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Posted on Tue, May 02, 2006 17:05

Salam, I have been in a relationship for 1 year with a traditional Muslim but I was born a Catholic and I have accepted Islam in my heart. My boyfriend and I suppose to get married soon INSHALLAH I am very nervous about getting married I want to be a good wife and mother so if anyone could give me some advise on marriage or what u might think about my situation


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Posted on Fri, Jun 02, 2006 05:18

Salamu Alaykum my daughter Aisha Allah (SWT) bless you suceess in your marriage life Aamin..Aamin..Aamin Allah (SWT) Said "Those who believe, and whose hearts find satisfaction in the remembrance of Allah: for without doubt in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find satisfaction. you must be in all your time in remembrance of Allah then you will find satisfaction in your heart


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Posted on Sun, May 21, 2006 10:52

sallam.. sister allah S.w.t bless u suceess in ur marriage life .....Aamin first few website links many of them are very informative and some are specific for new converts into Islam. I will, later, provide you with further sites allahafiz


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Posted on Sun, May 21, 2006 08:13

just go for it islim will nevr let you down .sistr allh be with you.fallow your hart .


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 20:53

hi wisdom. i am dawood from india.it was good to hear tht ur in a realationship wid a musklim guy and u ve embarrased Islam in ur heart nwill be marrying him soon. i am realy happy for u. even I am in arelation ship wid a hindu girl who loves me a lot.but evenshe has grown feelings in her heart for islam.so i wish n pray for u tht may Allah shower his blessings upon u. and giving u suggestion i would say tht u should try to learn and know more n more abt Islam throgh books,Quran(if u can do it),Internet and people too.it will be beneficial.bcoz knowledge is a big power. .byes .take care.khudahafiz.


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Posted on Fri, May 19, 2006 14:28

hi i want see see u all i am gull age 28 me from pakistan Karachi


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Posted on Thu, May 18, 2006 15:59

Let Allah (swt) guide you by learning more about the deen and praying your salah, try to pray isti-karrah namaz it will guide you!!!!!!!!!! May Allah reward you Sister!!!!!!!!!!


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Posted on Tue, May 16, 2006 18:55

Assalaamu'alaykum sister May Allaah Bless u and ur Marriage life. Aaaamiin...


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Posted on Tue, May 16, 2006 18:51

Here are the tips on 'How to be a Successful Muslim Wife' If you don't understand any of these, I invite you to a meaningful, enlightening dialogue to dispel any doubts. Please do e-mail me. Please do not carry around with you wrong impressions. Wrong impressions can be and have been fatal. 1. Use your 'Fitnah' (beauty and overtures of allurement) to win the heart of your husband. All women have the ornaments that Allah blessed them with. Use the beauty Allah - Azza wa Jal - has bestowed you with to win the heart of your husband. 2. When your husband comes home, greet him with a wonderful greeting. Imagine your husband coming home to a clean house, an exquisitely dressed wife, a dinner prepared with care, children clean and sweet smelling, a clean bedroom - what would this do to his love for you? Now imagine what the opposite does to him. 3. Review the characteristics of the Hoor Al-Ayn and try to imitate them The Qur'an and Sunnah describe the women in Jannah with certain characteristics. Such as the silk they wear, their large dark eyes, their singing to their husband, etc. Try it, wear silk for your husband, put Kohl in your eyes to 'enlarge' them, and sing to your husband. 4. Always wear jewellery and dress up in the house. From the early years, little girls have adorned themselves with earrings and bracelets and worn pretty dresses - as described in the Qur'an. As a wife, continue to use the jewellery that you have and the pretty dresses for your husband. 5. Joke and play games with your husband. A mans secret: they seek women who are light-hearted and have a sense of humour. As Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - told Jabir to marry someone who would make him laugh and he would make her laugh. 6. Thank your husband constantly for the nice things he does. Then thank him again. This is one of the most important techniques, as the opposite is a characteristic of the women of hellfire. 7. An argument is a fire in the house. Extinguish it with a simple 'I'm sorry' even if it is not your fault. When you fight back, you are only adding wood to the fire. Watch how sweetly an argument will end when you just say sincerely, "Look, I'm sorry. Let's be friends." 8. Always seek to please your husband, for he is your key to Jannah. Rasul Allah - sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam - taught us that any women who dies in a state where her husband is pleased with her, shall enter Jannah. So .. please him. 9. Listen and Obey! Obeying your husband is Fard! Your husband is the Ameer of the household. Give him that right and respect. 10. Make Dua to Allah to make your marriage and relationship successful. All good things are from Allah. Never forget to ask Allah ta'ala for the blessing of having a successful marriage that begins in this Dunya and continues on - by the Mercy of Allah ta'ala - into Jannah. For attractive lips, Speak words of kindness. For lovely eyes, Seek out the good in people. For a slim figure, Share your food with the hungry. For beautiful hair, Let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day. For poise, Walk with the knowledge you'll never walk alone. People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed, and redeemed; Never throw out anybody. Remember, If you ever need a helping hand, you'll find one at the end of your arm. As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others. The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, The figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole, but true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows, And the beauty of a woman with passing years-only grows . . . from a sister


