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Posted on Thu, Dec 01, 2005 09:02

salam everybody. i'm fed up for marriage, don't know what to do, what to say, ain't it too tough? i'm 28 years old now, it's time to get married, but no matter how hard i try, i'm always the loser. maybe this kind of games only happens to the strange draculas who are like me. anyhow, just wanna know, how people get married in their lives? is marriage so much dramatical? or just i am the only person who can not figure it out. or it's better for me to give up, remain single for the whole life?



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Posted on Fri, Feb 22, 2013 07:10

only allah swt decides when we marry.i know its hard but we must be patient.i joined here in 2006 and within 3 minutes i met somone and proposed and within a month id gone to australia and we got married.serious!the first person i chatted to on here was my soul mate! allhamdolillah



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Posted on Mon, Feb 06, 2012 14:37

Hunubunifgh



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Posted on Sun, Jan 08, 2012 04:58

aslamu alikum brother's and sister's my alhamdullillah that you get marred to a Muslim brother but don't blame to the Religion of ALLAH and your Husband and say alhamdullillah

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Posted on Sun, Aug 14, 2011 17:09

I know it happend to me alot I cannot find true love iam jist looking for white muslim guy but I couldnot find one



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Posted on Mon, Jun 13, 2011 02:08

Quoting maryammuslim:

salam everybody. i'm fed up for marriage, don't know what to do, what to say, ain't it too tough? i'm 28 years old now, it's time to get married, but no matter how hard i try, i'm always the loser. maybe this kind of games only happens to the strange draculas who are like me. anyhow, just wanna know, how people get married in their lives? is marriage so much dramatical? or just i am the only person who can not figure it out. or it's better for me to give up, remain single for the whole life?



Salam, I noticed you posted this in 2005, I don't know if you are still active here,but I just logged in after about 5 years I think.

In Islam marriage is encouraged. The prophet married Kadija when she was 40 and all his surviving children are through her. He only had one wife until she died. Divorced and widowed women (and men) were encouraged to be married too which was what was practised during prophet's time.

I know a Mexican convert sister who found it hard to practice Islam there and she met her husband through a online Muslim marriage site and they are very happy now Alhamdullilla. Sometimes there is limited option for people to meet because of there country. So you can try this insha Allah - there are many sites - single Muslim is one of them. In Islam sincerity and intention is important and when you have the intention to please Allah and get married and take action to find your partner then Allah will help you too insha Allah.



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Posted on Mon, Mar 28, 2011 02:00

Dear Sister in Islam,

You are not alone feeling that way. Sometimes you feel as though you have done all that you could, but you still have not met the right person yet. Fret not. Believe in qada' and qadar, believe in destiny.

Love yourself no matter what the outcome is. Marriage doesn't mean happiness. Happiness comes within yourself.Remain steadfast in your du'a. Allah knows best and will lead you to him, at the perfect time.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 05, 2010 17:07

salamo alaikom, hello how r u? dont be so fed up by marriage, ALLAH TA'ALA will give u one.



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Posted on Fri, Jan 29, 2010 20:41

Hi, I'm 28 years old and I am not complain of my unmarriegeness at all because for me it's just God's way just He knows what to do. So just pray and Allah sweet gives you someone special don't worry anymore like that. If Allah (swt) wants to do you alone He does it in one second even if you married it calls predestination. You are young still and don't worry at all just pray!
And about me: I'm very happy person Inshallah Allah gives me everyday full of happiness Alhamdulillah! What kinda happiness He gives me: First of all I have good health I can see, I can eat, I can walk, I can feel, I can learn, I can talk and I am working and I can help. These all are happiness for me. And I thank God everyday for these items.
Respect and hugs,



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Posted on Thu, Dec 17, 2009 08:04

Hey Maryam,
Your post caught my eye instantly! I know it is so annoying, i just went thru one rather complicated situation. Oh well,
i am going to take a back seat for now:) all the best girl! for the guys who had replied, thank you for filling our thoughts:) Salam Alaykum



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Posted on Sun, Nov 29, 2009 16:38

