Assalamu Alaikom brothers and sisters, please read my story and give your comment.
I was born Muslim and never practiced my religion. I started dating my girlfriend 3 years ago. Just during this time I was finding out about Islam as I was not informed welll by my parents. I met her in a night class that we didn't need to attend. (Chemistry Class) Shes an Italian catholic and I am Muslim, so she didn't introduce me to her family until 5 months ago. I was not practicing Muslim at the time, so I didn't think of the problems that may interrupt, and I didn't know the Italian tradition. I have been the best boyfriend one could ever be. I don't drink, go out clubbing, I never socialized with girls. I never flirt. I was texting her every morning, night, skyped with her every day. I was trying to be best of a Muslim I could. I prayed 5 times during these 3 years. I would be there every second for her (100% committed). She has told me multiple times that if she didn't met me she would look for a guy with all the qualities I possess, which is hard to find..
We were so committed and we would always spend time and be happy and almost never argue or be upset at each other. She was so in love with me that even little thing she would always pick up on and be jealous/insecure.
Her parents accepted me at first,(2 years into relationship when I met them) her dad even decided to take my tires to his garage for winter. Her mom would make me dinners, her sister liked me... I would always clean after my food when I eat, offer my help. I never spent time with her alone out of respect for her parents (So they don't think we're doing something bad). I was saving her for marriage also and would not have sexual intercourse as she wanted it too.
When I was over at their place I would always get into discussions with her father, who knew I was Muslim and would always ask me about politics, religion, society etc...
I was helping her sister with essays during my studying at night while her sister would be partying. I made her (my ex) go to college, and forced her to study. I made her better person, i made her be more respectful towards her parents and not drink and go out as much as she used to. I have helped her use her reason rather than emotions when she's making a decision...I would always buy stuff for her mom and Dad when I would go over and be respectful and treat them amazing. I would buy them stuff on occasions and offer her father to clean his garage/backyard. After few months her father told her that I am not type of a guy who wants to make a lot of money in the future. (Although I am studying double major in political science and sociology at University of Ottawa). He told her also to stop seeing me as it is not going to work due to our traditional and religious differences. He said I might change her and become extremist..
I was a man, I went to speak to him although he has never told me any of this. I confronted her parents in a respectful manner. Her dad told me he didn't want to take a chance because I am Muslim. I cried in front of him, pleased him but nothing.. He told her, that it is such a waste that I am perfect guy but Muslim.
After he brainwashed her, she was telling me later that it might not workout in the future because of our traditions, which she would never bring before ( before I met them and while i was going over)Since then (we have been hiding together for 3-4 months seeing in the car meeting at coffee places, she would come over, while her parents would call her and be concerned. At this point her father would always tell her to stop seeing me - the faster the better and the faster she will get over it.Recently (1 month and about 2 weeks ago) she was very cold, I didn't know what it was..i saw her in a car few days later and asked her what it was and she started crying and hugging me and kissing..and kept kissing me...Next couple of days she was cold again..I couldn't take it anymore so I asked her what was it? She told me the next day she was dealing with her own issues ...
So I asked her did she want a break from me to see what she wants - thinking that she would never leave me due to her love for me. She called me 10 minutes later and said 2 weeks break was fine... and 2nd day in a break I called her freaking out saying how much i miss her and love her and cant be without talking to her... She was upset and said we aren't supposed to talk during our break. I realized she was never talking to me like that. So cold, different person, different girl I knew... I asked her if she is trying to forget me? She said "maybe".. I realized, I got a long way to go.. I tried telling her that we didn't try a lot of other stuff like (counseling, letters to her dad - that I intended to write) she said it isn't worth it maybe and that no normal couples do this...At one point she even told me even if her parents accepted it she is not sure. But, when her parents liked me and had me over she was the happiest girl ever, so that tells me that it is all because of her parents...One day after that, she called me and told me she doesn't want to waste my time and keep me waiting 2 weeks as our relationship wont work due to her father and traditional differences and different things she wants to do in the future (although I told her to do whatever she wants with kids as long as I can get to keep her