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Posted on Wed, Mar 15, 2006 06:18

Bismillah,

Sharia doesnot Allow men and women to have friends of the opposite sex. A woman after marriage cannot have a male friend nor can a man who is married have a girlfriend. when people married couples come together then it is also forbidden to sit together,men sit with men and women sit with women. It is very clear that shaitan makes us of people who do not follow the sharia. Our prophet (saws) said when a man and a woman are in a room together shaitan is the third person there. so dont mingle only with your spouse.after marriage of course..... the one saying yes we can mingle with women and men can mingle they are astray they are far from Islam. dont make own opinion about islam that is not religion that is shaitan he said I will not bow to Adam(a.s.)made up his own rules. if you make up your own rules then your following the ego and thus entering the fire. May Allah forgive us and guide us to the straight path.



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Posted on Wed, Jan 04, 2006 08:57

this is to yazz20, i did not know that..nor was i told that when i had gotten married to a muslim man, and i was not converted yet. So that was wrong of him to do???



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Posted on Tue, Jan 03, 2006 15:32

Howard P, what u say is right my brother, muslim should marry only muslim, it is far beta in the long run. If a muslim and a non muslim marry it is the children that will suffer and be confused about religion.

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Posted on Tue, May 24, 2005 09:45

muslim men and women are not allowed to marry someone that does not practice islam. islam is what you've been brought up with and if you change that the day you meet non-muslim that means you broken the islamic principles.



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Posted on Wed, May 11, 2005 04:18

Salaam

I agree with Howard_P, that intention is more important.

You know within yourself if its a right thing for you to mix with the opposite sex or not.

Men who have a problem with mixing with women, should control there desires and emotions and learn to respect everyone irrespective of there sex, colour or race. You are a Muslim after all!

I learnt how to respect women more by interacting with them... and yes it all came down to respect and intentions towards others. Women are good teaches when it comes to respect and intentions, it is better to learn then be ignorent.

Its not good to be weak and let your desires for women over shadow your respect for them.

The problem is inside you, not outside.

You should have your desires and emotions in the correct place, ie submitted to Allah(SWT). And follow the simple rules that are given to you.

With bad intentions you will only damage your own soul.

Peace.



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Posted on Mon, May 09, 2005 08:24

wheh we have kids we will teach them both...but as far as when my child grows up either he will be a muslim or a christian only god knows that..as far as me i believe in my religion to much to go a different way..just lik a muslim loves his religion and stands by it..i will do the same for mine!

  


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Posted on Thu, Apr 28, 2005 09:55


Howard_P write:
The problem is how you are going to raise your kids. Are they going to be Muslim or Christian? Will you allow your husband to teach your kids something that you don't believe in? Will he allow you to teach them something that he doesn't believe in? In this situation your parenting skills will definitely clash with your religious beliefs and that could be a huge problem.

I have an idea. Since you love Arabic and Muslims, why don't you just convert to Islam? Problem solved.



I agree with you. if you marry a non muslim, how well you raise your kids? I mean either way it will cause a problem between the husband and his wife, and sadly it may end up with a divorce.



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Posted on Tue, Apr 12, 2005 08:07

Assalama alaikum all.

To answer the question should the sexes be mixing unnecessarily, the Islamic answer is no. However, in today's society we really have no choice (people must interact in the stores, work place, etc.) This is why a Muslima should be dressing correctly when going out in public (i.e. dressing modestly,not showing ALL of the family's goods, & not feeling she HAS to dress provocatively because others may choose to). No, I don't think a woman has to be isolated, nor does she have to be "running the streets" all hours of the night, unless there is a reason. This also goes for the Muslim brother also--just because the women @ your job, are not practicing Muslimas, doesn't give you the right to be leering & staring them up & down--read: "lowering your gazes..."

