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Posted on Fri, Oct 21, 2005 02:51

I know that marrige is sunna.and mashallah . it is a good thing.I read earlier that to get fullfil the islam ,or our religion,we must get married.What about the sofies,or derwis whom do not marrey????Will they not fulfill the religion completely.??
I know that marrige is sunna.and mashallah . it is a good thing.I read earlier that to get fullfil the islam ,or our religion,we must get married.What about the sofies,or derwis whom do not marrey????Will they not fulfill the religion completely.??



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Posted on Tue, Mar 28, 2006 01:04

Bismilahi Rrahmani-Rrahim

Salamu alejkum

The Suffi and Derwis are acting against the sunnah of the prophet alejhi selam. They are a sects which have gone astray.

There is a hadith what has been reported in the two Saheeh collections on the authority of Anas Ibn Maalik,radyAllaahu 'anhu, that a group of people went to see the Prophet sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, but asked his wives because they were not able to find him. So they asked his wives about the Prophet's worship ? about his standing in prayer at night, his fasting during the day and about his
relations with his wives.
The wives of the Prophet mentioned to
these men that he,sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, would fast and break his fast, and that he would pray at night and also sleep and that he would marry women.
Anas,radyAllaahu 'anhu, said: "When they heard that from the wives of the Prophet, they found his,sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, worship to be little."

So they made the following pledges to themselves: The first person said "I will pray all night and won't sleep." The second one said: "As for me, I will fast all the time and never go a day without fasting." And the third
person said: "I will not marry women."
Then that group left and when
the Prophet,sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, returned home, his wives informed him of what they heard from that group of people and the pledges they made to themselves. So the Prophet,sallAllaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, gave a khutbah about this in his masjid, saying: "What's wrong with these people who say such and such"(?) - repeating to the audience what these individuals who came to his house had said."This last person will not marry women. The second said he would fast everyday and not go a day without fasting. And the other one said that he will pray all night and not sleep."
So the prophet alejhi selam said:"As for me, then I am the most fearing amongst you of Allaah, and the most dutiful amongst you towards Allaah.
As for me, then indeed I fast and I don't fast"
- meaning I don't fast all the time. "And I pray at night and I also sleep. And I marry women. So whoever turns away from my Sunnah then he is not from me." End of Hadith.

And in another authentic hadeeth the prophet alejhi selam encourages marriage:
"Marry the fertile and loving woman, for indeed I will compete with other
nations by you, as regards to who has the most followers, on the Day of Judgement."

May Allah make us of those who adhere to the sunnah of the Prophet alejhi selam.! Ameen



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Posted on Wed, Mar 15, 2006 04:37

Bismillahirrahmanirrahim,

salamu aleykum,
sofis and the derwishes are the ones who follow the sunna with more awarenes of Allah (taqwa)>They are more eager to do as many sunna so it would not make any sence if they refused marriage because that would mean that they dont follow a big sunna like Marriage. In the past only big Evliya some of them didnot marry.But we simple minds must marry. Even if a sofie doesnot want to getmarried he can be ordered to marry by his Murshid.



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