i agree with sister fatimah...my farther in law has done the haj..twice my husband prays 5 times a day..yet still they think that it is OK to other ppl's daughters as a way to get entry in the other country...they think that it is their right...so what can a sister do if she is stuck in a situation like this...always being accused for things they didn't do always being told that their mother n brothers are no good...so how Islamic are these ppl despite being labeled as hajis?....how then do one go around and get a descent spouse for their son or daughter
How does one ascertain the deen of a person before marriage? Is deen determined just by the fact that the person prays five times a day, or that a muslimah wears the hijab? I know of people who pray and even go to the mosque on fridays but when they travel, they go to night clubs/discos and the muslimahs take off their scarves. How can we know if the person who proposes to you is the one Allah has chosen for you?
MECCAN_BEAUTY write: a smart man will look for religeon and a heart first! then the beauty..... one that is only looking for looks will end up miserable inthe end whene they are old ugly and dont believe in god!
Yeah its truits true..I cud see tat many guys wud prefer looks e..I cud see tat many guys wud prefer looks over religion nowadays.But in reality the beauty lies within not outside..Bear in mind guys..no matter how beautiful the girls r,they will b old one day coz beauty doesnt last but the faith in Allah shall last till death..
As salaamu alaikum
I married for deen alhamdulilah. The first marriage mashallah is strong and we help each other. The second marriage was based on deen for me but not for her, as a result we are no longer married walhamdulilah. My point here sisters is that deen is the choice for men and women. Personaly I don't see anything wrong with finding someone with deen and looks that you don't mind waking up to. Why? Everyone has rights that must be given.
Men marry women over beauty much faster then religion. But as one wise man once said... Beauty fades away but Iman is forever. So if a man marries for beauty and his wife isn't strong in her deen he would then be part of the losers. If he marries for wealth and she loses her wealth- he would then be amongst the losers. But if a man marries a woman for her deen- he will not be amongst the loser because She would then help him become even more stronger in his own deen.
Yes, I agree that religion is key to success in any relationship. It is my understanding that Allah(SWT) does not judge you according to your wealth or appearance, but he looks into the beliefs of your heart as well as what your deeds are.