it seems that muslim men dont respect their wives or treat them as equals- is this true? I am not muslim - just want to learn about it. I personnally dont believe in having more than one wife.And if men can have more than one wife- can wives have more than one husband??? what is good for the goose is good for the gander-right? or no and why? what would be the difference and if taking more than one spouse- why bother taking one at all???