Slamo alikom everybody,
Sister I understand what u r going through, I myself has the same problem, the trick is don't let desperation lead the way. The more you get despirate, the more u'll lose interest in your life and focus more on something only Allah knows when it's gonna happen.
My advice to u is live your life and don't think about marriage, trust me, when u stop thinking about it, u'll find him jumping into your life out of nowhere.Don't miss living your life waiting.
May Allah guide all to his mercy.
Wish you the best (:



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Posted on Thu, Sep 24, 2009 12:39

Thanks sister. I believe that Allah has this wonderful surprise for us one day. We are just too impatient we go after the wrong guys. If one did not get married until 50, so what!

what if in your life you are not supposed to be married. What will you do then? look at it this way and you will see how easy life will become and how patient you will be.
Pray Allah to provide you with the man that he thinks is better for you rather than the one you want.
This is the time to make your life better instead. use that time you never know who you will end up marrying.



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Posted on Sun, Dec 07, 2008 18:48

:) & sisters says there is something wrong out there with a religious guys :)) Thank you brother for useful & helpful post. Im gonna pray 2 rookats & inshaaAllah will ask Allah just about everything ..Salam Alikum



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Posted on Sun, May 11, 2008 10:36

I know what you mean, even though i,m in my early 20s iam ready for marriage. Unfortunately there is something wrong with these so called religious guys, which causes me to not only lose hope of ever getting married, but also dislike them.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 15, 2007 16:03

Salam Alaikum,

you can try praying "Salatul Hajjah"
well, i think we all need to.




The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaiyhi wa sallaam) said:

Whoever has need of something from Allah or any one of His creation, let him do wudu? and

(1.) Pray two rak?ah [Salatul Hajjah]
then let him say,


(2.) Dua . . .


(3.) Then let him ask Allah for whatever matter of this world or the Hereafter that he wishes, for it will be fulfilled.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 08, 2007 17:54

If you are too choosy you will hardly get a man as no one is an angel.

Your smiling face picture will attract many men. Try to put them on this site and then reply to all who write you.

If you follow these few tips you will be married in 30 days, insha-allah.



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Posted on Fri, Dec 29, 2006 03:41

hi marrium!!
well if u cant find one in china... try find some one from other countries and i think u will find 1 one day. dont be fed up.... why dont u try to talk with honesty first guy on this page may be he is the one. also remember Allah as made soulmate for everyone.

GODESS OF EVIL... should we talk as i would be intrested in talking with u



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Posted on Wed, Dec 27, 2006 07:10

Hummmm.. tats a tough question actuallyy... marriage is a name of relationship where u have to balance every thing some times u have ti sacrifice some times ur compaion have to sacrifice... i am 24yr old ony but tats wat i think... ur not a loser may be those guy were not the rite 1 for u and very soon u gona get a really nice guy.....try ur best..

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Posted on Sun, Dec 24, 2006 13:00

I feel you. It's hard because it's hard to let your guard down. I'm 28yrs as well and have been divorced for 8yrs.. was married very young. I see so many unhappy couples it freaks me out to even consider marriage. I always said I would rather be single and happy than married and miserable. And I also feel that our culture not religion is so quick to judge others. I feel because I was married ..have two kids no man would want to settle. Even thou I'm a wonderful person. So I gave up! I'm focusing on my kids ..who are my priority. So don't get depressed. There is so much more out there and a man. Just remember that no one can make you happy..because everyone can let you down except yourself.



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Posted on Fri, Jul 14, 2006 18:27

Salam

You are fed up that no man interested in you for marriage. You need to work hard. God says " I do not change condition unless you try" [Sura 13:11]
So try hard and hard, never give up. God never asks you to give up. Only Kafeers give up as only kafeers disobey Allah.
You should not be too fussy in choosing a man. He should be qualified, employed and God fearing. God fearing person will not hurt you, lie, cheat. So try to find a man who got these three qualities.
Reply to all winks, all mails and meet as many people as you can and pray to Allah for a nice and mature man.

Never give up; try and try. If you try God will give you, if you don't try God won't. { koran 13:11]



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