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Haleemah
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Posted on Mon, Jul 10, 2006 05:53

Salaam All Tell me why do people like to assume something about a person when not even knowing them? Tell me why are most men soooooooooo one sided that they really can't think straight or put 2 and 2 together... Like I placed a profile on one site... Mostly are Desi... didn't really think nothing of it since I saw several other nationalities up there... Not that many but a few. Now automatically some men assume because I am african-american that I know nothing... At first it bugged me but now I'm like bump it... Never judge a book by it's color or a person in my case. Yes I am african-american/West indian. Yes I didn't grow up rich... But I know 3 languages other then English.... "SHOCKING" BUT when a person judge then they miss out on all the beauty inside. Arabic French and urdu/hindi.. no I may not be fluent in them But I can understand quite a bit. Sadly many men on this sights would over look me because of my color... and their assupmtions. And many men that are of the same origin would over look me because I am not what they too assume I'd be. Which leave me sitting here with an arch eyebrow... I can't deny who I am not change how Allah has created me... Nor can I change the views of others... But I see them as being ignorant. All I can do if forgive them and let go...

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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 19:45

friendship?????????????


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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 13:50

Salam sister, As an African American myself I can relate to this but alot of people are sterotyped by their ethnic background and its sickening to me that these things are still taking place. Only a wise person knows that a person can/should only be judged by their character, not the color of their skin or their ethnic background. Me I pay no mind to the ignorant ones,I'm an educated African American woman thats employed as a medical assistant and I'm pursuing my education to become a nurse. So sister all I can say to you is keep your head high put God first and leave all the ignorant ones to God, he will handle them. God bless


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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 13:25

im sorry to here that sister dont pay any attn.to these ppl of certain behavior..for no one can judge but allah in the end salaam


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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 09:06

Assalammualaikum Sister, I understand deeply how u feel. Not all men are one sided and not all humans are like that. Maybe because all of us living in this world have preferences. It's good that u have come to terms to bump on it-it is a learning lesson to make u grow stronger. What doesn't kills u, makes u stronger. It is the best for u not to look at them the way how they think low of u due to colors, races, cultures or religions because what comes around goes around. Even Allah don't look down on HIS creation, who are we to look down or comment on them? I know it is hard to let it go but if u rest this in the hands of ALLAH, nothing else matters. When others look down on u, u should praise ALLAH more for u have been given this test to go through maybe for the best that through this test-Heaven paradise is the place u belong. When others praise u, u should praise ALLAH and be contented of what HE has given u so that u stay humble always. Even if u are in despair and low morale, just remember how Mohammad the Prophet went through when he was criticized and humiliate infront of the public but still he pray for that person so that ALLAH open his heart to be good. Since all of us comes from different cultures, beliefs and races, that makes us unique in getting know each other-like what i say: different people has different preferences... maybe just for you... if you are waiting for the right guy.. it's not the time yet. ALLAH knows best. HE is the AL MIGHTY .. HE gives you what u need rather than what you want. When HE hears your cries and your prayers and your wishes, HE gives you the best of what u need. Sometimes, we have to look at ourselves and ask.. "what are our sins we have done that we deserve all this". I am sorry if in any ways of what i said hurt your feeling directly or indirectly but as a muslim sister, it is my duty to advise.


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Haleemah
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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 08:27

Thank you for your response


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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 08:23

It's jsut amazes me how people are. I just can't gather How can we say "we're strong muslims," and quick to add that as our stamp but yet be so blind... is it our egos that have us think this way?


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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 07:07

Asalaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmatullaye Wa Barakatuhu. Bismillaye ArRahmane ArRahhime. Al Hamdulillaye Rabbil Alamine. Al praise is du to Allah (SWT). Dear Sister in Islam, You expressed a legitimate concern. The behavior you noticed is not concomitant with Islamic Principles. The criterion for choosing a spouse is his/her eemaan, taqwa, fear of Allah (SWT)and abiding by the Shariah and the Sunna. In your shoes, I would not worry too much tough. You are young, beautiful, educated and talented. Be patient, put your trust in Allah (SWT), increase your knowledge of Islam to improve your deen and your acts of worship; increase your professional skills to better yourself. It may be that Allah (SWT) has in reserve for someone better than the one you were expecting. This word of advice is actually for everybody who seems to be desappointed and has started loosing patience. In shah Allah, the right man for you will come along very soon. Wa salaam.


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Posted on Tue, Jul 11, 2006 02:38

Assalamo Alaykom Sister, Unfortunately that is one of our biggest problems as humans. People, even ones who claim strong religious piety and practice make the mistake of judging others. Stay strong sister, put your trust in Allah, make duaa and inshaallah with some sabr, Allah will send you a salih man worthy of you. I actually admire anyone like yourself, who strive to learn and grow in their faith. Other people's opinions should not bother you, nor should they matter at all. Allah is our only judge, and anyone who thinks they can share that trait with Allah are sadly misguided. I know this Internet process can be quite disappointing and not very productive. Ishaallah with sabr and duaa a real man, one who truely understands Islam and Islamic character, will appear when you least expect it. And, by the way, you have beautiful skin both in colour and complexion. Allah be with you and all muslims.


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