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  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 08:40 PM

    Bismillah ar-Rhaman ar-Rahiem

    As-Salaam alaykum brothers and sisters,

    I have only been a member here for about a week now but I must say there is a big slack on muslim respect here. I only wish to comment because I posted my information and when I started getting floods of e-mails from men who were "looking" I realized that I needed to stippulate I wanted only sisters to contact me. I even said that if a brother could ask a sister to e-mail me on his behalf I would resopnd to him. I don't know Islam past my little spot on the globe but where I am sisters do not "hang out" or interact with the brothers unless it is necessary. This also goes for on the internet. All I am asking for is a little courtesy. I don't want to seem like I am being cold or discrimnate but I have not been a muslim for very long and if it is not right to do something, then I do not want to start adding sins to my book so soon.
    Jazakum Allahu Khairan,
    Sister Zaharah
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 07:58 PM

    Salam Alakuim!

    I'm new here and i really want 2 make new Muslim friends! u can mail me at id really love 2 talk 2 everyone and anyone!


  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 04:46 PM

    In the name of God, the Merciful, the Compassionate.

    There are many ways leading to Almighty God; all of these true ways have been derived from the Qur'an, but some of them are safer, and more comprehensive and lead to the destination more directly than others. The way I have derived from the Qur'an by my own defective understanding, depends upon a man's perception and confession of his helplessness and poverty before God's Might and Riches, and upon affection and reflection.

    Man's perception and confession of his helplessness is a way as sure as the way of love of God, or even safer than that, since it elevates a man so as to be loved by God on account of sincere devotion to Him. Man's perception and confession of his poverty or inadequacy leads to the Divine Name, the All-Merciful, Affection is more effective than love and leads to the Name, the All-Compassionate. Reflection is more bright and comprehensive than love and leads to the Name, the All-Wise.

    This way of ours is unlike some Sufi Orders which have conceived ten steps to purify and sharpen ten outer and inner senses or faculties of man, and whose members prefer silent recitation of God's Names. It is equally unlike others which have adopted public recitation and seek to enable man to purify himself from all the defects contained in the seven stations of the soul.

    Our way consists of four steps, and, rather than being a tariqa, it is Shari'a, or the truth itself. The fundamental principles of this way consist in following the Sunna, performing the religious obligations, avoiding the heinous, major sins, and in performing the five prayers properly, and in reciting litanies of praise to God after every prayer.

    The first step of this way finds its expression in the verse, Do not justify and hold yourselves as sinless.

    The second step is indicated by the verse, Be not as those who forget God and so He caused them to forget their own selves.

    The third step is pointed to by the verse, Whatever good visits you is from God, whatever evil befalls you is from yourself.

    The final step is shown by the verse, All things perish except His Face and His good pleasure.

    The following is a brief explanation of these four steps:

    The first step

    Man must never regard himself as infallible, and sinless, since he loves himself first on account of his commanding self, thus he will sacrifice anything to satisfy it. He praises himself as though he were a god, and holds himself to be free from every defect. He endeavors to prove himself free from guilt and defends himself with so much insistence that you would think him full of self-love. Furthermore, he exploits the faculties entrusted to him for giving praise and thanks to God, to the glorification of his own self, and thus becomes referent of the verse, who takes as his god his own desires and fancies. He praises himself, relies upon himself, and admires himself. A man can purify himself in this step only by regarding himself as fallible, liable, even susceptible, to error.

    The second step

    As the verse, Be not as those who forgot God (and so He caused them to forget their own selves teaches, man is oblivious of himself, and is not aware of himself. He will never want to remember death, although he will always consider others to be mortal. He holds back at the time of bearing hardships and rendering services, but considers he should be the first to receive the reward at the time of collecting fruits. A man can purify himself at this step by discharging his responsibilities, and being prepared for death, and by forgetting any reward he might obtain.

    The third step

    As the verse, Whatever good visits you is from God, whatever evil befalls you is from yourself teaches, the evil-commanding soul always ascribes good to himself and feels conceited, whereas in reality he should perceive his defects and insufficiency and give thanks to God and praise Him for whatever good he is able to do. According to the meaning of the verse, Prosperous is he who purifies it, his purification at this step is possible by knowing his perfection to lie in confession of his imperfection, his power in perception of his helplessness, and his wealth in acceptance of his essential poverty and inadequacy.

