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Posted on Mon, Mar 27, 2006 15:53

I am looking for advice on raising my children to be well-rounded adults. I had to divorce my husband due to his abusiveness to me and our children.
If I would not have divorced him the government here said that they would take our children. I was raised Christian, but I could never understand all of the conflicting messages in the Bible or in the actions of those who study it. I always felt that to much emphasis was placed on Jesus instead of God. To me this was worshiping another before God.I never felt completely at ease as I do since I have been studying Islam. I find it very comprehensive. I am not consumed with questions when I read, only understanding.
Any advice offered would be greatly appreciated on raising children. My children (8,5,2) are my life and I would like my life to be successful in raising them correctly.



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Posted on Sat, Aug 18, 2007 23:37

Assalamu alaikum sister,

I understand the struggles that single Muslim mother goes through. August 23rd will be two years since my divorce. The one thing I am very thankful for is a very good divorce settlement. It has enabled me to have very little contact with my ex (who tends to be disrespectful towards me, if given the chance).

If you have any questions don't hesitate to ask.

Mom to three



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Posted on Thu, Dec 07, 2006 23:20

Salams,
I am a mother of two (4 and 5 year old). I am raising my children as muslims as am one. My husband is Christian and not very religious. I am doing my best to teach my children aour religon and faith, but at times I feel at a lost because I don't have any other support to help educate my kids. I would love to communicate with you as one mother to another in Islam



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Posted on Wed, Sep 27, 2006 04:11

As salaam Alaikum Sister

May Allahtallah guide you on the straight path.

I would agree with all the above.
Knowledge in the deen for yourself and your children. So finding a mosque nearby for your children would be a start. And give them a lot of Love and praise.

Inshallah t'allah



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Posted on Sat, Aug 12, 2006 08:26

salaam sister wow!..Ur story is quiet impressing...well I'm nearer to Ur situation only prob is that i have 7 children...personally i dont think that only Islamic values help...we have to teach out children all religions coz we live in a multicultural society,...certainly i agree with the brother below that Ur children would ape everything that u do...and taking them to mosques and Islamic classes does help at the same time educating urself as well...however i have found that not only Islam helps u should have some idea about child psychology..i suppose that in some circumstances I'm lucky coz i have study ed it...did u know that a child doesn't fully understand the difference between right n wrong until they are 11?...surprising isn't it!...did u know that smacking a child around the head is abusing/insulting the child...we see it happening all the time!...when Ur children are starting their teens that's when Ur gonna need this..because be live me...trying to control a teenager who's hormones are kicking in is hell so u have to know where their coming from as well...but producing an Islamic atmosphere does help.



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Posted on Fri, Apr 14, 2006 22:25

Salam alikium,

I understand you delima completely. I too am divorced and have three kids that i am raising. My ex-husband takes very little part in their life, so i make sure that i do whatever i can do for them. I, alhumdullah, have the moral support of my family and without them i dont how i would have survived. If you have any question or want moral support, contact me, i would be more than happy to discuss many issues.



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Posted on Mon, Apr 10, 2006 13:49

HI.
WHENEVER SOME MATTERS BECOME US PUZZLED.WE HAVE TO WAIT FOR BETTER CIRCUMSTANCES.SO I ADVICE YOU THAT WAIT FOR GOOD FUTURE AND ASK GOD FOR STRAIGHT PATH WHICH BRING YOU AT SUCCESS IN THIS WORLD AND AFTER LIFE.
KK



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