As people seeking love,we have a picture in our minds of what the perfect and ideal partner would be like, how they would look, sound smell etc. We tend to set the bar high and then realise the flaws in people we meet and are quick to dismiss them. Usman019.
salaam.the reason why it appears it is difficult to find the right partner is because most people put obstacles up in their own path.people tend to find the minutest faults in others and then say they can't find anyone without realising their own faults.i'm not sure faults is the right word but i'm hoping you know what i mean.as long you realise nobody is perfect finding a partner will be that much easier.a bond between partners should grow not weaken after marriage,faults or no faults.take care,Allah hafiz.
salaam sister suriyaa... i didn't disagree with u either but it seemed to me that u were kinda posing a question as to why bother worship ping men..lol..2b very frank..well if lyf was as easy as u see it then we would all be happy..but unfortunately society traps women therefore they feel angry...most women wouldn't want another man on their doorsteps, but getting rid of the one who is in their lives takes guts..BIG time
salaam sister surayaa...unfortunately its true that a women does worship the ground that her husband walks on...this is why he is called the majis kuda..[god like]..its in the hadith as well cant remember where but will find out n quote here..
most women do this not coz they think that their husbands are another GOD..but it is maybe because he has shown her so much love n respect that she is in love with him 24/7..
take a look at that situation when the prophet moses went up in to the mountains to face his lord his mother would pray behind him to ask for forgiveness because he would go up the mountain with his shoes on....heaven is beneath Ur mothers feet n the women whose husband is not pleased with her..then Allah is not pleased with her also....hopefully later on i will quote the books n the pages where i get my source from..
it doesnt mean that men who are literally worshiped by their wives are gods..its just that they love them so much that they remember them as often as they do Allah [SWT]
salam all, what is the right man? most sisters think it should be one who worships them alone...wake upto polygamy. Allah (swt) created man/woman to worship him, not each other. If the guy feels the need to talk to other women....let him get on with it..bitterness is not going to change him. Besides it gives you more time to induldge in improving urself, cooking classes, dance classes, gym activities, the list is endless. So come on girls use your imagination and make your self happy, instead of seething about him!
i onced asked someone why men tend to be less romantic after they are married to the women they have been chasing for so long...and the answar i got was that they dont need to catch the bus anymore...personally i really dont think that its bad that hes on the net...only problem is wot is he saying...if both of u can trust each other then it should'nt really matter, by the way why are u on the net?
I am AtaUllah >> ia m from Palestine>> I would like to say about finding a right man when and who>> when you keep praying and be a honest with all people and when u follow oue greate religion of Islam Allah will grant you the right man u wish.
The right man who follows the Islam instruction and try to apply it.
True man or Right man? I think many people have this problem : finding right person to be their patner.
In my opinion, the thing that makes right man hard to find is ourselves. if we back on say that "nobody is perfect" it might everything is gonna be very simple. We won't so demanding to our partner to be what we want them to be. if we could accept the way they are, try to understand them as we want them to understand us, think their less at as much as their good at and work together to make incredible relationship in Islam way, InsaAllah the right man is right up ur nose.
Our right partner hasn't come to us yet maybe now is not the right time yet. Maybe we aren't ready to get them yet. maybe there are so manything that we have to done before someone get into our life.
Just believe to Allah that He always give the best for us whether its sad or happy, hard or easy. Allah won't gave or cancel anything for us without no reason (Insa Allah). There is always reason why something happen or not happen, come or not coming yet. Allah loves us. InsaAllah everything is gonna be OK.
The think that I want to know is What is a perfect man? is there anything perfect in this world? if this world is meant to be perfect, so why do we need to go to heaven then?
we are put here to be tested and be patients; the only thing we can do is to follow what our instinct will tells us to do. I hear people saying that they are relying on Allah to provide them with what they need; I say what you need to be relying on yourself; Allah didn't create us so he can work for us; we are the ones who have work for ourselves.
I'm not trying to be pessimist about this whole thing, however we need to start to learn how to Ahmed Allah and settle for what we have; if you can't find the right man, it won't be the end of the world, instead of feeling depressed about it try to find a hobby and enjoy your life.
Sounds like an adulturer to me AnNour, although I'm told a muslim male can have up to 4 wives. Are you the only one as of yet? In my case, it is simply not possible. I'm lucky if one woman wants me , let alone 4.
A good man is created for a good woman. That's what has been written in Islam. Do not hesitate to move up your step in finding a true man.Prepare yourself to be a good woman and your 'prince charming' will be coming very soon. InsyaAllah.
sister. its not hard to find a true man i have been married for 3 years and my husband is perfect. he is very understanding and we are best friends as well as a couple. there is somebody amde for you out there. you just have to look. be patient. ALLAH has made someone for everyone