    The fourth step

    As the verse, All things perish except His 'Face' and His good pleasure teaches, man under the influence of his evil-commanding soul considers himself to be completely free and existent in his own right. Furthermore, he goes so far as to claim divinity for himself and rebels against his Creator, Who alone deserves to be worshipped. He can save himself from this perilous situation only by perceiving the truth that everything is, with respect to its own self, essentially non-existent, contingent, ephemeral and mortal, and that only on account of being a mirror reflecting the Names of the Majestic Maker and responsible with various duties is man existent, experiencing and experienced.

    Man can purify himself in this stage by perceiving that his existence lies in confession of his essential non-existence. He must know that when he considers himself to be self-existent, he falls into the darkest pit of non-existence. In other words, if he relies upon his personal existence, ignoring the Real Creator, then his ephemeral, firefly personal existence becomes drowned in the infinite darkness of non-existence. If, on the contrary, he abandons pride and egoism, and recognizes that he is nothing but a mirror in which the Real Creator manifests Himself, then he attains to infinite existence. Thus, because he has discovered the Necessary Being, the manifestations of Whose Names cause all things to come into existence, he is counted to have found everything.

    This way is the method of affection and reflection, and the individual's recognition of his own incompetence and insufficiency.

    This way leads to its objective rapidly since it is the easiest and most direct way, and consists of four stages only. A man's recognition of his incompetence leads him to rely upon God alone, once he has succeeded in freeing himself from the influence of his commanding self. Love, which is regarded as the quickest route, can lead to the true Beloved only after it is freed from the false ephemeral beloved.

    This method is safer than other ways, since instead of leading a man to utter boastful words, and make false claims, it obliges him to recognize his incompetence and to ascribe all his defects to himself.

    This way is a main 'highway', much broader and more universal. For, in order to attain to a constant awareness of God's presence, it requires neither the denial nor the ignoring of the actual existence of the universe, as is demanded by those who believe in the 'Unity of Being' (Wahdat al-Wujud) or 'Unity of the Witnessed' (Wahdat al-Shuhud). Instead, it admits the actual existence of the universe as proclaimed in the Qur'an, by ascribing it directly to the Majestic Creator. It considers all things as mirrors in which manifestations of the Divine Names are reflected, and does not consider the creation as self-existent and self-perpetuating but as manifestations of His Names and accordingly devoted to His service. It saves man from heedlessness to make him always aware of God's presence by opening up a way to Him through everything.

    In short: This way considers beings as neither existent nor working on their own behalf, rather, beings function, according to this way, as signs and officials of God, the All-Mighty.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 01:48 PM

    As-salam alicom.,
    This is an important proposal of marriage may be good for muslim families,or muslim women or convertsliving in U.S,Canada.,Australia,Newzeland or Europe.,or for muslim families of Arabic origin living in these countries.
    This proposal could be good for fathers or mothers looking for suitable husband for to
    This is my proposal in clear words..,
    I'm A.F.,22yo,muslim Egyptian.,doctor of veterinary medicine(newly graduate in fact.)
    I'mlooking for a new begin in my life so,I'm planning for migration to one of the above mentioned countries,then equalize my Egyptian certificate(BSc in veterinary medicine)and then work as a vet.
    Working as a DVM is a good job can offer a very good income in sha allah.
    The begin will be deficult I suppose(as I own only my Egyptian certificate and great expectations)
    So, my proposal frankly is for ¿¿.
    A muslim family looking for a suitable husband for their daughter(with a good future in sha alah)and ready to offer me a generous help to begin my life till I'm able to continue it with my wife.
    Converted muslimah who is looking for a pious man with good future and carrier in sha allah.

