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Posted on Thu, May 19, 2005 15:15

i was surfing and i come accross a site that was saying isalmic dating!!
wow what the hil is that???
there is no dating in islam// and it sounds like isalmic liquire!!
or u can call it halal pork!!
what is happening to these guys all they can see is doller sign and nothing else
Astakhforolaahhhhhhhhhhhh
may allah show them the way.



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Posted on Mon, Jan 19, 2009 22:10

Quoting Diah:

Salaam Brother,
I do agree with you. Actually, there is no dating in Islam such as going out with someone who is not your Muhrim. In few Islamic country, to avoid this dating, there is marriage arrangement tradition. Dating is not tradition in Islam. I think. It's really western way of life. The technology information brought or might change/influence the tradition/culture or the way of people life including Muslim. It's up to the people. Diah/Jakarta/Indonesia



I really agree ma'm. The time changes & this type of things enter into every religion.

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Posted on Tue, Sep 13, 2005 20:35

Brother & Sisters dating is Haram.

I agree with those who believe in Islam/Quran/Sunnah.



"He says that We have created the heavens and earth and all that is in between (the universe) as a reality for a limited period (the main purpose being that every action should produce appropriate results ~ 45:22). However, people who refuse this reality turn away when they are told that their wrong attitude will bring destruction on themselves."



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Posted on Sun, Sep 04, 2005 20:28

Salaam Brother,
I do agree with you. Actually, there is no dating in Islam such as going out with someone who is not your Muhrim. In few Islamic country, to avoid this dating, there is marriage arrangement tradition. Dating is not tradition in Islam. I think. It's really western way of life. The technology information brought or might change/influence the tradition/culture or the way of people life including Muslim. It's up to the people. Diah/Jakarta/Indonesia



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Posted on Sat, Aug 27, 2005 10:51


Magikangel write:
exactly...where in hte quran does it say dating is haram?? plus how are u supposed to get to know someone if u don't see htem a couple of times??? it's totally classical 2 make up our own rules...just because you were always told by your parents that dating is against the relisgion doesn't mean it is..i have asked a shiek...


AOA sister
i dont agree with you because first of all to talk to each oter you dont have to see and to know each oter u dont have to see also by the way islam dose give the womens pemision to talk to men from behind the wall and secondly islam dose say that women shold not face the men and as a haddith say that
once a sahaba came to c prophet Muhamud P.B.U.H . At that time Muhamad P.B.U.H was with his niece or daughter i m not sure about that but he P.B.U.H ordered them to leave they said taht the sahaba is blind so y should we worry but hazart P.B.U.H said that he is blind but you are not so go and they left.



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Posted on Thu, Aug 25, 2005 18:49

How can you say dateing is not Haram when there is a man and a female together alone there devil is there ready to play mind games you need more education in this sister.

  


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Posted on Fri, Aug 12, 2005 11:02

"Dating" as it is currently practiced in much of the world does not exist among Muslims -- where a young man and woman (or boy/girl) are in a one-on-one intimate relationship, spending time together alone, "getting to know each other" in a very deep way before deciding whether that's the person they will marry. Rather, in Islam pre-marital relationships of any kind between people of the opposite sex is forbidden.

The choice of a marriage partner is one of the most important decisions a person will make in his or her lifetime. It should not be taken lightly, nor left to chance or hormones. It should be taken as seriously as any other major decision in life - with prayer, careful investigation, and family involvement.

So in today's world, how do young people manage? First of all, Muslim youth develop very close friendships with their same-sex peers. This "sisterhood" or "brotherhood" that develops when they are young continues throughout their lives. When a young person decides to get married, the following steps often take place:

Young person makes du'a for Allah to help him or her find the right person

The family enquires, discusses, and suggests candidates. They consult with each other to narrow down potential prospects. Usually the father or mother approaches the other family to suggest a meeting.

Couple agrees to meet in chaperoned, group environment. Umar related that the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said, "Not one of you should meet a woman alone unless she is accompanied by a relative (mahram)" (Bukhari/Muslim). The Prophet (peace be upon him) also reportedly said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman, Satan (Shaytan) is the third among them" (Tirmidhi). When young people are getting to know each other, being alone together is a temptation toward wrongdoing. At all times, Muslims should follow the commands of the Qur'an (24:30-31) to "lower their gaze and guard their modesty...." Islam recognizes that we are human and are given to human weakness, so this rule provides safeguards for our own sake.

