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Posted on Fri, Feb 24, 2006 18:01

C'MON PEOPLE, PLEASE HELP



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Posted on Tue, Mar 07, 2006 16:58

you forgot about elvis in las vegas.

might as well get married by mickey mouse in disneyland!

what a load of bollocks these people! lol!



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 09:56

if i knew then i would help. i was actually wondering the same thing so i was waiting for someone to respond..
hey people, someone out there has to know....
hey if i find out i will let you know..



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Posted on Mon, Mar 06, 2006 06:19

Brother, hope this info helps. The Muslim wedding requirement as explained in from a handbook on marriage issued by the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA).

1) The Wali:
A wali (guardian) of the bride is necesssary to represent her in concluding the contract. The wali is a male relative who would be her guardian if she were a minor, for example her father. However, if he is not available, a brother, uncle, grandfather etc. will suffice. If none of these exist then a Muslim ruler or judge, and if they do not exist then a prominent leader of the Muslim community

2) The Offer and Acceptance:
Both offer and acceptance must be explicit in mentioning the word marriage (or any other word in any language implying a similar situation). Both statements should be made at the same sitting, i.e. one party to the other.

3) The Bride's Agreement:
The bride must be agreeable to concluding the marriage by her wali. This agreement should be specific to marrying a specific man and all other conditions, if any, must be agreed upon also.

4) The Witnesses:
At least two Muslim male witnesses are required or one male and two females - all of them having reached the age of puberty and being of good character.

5)The Sadaq:
The Sadaq or Mahr (dower) is a required marriage gift given by the groom to the bride. It represents his commitment to take care of all the family expenses including her personal needs. Sadaq may be money or in kind, but it should be specified in its kind and quantity. It may be paid in full at the time of the marriage contract, or postposed until a definite or indefinite date in the future. That which is deferred becomes due upon divorce. The value of Sadaq can be anything from $1 upward (and must be agreed upon by both parties).

6)The Procedure:
1.Witnesses and guests take their seats.
2.The wali of the bride and the groom sit facing each other, close to the witnesses so that they can be seen and heard by the witnesses.
3.A learned man delivers a short ceremonial speech (khutbah). The Marriage Khutbah, is not essential; the mariage will be legal without it; however, it is Sunnah to have
4.Then the wali of the bride addresses the groom with the following words or something similar:
"In the name of Allah the Merciful, the Mercy giving, Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and Prayer and Peace be upon the Prophet Muhammed, his family and the companions.

I marry to you my daughter (sister/niece etc - mention the full name) whom I represent, in accordance with Islamic Law and the tradition of the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and for the Sadaq agreed between us." (details of the sadaq and method of payment may be mentioned).

The groom answers:

In the name of Allah the Merciful, the Mercy giving, Praise be to Allah, Lord of the worlds, and Prayer and Peace be upon the Prophet Muhammed, his family and the companions.

I accept to marry the woman you represent, in accordance with Islamic Law and the tradition of the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) and for the Sadaq agreed between us." (details of the sadaq and method of payment may be mentioned).

[This offer and acceptance should be declared in the presence of the witnesses, Allah is the best of witnesses. By this the marriag eis concluded and the bride and groom become husband and wife].

7)To make the marriage public, it is recommended to have a walimah.

8)The best way to congratulate the bride and the groom is to say: "May Allah make it a blessing for you and a blessing to you together with all that is good." - Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood



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Posted on Fri, Feb 24, 2006 17:58

so this is surely a stupid and ignorant question, but instead of asking my parents, i'll ask it here so everyone can laugh at my expense: ready to laugh? thought so.

from tv and the movies,we are all familiar with how weddings are supposed to work, christian weddings. throw in a rabbi and we have a makeshift jewish wedding.

my question is how do muslim weddings work? there is no walking down the aisle. does one propose on one knee if the wedding is not arranged? if you don't mind, i need details. thanks in advance.



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