    If anyone want to know about me ,he/she can contact me on my e-mail
    and.. may alah inforce his will and inspires us with the good for our life and creed
    thank you
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 11:50 AM

    Hi again ...
    I got it for the email use ;-) I was such in a hurry yesterday ;-)
    I still would like to know about the correspondance between "baccalaureat"+5years degree ("ingénieur") and US level... Thanks in advance.
    I appreciate the answer of Afrikan4life to Patty, especially because, even if I share most of my time with muslim people, I was not born in this religion. But if we consider muslim means "believer", so I am one of yours ;-)
    even if I don't pray and so on... I try to be a good person, and to open my heart: most of the time it works, believe me ;-)
    I am interested in contacts with people from all around the world, and think to learn more about India, Pakistan and this area...
    Excuse my english... I am french ! nobody is perfect ;-)
    take care
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 05:38 AM

    Welcome 2 our muslim world "Patty" Is our duty as muslims to welcome everybody. In islam, we are thaought to love everybody, and live happyly ever. We don't hate nobody,unfortunatly some people use islam as a way of making it look bad. I am sure u know what i am talking about. I am sure, da owner of da site wont mind u bien here, as long as u are fair and nice to others. (which i am sure u are) I thing that is one of da reason we have this site. To respect one onther and share Ideas. Islam is great and we get alone very well with non muslims too. Although it seems to be so much confusion in this world now a days. Anyways, i just want welcome u, as in, individual. Hope u enjoy your stay. God bless us all.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 03:19 AM

    aslam o alaikom
    brothers & sisters. this is no doubt a good web site but in registeration why do ther ask for wieght hight etc what do they have to do with that? i want to know the answer of this question, realy.
    khuda hafiz
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 10, 2002 at 02:45 AM

    Assalamualaikum, I support what our friend alirizvi has mentioned with regards to being careful about touching on the various fatuas which only the learned muslims should discuss. We must not allow our emotion to rule this dicussion board and try to be in the ambit of the Islamic Law based on the current trend after the famous 9/11 incident many non muslims from all over the world try to provoke Muslims as bybarians, terrorists and so on and so forth. There is great possibilities materials posted and read here are originated by these anti Islamic Movement. It is immperative to note that our brothers and sisters in Plastine is the receiving end of Jewish tactic to oust the Arab Muslims from their own country and with Bush cinical war trongged policy is like adding fuel to fire.
    It's high time for all Mudslims to return to the right path towards Allah Blessings and where ever you are practice the Sunnah of Rasulullah that brings humanity to the world in the six principal of Tabligh.

  • View author's info Posted on Jul 09, 2002 at 05:15 PM

    Hi everybody... I am new here and would like some quick help on email services: where can I check my email box (sent and received messages)? This seems to be a silly question but if I don't dare, it will be hard to communicate ;-)
    Something else... I studied in France and got a "baccalaureat"+5years degree ("ingénieur")... could someone tell me to which levelm it corresponds in order to update my personnal data ?
    Thanks in advance, wishing to meet nice people from the deep of my heart
    Leïla Saïda
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 09, 2002 at 02:40 PM

    I think its great that muslims can meet each other on this website but I don't understand why we must give information about our physical descriptions in our profile. There are no quiestions about personality and I wear a hijab and doon't feel comfortable mentioning my hair color. Isn't that wrong?
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 09, 2002 at 08:06 AM

    I received by e-mail the suggestion of this web site, so here I am: am I really the only not muslim here?!... Well, I hope you will welcome me anyway!
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 10:47 PM

    This place really needs a chatroom its easier to talk to people once your able to get to know them better, this place just doesn't work its hard to meet people and get clear replies, so I really suggest a chatroom!!
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 07:59 PM

    I have a suggestion for administrator of this website, start a section for muslim students from all over the world so that they can help each other share there knowlege help them to get schlorship for there study and those who are in good university in USA and UK help your brother to get admission in you university, help them to get part time job , recommend them to u'r teachers and help them to get teaching assistenceship and all. Make a search technique so that we can search those who r student in different field and help each other

    allah hafiz
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 07:40 PM

    Dear Brothers and Sisters In Islam,
    In the name of Allah, the Most merciful and beneficient. May Allah's blessings be on Prophet of Islam and his PURE progeny. Ameen.
    Please kindly make sure all massages post on this site should be scaned and if need be should be filtered, due to the fact that there might be others in here who will use this service against ISLAM and it's teachings. This is just a suggestion and l hope you will fellow thru, cus it is inportant to spread true ISLAM, with the right and workable enviroment.
    Was Salaams and blessing of Allah be with our Imamas and the pure and choosen people of Allah. Ameen
    Kind Regards
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 06:56 PM

    I'm a girl from Albania.My name is Denada and I want to know new muslim friend all over the world.
    In my opinion,this is a fantastic website.
    Allah bless you.
    From your sister
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 02:00 PM

