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Posted on Mon, Jan 16, 2006 03:56

Call me a bad Muslim, or just call me human, but I wouldn't allow it. I feel that for every woman there is one man, and *vice versa*. Any man who doesn't agree won't be marrying me. My man told me that if another man ever touched me, he would "kill him." I told him I feel the same way. Just the thought of him being with another woman drives me insane, so I say, "Absolutely not!"



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Posted on Fri, Jan 13, 2006 16:55

Asalaamu Aleykum brothers & sisters
it isn't a bad idea to have 4wives brother Palestinian if u can treat them right and the accept each other and u may have more mujaheddin sons. Every male isn't a courage man, honest as our PROPHET MOHAMMED (pbuh)but if THE MIGHTY GOD sent u 4sisters who respect and love
SUMHANALLAH whom I'm to refuss that gift.

AND SISTER EMNA IT ISN'T SO BAD TO HAVE 4 SISTERS LIKE U

OBS: But now one is more then enought for me.

Wa aleykuma salaam wr wb.

  


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Posted on Thu, Jan 12, 2006 21:22

Regardless! 4 wives is a bad idea, I "mentally" cannot handle it!

  


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Posted on Wed, Jan 11, 2006 17:13

well, just imagine 4 like me and u wont feel bad about it ;)



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Posted on Wed, Jan 11, 2006 14:36

asalamu aleykum brothers and sisters
It is a very interesting topic.
And i saw what some of our brothers & sisters wrote, but let me tell u as a married man and a father of a 2 young girls. It is not not not easy but if
u can manage 4 wives at the same time and truly be fair and honest,and support them every way that our profet
(pbuh) said your are more than welcome to do so. And don't forget the judgement day if you misstreat them.
But for me one wife and 2little girls is enough.

  


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Posted on Wed, Jan 11, 2006 09:53

i was sooo wondering....who would anyone want to have more than ONE wife now a days??? This is just not a sensiable question i think...i mean, back before there were reasons and circumstances im sure, for men to marry up to 4 wives, not just out of fancy....but then again... maybe. I am not sooo sure but i do know...these days...men have a difficult time dealing with just ONE women. lol. I am surely not trying to make fun and i am taking this topic seriously....kinda...but really what do people expect to hear when this topic is brought up in todays society???? just my thoughts....not to offend anyones elses. henna

  


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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2006 21:26

I myself cannot handle more than one, a maximum of two, three would be TOO MUCH, but four is a BIG NO, they will drive me nuts!



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Posted on Tue, Jan 10, 2006 18:15

prophet married more than 4 woman because in his time things were totally diferent,like there were wars etc. so those womens husbands would go to war and get killed and then the women would be left behind with kids... she couldnt protect herself from other man because she was a "widow" so the society would look upon the women differently so the prophet married more than 1 because he wanted take care of thesem women take them from the streets from prostitution etc.that is the only reason!!! HE DID NOT MARRIED MORE THAN ONE FOR HIS SEXUAL DESIRES!!! NOW I ASK ALL OF THE MEN HERE WHO WANTS TO HAVE 4 WIFES DO YOU REALLY THINK NOW A DAYS IS IT THE SAME AS THE PROHPHETS DAYS?NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO SO YOU CANT CANT CANT HAVE 4 WIFES......THIS TOPIC MADE ME ANGRY ESPECIALLY PEOPLE WHO WANTS TO HAVE 4 WIFES

  


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Posted on Thu, Dec 29, 2005 20:01

as-salamu-alaikum Ifill this topic is good because it will tell you that the one who say they beleive truely beleive.so this could be a test of your deen which could bring doubt and doubt closer to unbeleive than beleive in ALLAH and HIS MESSENGER sws. masalam



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Posted on Sat, Dec 24, 2005 21:59

Asslam-o-alikum,
I have read all of the above comments and i will agree with some of you. The creator's vision is the ultimate vision. If islam had been completed 1400 years ago and their will be no revival of islamic teachings then what was halal or haram 1400 years ago is still halal and haram.
Islam allows polygamy but its a limtited and conditional polygamy. I mean a male can have four wives (its limited not more than this at the same time) provinding that you feel the need and you can treat them equally. Islam doesn't say to fulfill every wife's every need but islam says to treat them equally and if you "Fear" you cannot treat equally then don't go for more than one. This is really a strict condition. But most of us only concerned whether polygamy is allowed or not.
In most of the societies first wifes refuse to accept second wifes only because of the cultural impact. I am from pakistan. I know in pakistani culture, its a matter of life or death for first wife to accept ur second wife. But pakistani culture is not islamic culture. Pakistanis basically inherited most of their cultural values from hindu culture.
If you fulfill the requirement and you are ready to take extra burden to be questionable infront of Allah on the day of judgement then You can have upto four wifes. Its totally legal and it will be till the day of judgment.



