>>That is why you fall in LOVE with your husband not other guys
guys, is this not a catch 22 or what? how do you not fall in love with a guy...what other way is there to get a husband? and if you have a husband you shouldn't be falling in love with anyone. anyway, falling in love is not a bad thing so long as it's pure. that means no bad intentions, lustful thoughts, sexuality, and deceit. letting someone rule you, on the other hand, is a bad thing and usually diverts one away from God. just keep it kosher guys...God made us for each other!
Assalaamu Alaykum, interesting question: wot's luv? on a social and obsrvable basis, i'd rekon it would b the unsuspecting, unintentional development of a greater affection and partiality towards someone.
It would probably develop if someone is really kind to u and you see in them characteristics that please u, alot, alot (lol, got nothing to do wi' money) it's only natural that you would be inclined towards them, feel obliged to them, as though you owe em, n' have to thank them, want to b by them, and in thier company ect. etc. But the more u hear abt and see um and think about them the more they grow on ye, and then u become 'a bit', no actually 'very' hyped up about them and that individaul pervades all your thoughts... That's my understanding of how 'that' sort of love (lad-lass lov) develops. And then, indeed there are boundaries that we musn't surpass. Our ability to love and sometimes too much can be a negative ting, but by it Allaah tests us all.
'And among His Signs is this, that He created you (Adam) from dust, and then [Hawwa' (Eve) from Adam's rib, and then his offspring from the semen, and], - behold you are human beings scattered! (Ar-Rum 30:20)
'And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.' (Ar-Rum 30:21)
From personal experience i dont think you can help who you fall in love with but you can control what you do and don't do and we've got to remember that everything is a test from Allah. He gives what he thinks is right afterall he knows what we don't, it isn't easy being as Muslim in a non-Muslim society though.
Assalym alikum, I feel that when your spirit is ready you will find yourself in front of the person who is right for you god willing. Sometimes when you are lost you find yourself in the right place and at the time god sets for you. If you are not ready you will learn many lessons until you do. I mean find out who you are as a muslim woman search your heart your soul and most of all your spirit. When you truly know deep down what you want for your future Allah will do the rest. He is most compassionate oft knowing and always full of mercy. He always knows best especially when we think we do. Do not be blinded or deceived by what you think you want now, but learn from it and it will help to build your character always pleasing to Allah.
Best of luck on your journey may Allah be with you throughout holding your torch for you.
i have met a black-american man. at first it was all frienship but then got serios....i asked him what he thinks of islam. he said he respects all religions and that if he was to marry awomen he'dpractice her religion. anyway, i didn't have no feelings for him because he was older and i was only 19 and he was 36...
after a while, when i cut him off, he became a muslim. i wonder why? is it becuase he was madly in love with me OR he wanted to become a muslim?
It is only natural and in accordance with the ?fitrah? bestowed by Allah Subhanah that a man and woman are naturally attracted to each other. To like or be attracted towards someone is not a sin, but what one does after this attraction will determine whether the act is a sin or not. If one submits to this natural physical attraction of nature and transgresses the boundaries of Allah Subhanah, it would indeed be a grave sin in the sight of the Lord. It is indeed commendable and noble, and a sign of your faith and belief in Allah and the Last Day, that in spite of your feelings towards the man you have controlled your ?nafs?, feared Allah Subhanah, and striven to conduct your affairs within the boundaries of the Majestic Lord. Allah Subhanah indeed loves His believing slaves who fear Him and strive to live within His boundaries, and He has promised an un-ending reward for such of His righteous slaves.
Beloved and dear sister in Islam, whatever you do, fear Allah Subhanah, and His Anger and Wrath on those who transgress His Boundaries; and do not approach a non-mehram woman until you marry her. Shaytaan is an open enemy to man and he constantly inspires man to transgress the boundaries of the Merciful Lord; so treat Shaytaan as an enemy and seek refuge from Allah Subhanah from Shaytaan?s evil desires and inspirations.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 35 Surah Fatir verses 5-6:
5 O mankind! Certainly the promise of Allah is true. Let not then this present life deceive you, nor let the Chief Deceiver (Shaytaan) deceive you about Allah.
6 Verily, the Shaytaan is an enemy to you: so treat him as an enemy! He only invites his adherents that they may become Companions of the Blazing Fire.
Dear and Beloved sister in Islam, the only thing that can save man from the transgressing Allah?s Boundaries is the fear and solemn belief that...
you must love the right one the one who love you dont let your feelings move to some one till ypu you know that he loves you love the one who make god a bove every thing and you must know that god is the first and the last love when you know that god will send you a very nice,kind and honest guy never hurts you and you must know that islam is love and all muslims love each other
i love you in allah
god bless you
If you fall inlove with a non-muslim. Look at all aspects. Are they pure? And will they accept ALLAH?
If that is not the case than perhaps it was a test.
Someone asked what if you got hurt?
well from my experience ALLAH puts us all thru all kinds of tests. It is for us to realise the 'bigger picture' What do you learn from the experience?
Did you and your partner neglect to serve ALLAH?
Was it a respectful trustworty relationship or one of an abusive nature?
Did you and your partner respect each others individuality?
Does your partner stunt your growth or does he encourage you in your ineterests etc (of course still adhering to the laws of Shariah!)
So look at all this.
And most importantly, make Istigara -- ask HIM (SWT) who seeth and knowest all!!
as a response to ferari, i think that you elready respond your question about love, and my advice is to give the girl a chance to know you better. Maybe she's refusing you juste because you were introduced to her by parents and felt that she didn't chose you by her-self.
try to talk to her to know eatch other from the begining , and chow her that you are really intrested in her and i hope that things will go better inchallah
Dear sister.. Let me share a little of my experience. I fell in love wif a Russian & Australian guy while i did my undergraduate studies overseas. I try to keep it at friendship level since they are non-muslims. When feelings get deeper & things get serious, i ask their take on Islam. When they think nothing about it, i just have to stop my feelings for them. For i believe there should be no one above God, esp a non-Muslim. I cannot let my heart rule me.
It was difficult. I repeat, very difficult. But remembering my promise to Allah & being true 2 him, I get by in life. Alhamdullilah.