVERYTHING in the Day of Judgement........ Wallahu a'lam ALLAH KNOWS BEST.


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