Family investigates candidate further - talking with friends, family, Islamic leaders, co-workers, etc. to learn about his or her character.

Couple prays salat-l-istikhara (prayer for guidance) to seek Allah's help in making a decision.

Couple agrees to pursue marriage or part ways. Islam has given this freedom of choice to both young men and women - they cannot be forced into a marriage that they don't want.
This type of focused courtship helps ensure the strength of the marriage, by drawing upon family elders' wisdom and guidance in this important life decision. Family involvement in the choice of a marriage partner helps assure that the choice is based not on romantic notions, but rather on a careful, objective evaluation of the compatibility of the couple. That is why these marriages often prove successful.

  


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Posted on Thu, Aug 11, 2005 00:25

Assalam o alaikum... dear brothers & sisters in islam... again me here... I am a computer professional. waiting for ur replies... Jazak Allah



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Posted on Wed, Jul 27, 2005 01:31

Well I didn't read the whole discussion, but i wanted to answer to the first person, who said about halal dating. Dear tell me why you always remain focused on negative points, common brother take away this negative thinking from your mind, and think always positive, and try to advertise the positive things, and so that even if some one is here for negative stuff or un-islamic stuff, he should understand by heart, and get impressed by your positive attitude. Remember this is the only flaw in most of the Muslim that they always think as a critic to any positive development and this is why now a day we are alone. The reason we never go for long term planning, never try to impress the people by our positive attitude, but always scared the people by shouting and criticizing. If we have to excel in this word we have to change our attitude to the life and to the people by 180 degree. We have to learn from our Holly Prophet searuth, how he tackles the situation. Never forced your opinion, try to share your opinion, this should be our attitude to any problem.
I hope in some sense I passed my opinion about your statement

regards



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Posted on Thu, Jul 21, 2005 13:04

Bismillah

Salaams...islamic dating whats next, halal pork :-p kidding kidding



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Posted on Mon, Jun 27, 2005 12:58

Wallaahul-musta aan!!!!



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Posted on Fri, Jun 24, 2005 11:39

ASsalaamu Alaykum,
Magikangel, u don't agree with what? The Qur'aan?



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Posted on Wed, Jun 22, 2005 10:18

salaam, PLEASE magikangel, COVER YOUR AWRA! SubhaanaAllaah, if u r a believing, Muslim, who's humble, then Wallaahi u should be humble before Alaah!!......if dats really ur photo on ur prophile...dont all u guys run at once 2 check out da prophile!!!

Maybe da bro o2004 would be generous enough to get u a shirt too!! but a jilbaab wud b better!

An-Nur - 24:31
And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like palms of hands or one eye or both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms, etc.) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Isl?m), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg All?h to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful. (An-Nur 24:31)



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Posted on Wed, Jun 22, 2005 10:06

salaam, magiKangel (by the way magic nullifies ones Islaam) About going out with a non mahram guy, well u know by the sunnah u aint meant to be going out, as in socialising with non mahram guys coz this dear, is otherwise known as free mixing. And that we know is haramn and i'll find u the proof InshaaAllaah. If u follow the Quraan u must follow the sunnah as it says in the Quraan, ...obey Alaah and obey His Messenger Muhammad (PBUH).

salaam



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Posted on Wed, Jun 08, 2005 09:13


muslimdude420 write:
there is no dating in islam// and it sounds like isalmic liquire!!
or u can call it halal pork!!
what is happening to these guys all they can see is doller sign and nothing else
Astakhforolaahhhhhhhhhhhh
may allah show them the way.



salam,

i couldnt agree with you more, its good to know that there are serious muslims who can talk out agains these unislamic actions. ma sha allah brother.

wasalam,
carib_girl



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Posted on Mon, May 23, 2005 17:18


muslimdude420 write:
i was surfing and i come accross a site that was saying isalmic dating!!
wow what the hil is that???
there is no dating in islam// and it sounds like isalmic liquire!!
or u can call it halal pork!!
what is happening to these guys all they can see is doller sign and nothing else
Astakhforolaahhhhhhhhhhhh
may allah show them the way.



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Posted on Fri, May 20, 2005 00:42

asssalmu alaykum 2 all bro n sis,
i just want to comment about wat muslim dating means?it's not dating as u go n see each other else where?is it?it just mean,u will search or find or exchange stories/ideas about what we really want to tell or express our feelings towards other muslims,do u think it's haram?



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