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Posted on Sun, Jul 17, 2005 01:35

I've rejected 3 guys due to my insecurity towards relationship.Itz hard to balance freedonm and the desire for a long-term relationship and romance.Im not sure wat r my issues...any opinions i cud use....



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Posted on Thu, Oct 12, 2006 02:20

salam people...

we should just keep praying and asking God to help us, and what ever happen (generally speaking) look on that as God's decision.
we have to be more patience and look for someone that Allah will be satisfied with, the one that will be our "ticket" for Jannah. ;)

salams...



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Posted on Fri, Sep 01, 2006 10:32

Well...talking about insecurity in a relationship. Tell me about it. Once a woman knows my status its either they are very curious or its, "hit the road!" Of course several were interested but alas I am not rich and the distances were great.

It is difficult for me to find a relationship. Insecurity? Yes...and i'm not a woman.



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Posted on Wed, May 31, 2006 22:56

if you want your freedom while you have islamic relationship you can perform tammatu' (fixed time marriage). it is halal.

you can find the law of this islamic legal relationship.

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Posted on Tue, May 23, 2006 21:55

assalamu'alikum wr.wb
be a good muslimah,we always pray to AllahSWT



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Posted on Mon, May 08, 2006 18:53

huda85_sag write:
I've rejected 3 guys due to my insecurity towards relationship.Itz hard to balance freedonm and the desire for a long-term relationship and romance.Im not sure wat r my issues...any opinions i cud use....

assalamu aleykum sister,
what is there not to be fixed. Do istikhara prayer for the person you want to marry. If we do not follow the sunnah of prophet Muhammad(saws) how can we call our selfs muslim.
insecurity with women is normal.Yet in these difficult times for men is the same.Thats why istikhara prayer counts as a solution. May Allah help us all.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 14, 2006 09:23

Salaams sister,

As muslims, Marriage is an obligation for us all. The 'trick' is to find the most suitable partner. The 'catch' is that you will never know until you commit and indulge. As people, none of us are perfect, so to choose the most suitable partner rests on you in deciding what character and personality traits are most important to you. The 'one' that ticks most of these boxes is that which should be most compatible with you. What you personally need to sort out is whether you are prepared to settle-down at all. Only seek when you are ready, as you have an obligation to be honest with any partner you embark a friendship or relationship with, anything less is a game. Much the same way that you would expect any partner to be honest towards you. Above all have faith that you will be fulfilling your Islamic duty to marry. Be secure in the knowledge that a pure heart and mind (Intention = Niyaat) is what Allah swt ultimately judges us on!

  


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Posted on Sat, Mar 18, 2006 17:23

Dear Brother

Salam to you. Can you contact me



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Posted on Thu, Feb 23, 2006 11:34

hi i m adeel frm karachi
h ru



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Posted on Wed, Feb 22, 2006 10:58

Relationships are difficult indeed. You weigh the freedom against the closeness and warmness of a relationship. It is when you decide that you can no longer remain alone and that you are willing to compromise, knowing each individual is different, has different needs, and one of the greatest joys I've found is giving, without any other motive involved. The smile says it all even if no words are spoken?



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Posted on Sat, Feb 18, 2006 02:28

Assalamualaikum Sister,

I hope you are in the best of health and iman by the grace of Allah.

All the suggestions by the other members here are very good. Pray Salah Istikharah to Allah and make Doa so that He will show you the right path.

I'm more of a problem solver, therefore, i would like to suggest something. Whenever you can't decide on something in life (ambivalent), and have prayed and make doa, then what you can do is what we call a cost benefit analysis. That is looking at the reason why you reject men.

What are the costs of rejecting them and what are the benefits you're getting from it. Because i can assure you that you're getting benefits from rejecting them. May be you feel safer, because it is scary to be in a relationship as you're open to hurt, pain, betrayal and other emotions. It can be scary for anyone.

After looking at the costs and benefits of rejecting someone, you can look at costs and benefits of being in a relationship. But you must be honest with yourself.

Then, you'll be able to clearly see the so called "issues" that you have about being in a relationship.

What are your values in life? What do you want out of life? Do you want to be with someone who loves you? If you do, then you know what you have to do to move in that direction.

You are doing great in moving in that direction as you already have a profile here and this is a great way to meet someone as everyone nowadays are busy with no time for social activities to meet people.

Just be brave and pray to Allah. Opportunities come only once and don't let go of a good thing just because you are a bit scared. How will you ever know what will happen if you never give it a chance?

Wishing you all the best and i'll be cheering you on.
Barakallahu Fiki.



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Posted on Fri, Feb 03, 2006 15:34

welllll frankly speeking.....most of ppl love 2 play with words including myself so hard 2 find true one wht else could i say ..........just wish ya best of luck........wht i really find ya u seems good one well just guess and guess often rong ....... well ok here goes free online advice u shud think frm brain (if u really have one) n take decesion frm heart........

  


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Posted on Tue, Jan 31, 2006 16:51

>>>Bismillah
Salaams

Women have a hard time nowadays because with new relationships often comes with too much baggage brought by men. Okay bring a grocery bag size of baggage but not your whole travel set!



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Posted on Thu, Jan 19, 2006 02:35

Iam Farrukh Ali Khan from RWP & want a sincere friend from somewhere near to me with whom i can share my feelings and temptations.
To personify legendary professionalism, as a part of an overall drive
To be a legendary human being.

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Posted on Thu, Jan 19, 2006 02:33

Iam Farrukh Ali Khan from RWP & want a sincere friend from somewhere near to me with whom i can share my feelings and temptations.
To personify legendary professionalism, as a part of an overall drive
To be a legendary human being.

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Posted on Thu, Jan 19, 2006 02:32

Iam Farrukh Ali Khan from RWP & want a sincere friend from somewhere near to me with whom i can share my feelings and temptations.
To personify legendary professionalism, as a part of an overall drive
To be a legendary human being.

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Posted on Fri, Jan 06, 2006 11:46

dear sister dont worry.you will find someone who will love you from his heart and give you security of relationship.allah made someone for you and you will have him may allah help you and give you (sabr and jamil)amin.



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Posted on Wed, Dec 21, 2005 09:10

Assalamu alaykum Ukhti Huda..



It's very important to choose and be with the right companion. Feelings come from Allah. Make abundance of supplication to Allah seeking his guidance to grant you the best companion in life for you in terms of spirituality and of course religious piety. Insya'allah Allah will guide you to him and makes you feel complete. Ameen. Have faith in Allah Azza Wa Jallah ok. Barakallahu feeki.



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Posted on Tue, Dec 20, 2005 05:00

Asalamu Alikum sister Huda,

All of our brothers and sisters gave you good advices; I would like o add something to this topic. You should take more time to decide for a boy. I observed nowadays girls and guys are ready to die for each other in just one week and this is not true. You should take your time and do not get in romance in the beginning of your relationship.

May Allah forgive me and guide all of us.Amen

FeamanAllah
Umar Farooq



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Posted on Tue, Oct 18, 2005 04:23

firstly have u ever been in a relationship, and has it gone badly wrong, if u help me to understand what happend imsure we can resolve ur insercurity issue. p.s i can relate to ur problem



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