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Posted on Sat, Nov 19, 2005 12:03

Salam all, I agree with brother "dhaka123" and I can add that if we go back to Qur'an and read the verse correctly, we will find that there is a condition for that privilege which is the fairness. The meaning of "Fairness" as a condition 1500 years ago was different than the meaning of the word in the modern world, the understanding of the Fairness as a concept at that time was also different. This case is similar to the law of punishing the theif by cutting off his hand which was stopped during Omar Bin Al Khattab era for economical reasons. Thank you all, great topic.



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Posted on Wed, Nov 16, 2005 13:50

Hello there
I have read everybody's comments. There is certain rules /law in ISLAM has revealed for paritcular Situation.
There is always alterantives has been given to suits the muslim needs. This is because Islam is a flexible and modern lifestyles for human being. So the polygamy law / $wife at a time has been permitted that time because earlier days of Islam The number of MAle is reduced because of Holly war. To keep the Balance of the Society, this Law was neccessary.


Another reason , If you put milk from 5 different container to a big container it will be Difficult for anybody to seperate them exactly as before. Like this , Only woman can say who is your father.

So brothers and sisters, you can follow the islamic laws which most suits you .
As islam gives option to any man or woman can divorce ones partner.



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Posted on Sun, Nov 06, 2005 11:55

really im very intesed at you and ur ideas about life???



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Posted on Fri, Oct 28, 2005 11:24

sis 4m uni of hertfodshire gdluck i just graduated 4m there...any way back to the discussion of polygamy..bro haddi 4m sigapore and u sis in my opinion r correct but first of all if the man marrying again
is able to satisfy all his wives financially,mentally,physically,spritually
and so on then allah will make the mans life easier and he will then gain peace...
sis 4m uni of hertfodshire gdluck i just graduated 4m there...any way back to the discussion of polygamy..bro haddi 4m sigapore and u sis in my opinion r correct but first of all if the man marrying again
is able to satisfy all his wives financially,mentally,physically,spritually
and so on then allah will make the mans life easier and he will then gain peace...



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Posted on Thu, Oct 27, 2005 09:12

Assalaamu 'Alaikum and Ramadhaan Kareem sisters and brothers...interesting topic.
As a woman, I can honestly say that if I were a 'first' wife, then depending on the circumstances, I would not flatly refuse my husband a second wife. If a man who is already married asked for my hand and his existing wife/wives also approved, I would not reject him. The simple reason is that we are not permitted to make halaal what AlLaah has made haraam nor make haraam what AlLaah has made halaal. It all depends on indevidual situations I think.
May AlLaah assist us in our pious endevours, aameen.
Assalaamu 'Alaikum and Ramadhaan Kareem sisters and brothers...interesting topic.
As a woman, I can honestly say that if I were a 'first' wife, then depending on the circumstances, I would not flatly refuse my husband a second wife. If a man who is already married asked for my hand and his existing wife/wives also approved, I would not reject him. The simple reason is that we are not permitted to make halaal what AlLaah has made haraam nor make haraam what AlLaah has made halaal. It all depends on indevidual situations I think.
May AlLaah assist us in our pious endevours, aameen.



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Posted on Tue, Oct 25, 2005 10:28

salam ! yes you can have more than 1 wife ,but can u honestly love more than 1 woman the same?imagine 4 mother in laws in same room?
only reason Alah gave you men that right is cause the men that came before you abused it.never ever forget the verse in koran that says marry 1 2 up to 4 but if u fear u cannot treat them equally marry1!!!!!!!!!!!!.i personnaly would neevr share my man with another woman
Sandra2001
salam ! yes you can have more than 1 wife ,but can u honestly love more than 1 woman the same?imagine 4 mother in laws in same room?
only reason Alah gave you men that right is cause the men that came before you abused it.never ever forget the verse in koran that says marry 1 2 up to 4 but if u fear u cannot treat them equally marry1!!!!!!!!!!!!.i personnaly would neevr share my man with another woman
Sandra2001

  


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Posted on Sun, Oct 23, 2005 21:44

Well, v should follow the rules of NATURE.... hving more the one wife is not unnatural IN CASE.....one can make all of them happy, in every way of life.....
Well, v should follow the rules of NATURE.... hving more the one wife is not unnatural IN CASE.....one can make all of them happy, in every way of life.....



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Posted on Sun, Oct 16, 2005 06:44

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Posted on Sat, Oct 15, 2005 02:20

Polygamy is ok at all ages because as you know in Fact, If you learn about the mother-nature studies that the population of women are always as many than the men. Single women are many too than the non-single(attached)women in this world population.Do you want single women to be suffered by being a bad ones in the streets without being married?? or married woman feel selfishness and jealousy to their husband?? If the Prophet Muhammad(Peace upon Him) married to more than 4 wifes, then you accused Him as wrong deed??Where is your Islamic PEACE religion practices??Please to understand the nature movement. You can't against the nature but to unite with the nature and you will be safe and harmony.The NATURE are created by the Beautiful ALLAH and all the nature movement are His Will.

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Posted on Tue, Oct 11, 2005 01:50

Assalamualaikum wr.wb.Saajidah
I don't think polygami is good for everyone because it will hurt the first wife. It will be difficult for being fair and honest if someone has more than one wife's and it won't be good either for the kids who live with their parents.



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