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Posted on Tue, May 16, 2006 13:52

sallam am in a releletion ship with a british married muslim. now i am a muslim of nearly four yesrs but we are still not married hes says he can or when the time is right. As a muslim sister its wrong but we love one another very much what should \i do walk away he still keeps me from his family and make to make matters worse his wife is very ill


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Posted on Mon, May 15, 2006 17:48

Asalamu alaikum my dear sister welcome to this deen of islam. i must tell you that i do hope the reason for you becoming a muslim was because of the love and fear for Allah if not you can run into some problems eventually. Marriage is half your deen and it does not come easy you have to work at it i have been married for 4 years now and i can tell you it is a test fear Allah in everything you do and try to make each other happy at all times.


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Posted on Mon, May 15, 2006 16:01

Salam sister, I am in swizerland but now I am moving to sweden because I have a nationality of Sweden . Dont be afraid of marriage .Ifyou love a person, God would help YOU. Please pray for me That I would meet some gOOD muslim woman INSHALLAH. ARIF


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Posted on Sat, May 06, 2006 21:49

Salaam my sister, Thank you very much for your advise I am sure that it would help me very much. I just want to do the best I can on being a wife and a mother, and INSHA ALLAH I will be.I believe being a good mother and wife is a blessing and I hope that ALLAH BLESSES me to be a good muslim, a good wife and a good mother. So my sister thank you again and MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU.


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Posted on Sat, May 06, 2006 21:29

Salam, I, too, welcome you to Islam and am very happy for you on your ur up comming marriage. Advice about marriage: 1. Respect, each need to treat the other with respect and kindness. 2. Communication is very important, you both might be different but that can be over come by talking things over. 3. Compromise, each should be willing to meet in the middle of each arguement/ issue and see the other's point of view. 4.Faith in everything epecially in God, things happen for a reason whether we want them or not. 5.Lots of hard work. Nothing in life that is worth anything comes easy. Marriage and raising kids are the hardest jobs any person can have but the rewards are the worth every ounce invested. 6. Romance (maybe this should be first) Each should try to make the other feel special, happy. This is something that needs to be worked on especially after kids because they take lots of your time, but you should not forget your husband and his desire for you. This is all that i can think of right now.. hope it helps...Good luck!


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Posted on Sat, May 06, 2006 09:46

Salaam, thank you all so much for leaving such inspirational messages, I have all these feelings inside and I am happy that I could explain and everyone will understand. So thank you all once again and MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU ALL.


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Posted on Fri, May 05, 2006 13:07

walaykumsalam Sister Mashallah and welcome to Islam.Allhamdullilah our Islam have equal rights to both men and women,but condition varies for different different aspects of life.Inshallah you can be better wife obeying what quran &Sunnah says.YOu can be ideal wife&mother just by following Quran and Sunnah.Islam is the way of living ,it teaches how to eat,live in society and much more. Marhaba and welcome to Islam and Happy Marriage Sister. May Allah accept you as atrue Muslimah. Jazakallah Assalamualaykum


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Posted on Fri, May 05, 2006 12:50

Assalamuaikum my sister, Alhamdulliah to Allah SWT, that HE has chosed to give you hidayat to the path to Islam. Pray and ask HIS guidance to give you the strenght and wisdom in your matrimony. Anybody getting married would be nervous. It is a big change, INSYALLAH, the change would be beneficial to both you and your future husband.


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Posted on Fri, May 05, 2006 08:55

Assalaam o alaicom sister, First of all, I and all the muslims welcome you to the muslim community. Only momins will enter the JANNAT (paradise) after the judgement day and you should be proud of being one. Forget all the sins that you have made as being a christian as all those sins are erased from your being and now after converting to islam you are like a newly born child as pure as white. Sister about your worries and situation, i think thats not a big deal. if your husband to be is a good muslim and he is fulfiling all the requiremients of Islam especially the 5 pillars, then dont you worry. Try to be like him and see the world in a total different way. by the way, one last thing, dont involve yourself or your husband in any situation which will create a difficult scenario for you as nowadays muslims are not called muslims in the states but terrorists. Insha Allah you will succeed in you new being. try to learn Quran and pray. Allah is the only one who listens to you and he is the greatest. Regards, Amjad Ali Ghulam Murtaza


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Posted on Fri, May 05, 2006 08:32

Sister, this is not a problem. A muslim can marry anyone, who believes in God, and his prophets. So, as a christian, he can also marry you. This is your good decision that you become muslim and I am very sure, that if he practiced Islam and is a good muslim. You will be happy forever with him.


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Posted on Fri, May 05, 2006 01:28

Yes really you can.the moslem can mareg from another relegions dont be afred about that and if allah want you are going to be the happiest lady


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