We are allowed to live amongst Non muslims that is 100% certain as when Muslims were being Opressed by the Meccans at the early stages of Islam, Muhammad SAW asked a group of ppl to go and live in Absynnia (ethopia)with the Negus, who was a christian king and so was his entire country
You should act like a 100% muslim in front of your friends and let them see the beauty of Islam and they should want what you have. if you have to compromise any single thing, even your trousers above ankles for eg, then your doing it to please them, to fit in which is WRONG. as i know Many ppl who are Chameleons, who change depending on their surroundings of people.
So living amongst them is all good, but you know what they say in islam "you are the religion of your friends"
Literally true, you only hang about with ppl who you are like.
dont get me wrong i do have female friends, i know its WRONG, but inshahallah 1 day ill get rid of them!
but when your talking to any female weather it be on chatrooms, phone or in person, you need to remember that its not just you2, but you have your good friend Shaitaan with you, and remember Shaitaan is the most PATIENT on the face of planet, he will wait weeks b4 sidetracking you! and he will get you! if we really wanted to chat then would we not chat to the same gender? why does it have to be opposite gender? i would prefer to chat to them, cus i'm a WEAK, in the wrong muslim and inshahallah when i'm maried i know ill stop all female friends.
But bro imagine you asked a Mufti, "is it ok to talk idle talk to opposite gender" what would he say?
He would say "for what purpose or gain"
you would say for friendship
he would be SHOCKED at watching the shaitaan at work in us!
he would dissaprove right away!
I helped my friend revert Alhamdulillah after trying for 2yrs and being with her for 3yrs and when she reverted, the Moulana who reverted her to islam said we cannot talk idle talk no more, only marriage plans and nothing else!!!
but i know we cant, i do it, i'm wrong. all you need to ask yourself if you doubt what i say, is
Why the opposite gender? why not same gender?as we can understand same gender better, but its the flirtatous desire in us which makes us enjoy it more
lol --taken literally i don't think that we would get very far without chattin with one-another!!
In my opinion, I believe its all about intent, how can it be wrong to be friends with MUSLIMS from across the globe?
I spose a more interesting question is where to we stand with being friends with "the gorays"?!?! some of my closest friends are english and female, they respect me and my beliefs, but walkin down the busy street all I get are disapproving glances from the older generation...?
What does Islam say with regards to living in a kafir society? and how are we sposed to adapt this to our modern society??
i would expect it to be depending on your intentions, cus the time we pass on the internet we could be doing soo many useful things, The 1 thing that even the Martyrs will regret is how they wasted time and what about us?
but i'm no where near that mental state of mind but just saying it as i know of it, and i'm almost 100% sure thats a hadeeth, so i would imagine it would not be permitted to go onto chatrooms, cus what would we talk about? hows your day, what did you do, and then after a few weeks l8r the ever patient Iblis will get to work and you get side tracked HARDCORE.