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Posted on Sun, Nov 26, 2006 19:45

Bismillaahir Rahmaanir Raheem. In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful. Below are Hadiths, and comments made by DR MUHAMMAD ALI AL-HASHIIMI, Riyadh-translated by Nasiruddin al-Khattab, 2205. "No believing man should hate a believing woman. If he dislikes one her characteristics, there will be others that do please him." (Hadith - Muslim) The Prophet (s.a.w) explained that even if a husband dislikes his believing Muslim wife, she will still have some favourable characteristics which will please him, so he should not ignore the good side of her character and focus only on the negative aspects. Words of Allah in Holy Quran (4:19), " ......live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah brings about through it a great deal of good." This aayah touches the heart of the true Muslim, so that his anger is soothed and his dislke towards his wife is lessened. In this way Islam protects the sacred marriage bond from being exposed to the danger of turbulent emotions and the folly of changing moods. When a man came to 'Umar ibn al-Khattaab and told him that he wanted to divorce his wife because he disliked her, 'Umar said, "Woe to you! Are families only built on love? Where is your consideration and care?" The true Muslim cannot do other than obey his Lord; so he treats his wife well even if he dislikes her, because he understands the words of his wise Lord about the things that are hidden from him, and they are many. A man may dislike something and try to distance himself from it. A man may dislike something and try to distance himself from it, when in fact it is full of goodness and blessing. The true Muslim knows how to love and how to hate. Love is not blind for him, neither does he go to extremes of dislike and hatred, but in either case his attitude is moderate and balanced. The Prophet(s.a.w) gave many recommendations concerning women, to the extent that he described the man who treats his wife well as being one of the best and among the elite of his ummah: "The believer who has the most perfect faith is the one whose behaviour is best, and the best of you are the ones who are best to their women." (Hadith ) Author: DR MUHAMMAD ALI AL-HASHIMI Translated by Nasiruddin al-Khattab. Riyadh, Saudi Arabia.


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