As far as Muslim men marrying non-Muslim women, Islamically it is allowed, yet it would create a problem, if both are really into their religion. Yes, children would be affected. Whose right/wrong? Mommy or Daddy? Whose going to hell/heaven, etc. That should be avoided at all costs. Now, if neither parents are practicing their deen, then maybe, the kids won't be affected--unless they growup and "choose a deen". Allah knows best



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Posted on Sun, Apr 10, 2005 12:29

The problem is how you are going to raise your kids. Are they going to be Muslim or Christian? Will you allow your husband to teach your kids something that you don't believe in? Will he allow you to teach them something that he doesn't believe in? In this situation your parenting skills will definitely clash with your religious beliefs and that could be a huge problem.

I have an idea. Since you love Arabic and Muslims, why don't you just convert to Islam? Problem solved.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 08, 2005 11:12

hello i just want to know what is wrong with a muslim man marrying and christian black woman? i am married to a wonderful muslim man and i love him very much he is my life and all i heear is that you should get a divorce .its not only from other muslims but also from my friends and other americans. we dont care what they say. but i just want to know what is the problem? thanks

  


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Posted on Wed, Mar 30, 2005 17:04

Wal-aikum-As-salaam muzayyan_al_islam,

Yes, the Quran forbids adultery and fornication, as I stated before. zina and fornication/adultry are the same. zina and intermingling are not the same. If you are intermingling you are not going near zina unless your intent is to commit fornication. But if your intent is not to fornicate, then you are not committing zina nor going near it.

Your intentions are always questioned in any act you engage in. Even if it's an act of charity. For example, if you are only using a charitable contribution as a tax write off it is not being charitable.

So I would have to disagree with you on this issue. But instead of saying that you are "without proper knowledge" I will say that only Allah knows who is truly correct on this matter. And I would warn you that calling halal as haraam is also "apostasy" in Islam.



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Posted on Wed, Mar 30, 2005 05:11

asalama alaykum wr wb

being out in todays society one can see the effects intermingling has, if it is forbidden to look at the opposite sex more that once then how can you justify intermingling, it is due to this slackness that islam is what it is today, at the moment islam is seen like a supermarket pick that which suits you otherwise leave the remaining on the shelf, what the Q'uran says that is what we should follow and one only needs to read and ponder on the q'uran to realise wether intermingling is forbidden or allowed



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Posted on Tue, Mar 29, 2005 03:51

Assalmaualaikum,

Intermingling of opposite gender in Islam is not allowed.

Thats the reason , women were supposed to pray behind men in seperate lines in a Mosque and Men had to wait until women left.

The words in Quran are ,
La Taqraboo Zina , which means , Do not go near Zina or fornication/adultery.

Observing the above words closely; we come to the fact that ALLAh orders us not to even go near Zina and not just not to do Zina, which means that , we must not even go to places where there is a possibility of Zina or fornication neither must we meet such people with whom we may commit the offense which is naturally the opposite gender. Similarly on this basis Masturbation and other improper acts are disallowed in ISlam, as well as intermingling of non-mahram men and women.

Please do not give your own decisions without proper knowledge as Calling a haraam as halal is apostasy in Islam.



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Posted on Mon, Mar 28, 2005 23:09

Salaam U.
Intermingling in the sense is something that is ambigous. We can intermingle, we cannot have premarital relations and courting, dating definately not allowed. But you need to speak to the opposite genders to know about them, learn them.. and in particular if a person you like see if you click etc.
So develop a friendship and learn the traits of that person before committing..!

Love can be dangerous so always good to be cautious.

Tooni



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Posted on Mon, Mar 28, 2005 23:05

Yes, Muslims are allowed to intermingle. But Muslims are not allowed to fornicate. Intermingling with people of the opposite sex is frowned upon by many Muslims because it can lead to fornication. But we should never forget that the sin is in fornication, not intermingling.

Love can certainly exist before marriage. This is why many people get married in the first place. And if you marry someone whom you do not love, you may wind up getting a divorce, which is also frowned upon by many Muslims (but it is allowed in Islam). But if you get to know the person before you marry them you can better decide if they are the right one for you.

You shouldn't consumate the relationship until after you are wed. But you should definitely have some kind of communication because as everyone knows, communication is the single most important part of any good relationship.



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