Due to current circumstances of our culture....wives and mothers are career women. Women spent same time preparing themselves for rewarding careers as their counterparts. Higher cost of living and boredom of a "homemaker" has made majority of women, an outdoor person. Now, unfortunately some of us muslim men, don't buy that freedom as a lifestyle after marriage. End result life transforming to full of blame and misery, for the couple and entire family.
Should "sharia" and rules of Islam should be adopted in this situation??? to make a marriage a smoother transition. Memebers with "Taqwa" guide us, plz. thanks and ALLAH hafiz
as salaamu alaikum,
sister caedere it is an nabi SAWS that said:"Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3272, narrated Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger was asked which woman was best he replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves." [Nasa'i and Bayhaqi, in Shu'ab al-Iman transmitted it.]
Hadith - Bukhari 1:832, Narrated Salim bin 'Abdullah ,also in 7:165
My father said, "The Prophet said, 'If the wife of any one of you asks permission (to go to the mosque) do not forbid her."
It isn't correct for you to fight your husband if he doesn't want you to work. Go to the masjid and interact with the sisters there, and let your children interact with the other children. When you marry your husband, he may have enough earnings that you don't have to work, that could change or stay the same, but you wanting to work just because isn't the way of the salaf. Not saying that it isn't permissible, just saying that it wasn't the way of the salaf.
Hadith - Bukhari 1:28, Narrated Ibn 'Abbas
The Prophet said: "I was shown the Hell-fire and that the majority of its dwellers were women who were ungrateful." It was asked, "Do they disbelieve in Allah?" (or are they ungrateful to Allah?) He replied, "They are ungrateful to their husbands and are ungrateful for the favors and the good (charitable deeds) done to them. If you have always been good (benevolent) to one of them and then she sees something in you (not of her liking), she will say, 'I have never received any good from you."
I am a working mother. It makes me very angry when men make ignorant comments about the fact that women should stay at home. In an ideal world the men would earn enough and the women would have servants....it's not an ideal world!!!
If my husband earned enough money I would still work because it gives me the opportunity to interact with other people and it's stimulating for the mind. Being at home all the time can be detrimental to the mother AND the child...believe me, I know!!!
My daughter loves the chance to play with other children, I have the opportunity to interact with others and we don't struggle financially anymore.
My duties as a mother and wife are in no way neglected as I still cook, clean and actually enjoy my time with my family so much more because no it's QUALITY time.
I don't WANT to work, I HAVE to work. As a single mother, my child's wellbeing depends on what I earn. I would not mind working after marriage, but I always do a double take when a brother insists that I HAVE to work after zawaj, "because life is so expensive here." I'm thinking, look, I didn't ask you for $1m home, can we just live simply and take care of each other? Someone who tells me that taking care of their wife and children, whereby the wife can stay home is for 'back home' and "the Prophet's time" is not a good prospect in my eyes.
Allahumme sali ala seyidina Muhammad
Very import issue.
First of All women's place is there houses this is not my saying but of the prophets (saws). When women work in an environment where they contact males it is not good for them.Also contact with Gayri-Muslims is prohibited. Seriah does not allow it but not much people nowadays do follow the seriah. when a muslima sits with a non-muslima she changes. Due to the fact that women are unstable they take each others mentality.
I ll give you an example of the sahabes(ra.an.ecmain). when the Meccan's made hijra to Medina. The women of Mecca had good behavior as soon as they teamed up with the ansar(helpers) the Meccan women changed radically and even our prophets Wife's turned against him. So Allah revealed the verses:
[33.28] O Prophet! say to your wives: If you desire this world's life and its adornment, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing
[33.29] And if you desire Allah and His Apostle and the latter abode, then surely Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a mighty reward.
[33.30] O wives of the prophet! whoever of you commits an open indecency, the punishment shall be increased to her doubly; and this IS easy to Allah
brother make hijra to a Muslim country is advise I can give.Allah knows best
i agree that if a wife works because of helping her husband then its very good and if someone critisize them let them do it.every one know that how hard is life nowadays specialy in europe countries.its very hard to survive on just husbands earning if you have to pay rent or mortgage,bills,tax,provide everything to wife and children.and like this what hapend mostly it cause stres between husband and wife which effect there children.i dont think that there are majority of womans who have that much money to open there own buisness and even if they open there own buisnes then there is no garenty that there buisness will be success.so if a wife want to help her husband financialy then its mean she loves her husband and want to be hapy with him.may allah help us all (amin).
If a brother could support his wife and his children on his pwn then i agree with you 100% but you tell me who can do in todays world what is wrong if the woman goes and works she is heplng her husband. I think if a husband and wife are in agreement they both work then there is nothing wrong with that.
Actually, our mother -Khadijah ra- already gave a good example. She was a business woman. She don't have to go to office for long hours.
If we want to make money without living home for a long time, why don't we try to be businesswoman?
I already did and it works. I only left home 3-4 times a week, not more than 6 hours a day.