    Assalamu'alaikum wr wb wm
    Dear Bros and Siss

    It is nice being meeting all of you here. I would like to share this story with you all. Hope you will be able to get the moral of the story by your goodself :)

    Please start keeping me in your prayers else you should know the status of your prayers without IKHLAS (me) :)
    The Room
    Author: Unknown

    In that place between wakefulness and dreams, I found myself in a room.
    There were no distinguishing features save for the one wall covered with
    small index card files. They were like the ones in libraries that list
    titles by author or subject in alphabetical order. But these files,
    which stretched from floor to ceiling and seemingly endlessly in either
    direction, had very different headings. As I drew near the wall of
    files, the first to catch my attention was one that read "People I Have
    Liked." I opened it and began flipping through the cards. I quickly shut
    it, shocked to realize that I recognized the names written on each one.

    And then without being told, I knew exactly where I was.

    This lifeless room with its small files was a crude catalog system for
    my life. Here were written the actions of my every moment, big and
    small, in a detail my memory could not match. A sense of wonder and
    curiosity, coupled with horror, stirred within me as I began randomly
    opening files and exploring their content. Some brought joy and sweet
    memories; others a sense of shame and regret so intense that I would
    look over my shoulder to see if anyone was watching.

    A file named "Friends" was next to one marked "Friends I Have Betrayed."
    The titles ranged from the mundane to the outright weird. "Books I Have
    Read," "Lies I Have Told," "Comfort I Have Given," "Jokes I Have Laughed

    Some were almost hilarious in their exactness: "Things I've Yelled at My

    Others I couldn't laugh at: "Things I Have Done in My Anger," "Things I
    Have Muttered Under My Breath at My Parents." I never ceased to be
    surprised by the contents. Often there were many more cards than I
    expected. Sometimes fewer than I hoped.

    I was overwhelmed by the sheer volume of the life I had lived. Could it
    be possible that I had the time in my 30 years to write each of these
    thousands or even millions of cards? But each card confirmed this truth.
    Each was written in my own handwriting. Each signed with my signature.

    When I pulled out the file marked "Songs I Have Listened To," I realized
    the files grew to contain their contents. The cards were packed tightly,
    and yet after two or three yards, I hadn't found the end of the file. I
    shut it, shamed, not so much by the quality of music, but more by the
    vast amount of time I knew that file represented.

    When I came to a file marked "Lustful Thoughts," I felt a chill run
    through my body. I pulled the file out only an inch, not willing to test
    its size, and drew out a card. I shuddered at its detailed content. I
    felt sick to think that such a moment had been recorded.

    An almost animal rage broke on me. One thought dominated my mind: "No

    In an insane frenzy I yanked the file out. Its size didn't matter now. I
    had to empty it and burn the cards. But as I took it at one end and
    began pounding it on the floor, I could not dislodge a single card. I
    became desperate and pulled out a card, only to find it as strong as
    steel when I tried to tear it. Defeated and utterly helpless, I returned
    the file to its slot. Leaning my forehead against the wall, I let out a
    long, self-pitying sigh.

    And then I saw it.

    The title bore "People that I Have Taught About Allah". The handle was
    brighter than those around it, newer, almost unused. I pulled on its
    handle and a small box not more than three inches long fell into my
    hands. I could count the cards it contained on one hand.

    And then the tears came. I began to weep. Sobs so deep that the hurt
    started in my stomach and shook through me. I fell on my knees and
    cried. I cried out of shame, from the over-whelming shame of it all. The
    rows of file shelves swirled in my tear-filled eyes. No one must ever,
    ever know of this room.

    I must lock it up and hide the key.
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 01:15 PM

    me new here
    hope u will join me here and i will cool to stay here
    rana ahsan
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  • View author's info Posted on Jul 08, 2002 at 05:29 AM

    AssalamuAlaikum brothers/sisters
    when I use this site I am not able to bookmark the persons whom I have contacted by mistake I am reapeatedly meeting the same persons again ringing round the bush round the clock
  • View author's info Posted on Jul 07, 2002 at 10:52 PM

    hi everyone i am new to this website but my friend told me about this website she told me to sign up so i signed up for it and when i put search it says zero results found but its ok.
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