I have been muslim now for 2 years. What i have found out about 40 percent of the muslim men i have ran into. they have tried to use islam to get me in bed or they have used teaching me the quran to secretly lust after me. I find that the muslim men today are not on the quran, they lie, have alot of sex before marriage, and abuse their power and become very controlling. Please explain to me where are the good muslim men at and why are so many men losing theirselves to the world?
asslamo alaikom sister ... not most Muslim men as you described .. it's rather most Muslim men YOU met thats all .. they are not true to their religion or to Allah .. I myself am 32 now and I'm a virgin and I never touched a woman more than hand shaking .. and I'm happy with that as I'm trying to be a TRUE Muslim ...
waalaykumsallam sister pagaly, please find books wrote by Syeikh Muhammed Naasir-ud-Deen Al-Albani, or Syeikh Abdul Aziz bin Baz, or Muhammed bin Saalih Uthaimeen, which is already translatted into english,and hopefully you can learn more in those sites
may Allah Tabaraka wa Ta'ala guide you
my sister, the right way of this religion is following how all the friends of Rasulullah shalallahu alaihi wassalam understanding the way of muslim (It's called as manhaj Salafus Shalih), learn it from hadisth-hadisth shahih (the true hadisth) and don't learn it from the dho'if and ma'udhu ( the weak hadisth and false hadisth), so every muslim and muslimah who's follow this way will know that men have to protect and honor women not to abuse them. So my sister, please, learn it and find the right way to understand this religion.
May Allah Azza wa Jalla guide us, Ameen
salaam brother aba mumin...does that mean that if a good women meets a bad man that's coz she's bad?...i know that there was no one b4 marriage in my life n none after marriage i to my knowledge have never commit ed a sin intentionally but I'm married to a man who married me to gain a citizenship...since being married to him i ha vent had 1 day of happiness...does that mean that I'm a bad women...i defiantly agree with the sister about men trying to make women be perfect Islamic women...then doing as they please with them
SubhanAllah and salaamz upon da Boloved Prophet of ours!.Ameen
aslamualaykum sister...after reading your statement it really got me crying (for a 19 yr old that is wierd)...but yeh i did...MashAllah Allah tala has opened da door of wisdom and da road of Pure Noor (light)...dont lose out on it...i firstly believe that yoy must be in a state were every around you is materialist and less of nature...the main gate is opened for you now we have to walk through da doors...yet their are so many of them...i would love 2 explain in detail as i used 2 have da same feeling about women...but then somthng changed...if you can let me know and i will explain...trutly Allah tala guides pray that we be with his Beloved in this life and hereafter...(yes i did say this life to i wonder y)...please if you wanna experience Islam purely in ur heart and around you u'll be amazed....InshAllah...(only doing so you gain the Nearness of Allah tala....please forgive me 4 my shortcoming...Allah bless us All...Ameen
First of all, you must be aware of acceptable Islamic behavior regarding
a Muslim man approaching a Muslim Sister. The Religion emphatically prohibits and regards the free intermingling of men and women as unacceptable. Several problems and conflicts arise when this taboo is broken. When I was new to Al-Islam, one of first things I was taught was the importance of avoiding voluntary social contact. It was explained to me that men are naturally attracted to women and vice-versa. For that reason, when you want to learn more about the Islamic way of life, get a knowledgable sister to teach you. Brothers are not to teach sisters in private. When a brother is attempting to inform a muslim sister, whether in the privacy of some secluded place, away from the sight of others, the influence of this natural attraction with create a problem for him and perhaps her too! The Qur'an teaches to "...Go not near to fornication..." This doesn't mean that all social contact between a muslim man and sister will lead to sexual intercourse. It does not matter how strong and faithful to his chosen life's principles he professes to be. If it becomes necessary for a private teaching session, she is to have a chaperone in her presence. this idea of a muslimah allowing herself to be privately tutored by a muslim brother of poor chararter is what is giving the Deen a bad name. What you need to do is study the Qur'an, Hadith, and life of Prophet Muhammad(PBUH) as much as you can so as to strengthen your faith on your own and while you are at it, study human behavior as it applies to personality traits and personal communication. Then you can do your part to reject these private and/or closed teaching sessions, even he convinces you the safety and innocence of such. Most of all, apply the fundamental principles of Al-Islam to your daily life, with due diligence. Then watch your faith increase as well as your Muslim awareness(consciousness). AS
Bismillar was Salaatu Wa Salaam Ala Raoolillah Amma Ba'du:
We make Du'aa that Allah rectifies the affairs and state of the muslims in America and world wide Ameen! But listenting to this situation brings sadness to my heart, but to find that this is the actual state of some muslims.We find these actions root back to the ways and actions of jaahiliyah(preislaamic times) When Then Messenger sallallahu alayhi came as a light upon this ummah to change and rectify the affairs of the ummah!As Allah says, In the Messenger you will find a good example." And that this guidance by the permission of Allah is what came as a purification for this ummah. So we seen from the people to whom accepted islaam change the ways from the ways of Jaahiliyyah and hold hearted submitted to Allah threw stages and degrees set my Allah. As our salaf said, " this ummah will not be rectify until it refers to its earliest part." This Ummah YA ibaadullah, will not be rectified until we leave off of the ways of jaahiliyyah and hold heartly submit to the Face of Allah like: AbuBakr,Umar, uthmaan Ali and the others from the exalted companions of our beloved Prophet Muhammad, sallallahu alayhi was salaam
Since being out of America for a while it really appeared shocking to hear a story such as this one. Here in Yemen the people value marriage and look at it as something very sacred Wahamdulillah!
To start a man should not be teaching a woman that is permissble for her to begin with. When a man and a woman are alone the third party is the shayton. Sister if you are really looking for a husband because in Islam there is no dating, There is no boy friend then you need to go to the masjid in the community that you live in and get a wakil. Or if you are really trying to learn them go to some classes or attend some of the lectures online.
Sister, salam alaikum. I pray to Allah to guide the heart of a good and sincere muslim man towards you, make him a cause of love, security and peace in your life, in this world and the next. Take care. Salam alaikum. Isa, London
It is sad to hear that sister. May Allah guide the muslims to the right path!
I don't know how and where you have met such men. But the real muslims do not stay alone with a muslimah that is not his wife, mother or a woman that he is not allowed to get married.
It is not allowed the mixing of sexes in Islam.
So I think you have met some people who just have muslim names and they are not practicing.
Fornication is one of the biggest sins and there is severe punishment in the hereafter for the one that commits fornication.
So a good muslim does not talk to muslimah at all, how come that he can try to take her to bed?
So I think you have met muslims that do not even pray.
And the problem is with you muslimahs as well, because we can find you everywhere. You see muslimahs working in the same places with man and they have friendship with their male colleagues and they talk to them and laugh to them and so on and so forth.
So muslimahs nowdays want to take the roles of the men and they are mixing with man and from the mixing of sexes will come only transgression.
If we don't get back to the real Islam, to the following of the Qur'an and sunnah of the prophet alejhi salam then the other ways we will choose will only bring about distraction to the ummah.
I am sorry to here this but please do not generalise. there are always good people out there.It "seems" you are fooled easily. You should always be on your guard regarding men.why because men's lust is strong.Inshallah may you find a decent husband.But saying 40% of muslim men are bad is not for you say it is not fact.
[24.26] Bad women .are for bad men and bad men are for bad women. Good women are for good men and good men are for good women