Hello mate, For God sake do not listen to anyone on this message board apart from nasreen2002, shes cool. When asking for advise you need to go people that have experience,knowledge, wisdom and understanding. Most people dont understand what sexuality means because from birth they have been told how to think. On top of this most people truly dont know their own sexuality. Please dont go to to any religious man either they will tell you something of the effect that the devil is in you and you and i know that is rubbish. You need to first of all understand yourself and your feelings and in order to do this you need to go to a councilor who specialises in this subject. If you need your hand held through this process i will be willing to help. I have only joined this website today so i have no photo and have not got a gold membership. Please get in touch. DO NOT under any circumstances BELIVE YOU ARE NOT IMPORTANT or VALUABLE YOU ARE. Peace be apon you.
The more you think of any subject the more you are in it. This is the basic known to all. Very simple and very meaningful.
Use this idea. Do not think about man any more. Think of woman 24/7 and then after 3-6 months get married to a nice lady and get a kid and then your idea of being a gay will melt in the air.
Islam makes it haram. So would you disobey Allah and Rasul? If you do, then hell will be the only place[koran 72:23]
Please remember out of everyone above or anywhere your God is the most forgiving, merciful and understand you best. Try to keep a relationship with Him, remember Him, pray to Him, meditate and take time to think in a quiet place.
I have to admit I don
t know the solution. I find it hard to understand if this is your sexuality how it could be wrong for you to be with a man and right to be with a woman or be alone when you actually want to be with someone? I guess if the world is that simple we won't need a brain.
God is the best judge of what you do no matter what everyone says and pray to Him to guide you.
I hope He will increase our understanding and make our paths easier.
According to Islamic Shariah, every child born Muslim, not gay. I don?t believe Allah wants you to be gay. Saytan has been playing games with your life, nothing else, you need to beat the saytan; this is a trap from saytan, (because his objective is to lead us in to Jahannam/Hell Fire); if u accept that you are a gay then saytan wins and in that case you never gonna be able to get out of saytans loop.
After all you do not want to be burn yourself into the Hell Fire.
I strongly believe if you want to change, you can, by the help of Allah (subhana wa talaa).
No one can help you change, Except ALLAH (s.w.t). I think you already know that Allah is the controller of our heart. Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) used to pray, O Allah turn our heart towards Deen.
Remember that story in the Holy Quran, Prophet Lut?s time, those people did not follow Prophet Lut, and did haraam things such as - - - they chose man over women, which mean they were gay.
Allah destroyed those wrong doers.
Please seek help from a religious scholar locally, pray five times a day
and Allah will protect you from salat to salat.
You may recite this Dua often times (for purity always check with the religious scholar before implementing):
Brother, you?re not ready to marry a woman yet, you need to clean up junk from your heart first (as a matter of fact many among us need to clean our heart), then think about taking care of a woman. Even you met someone nice, it will be good idea to have her wait while you?re cleaning up rust from your heart. Read Quran everyday, at least little bit at a time. It will clean your heart and bring barakah in your life.
When you are reading Quran, remember Allah is talking with you, so be very careful and try to understand every word in it, find someone who can explain Quran to you, because Quran needs interpretation, we can not understand Quran by ourselves. We need help from religious scholar (to understand the deeper meaning of it. (it does not matter what language we speak, read and write).
Before making decision:
Seek guidance from Allah (s.w.t), and do ISTIKHARA
I believe Allah will guide you to the right way, because He knows what best for you.
May Allah protect us from all kinds of saytans influence and guide us to the right path.
BlueLion write: I have to agree with R4TW that if you think you are gay don't try to marry a gal. You need to find out more about yourself first. Getting married is not an answer.
It is easy for those of us who are heterosexual to assume that being gay is wrong. May be it is will of Allah that some people are born gay.
what you said is incorrect.Allah punisht the people of Lut(a.s.) because they were gay and not repending turning to Allah.every born baby is muslim till the parent teaches other religion or infidelity. Shaytan makes the weak people believe that they are gay.most important factor is salah,when 1 pray 5 times a day with sincerety no way can he/she have feelings for the same sex thus Allah protects the believers.
[47.11] That is because Allah is the Protector of those who believe, and because the unbelievers shall have no protector for them.
In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
Estafirallah,say towbah you are straight. These things happen when people are weak and if they are not strong in faith.No one is born Gay. This seytans work. you should seek a spiritual doctor in your environment. Dont let them fool you they work for free they ll help you furter. Ask around they are located in every country.
May Allah guide us all and help us against the tricks of seytan.
There is no such thing that you are a gay and cannot do something about it, it is just psychological, remember that you live in a country that believes in that as a "freedom of choice" the science was twisted to make that freedom socially acceptable, that is wrong, you just need to get your confidence and you need a woman who would help you to get that confidence back. Good luck